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Our kids are depending on us to tell them the story they need to hear. Don't let your panic override that responsibility.

That we show them that we are trans adults and we almost invariably didn't have gender affirming care before puberty and we are loved and beautiful and happy. The story of trans joy and trans beloved community NEEDS to be louder than the story of trans suicidality today.

It is really important right now that we make sure our trans young people hear other stories than that. They hear "there is a future for you" & "there is community for you" & "you don't have to pass to be loved" & "not having access to gender affirming care before puberty IS NOT A DEATH SENTENCE."

Not having access to gender affirming care before puberty is not a death sentence BUT if we all uncritically repeat the fear that it is, the young people will take their cue from us on how freaked out to be, and they will believe that all they can do in response to Skrmetti is die.

And the non-profit industrial complex invariably describes gender-affirming care for young people as "life-saving" because the subtext is "if trans young people can't get puberty blockers they WILL kill themselves."

If a young person falls down the best response is not to go "oh no oh my god you're hurt," because then they go "oh no oh my god I'm hurt" and it makes everything worse -- the best response is to go "sick wipeout dude totally tubular" and high five them.

I am not a parent but I have parents in my life and one thing I have learned from them is that young people will take their cue from you on how freaked out to be about things.

Our peach tree is blooming.