Cate
@missymusician81.bsky.social
Doing an MSc EdPsych, AP Educator, 20+ years teaching, actually ADHD, child therapist, musician, artist, cat lover, allotment worker
I’m ok. I’m angry more than anything. I let him rile me and I shouldn’t have screamed in his face but the sheer insolence and entitlement of the man provoked me.
June 29, 2025 at 11:52 AM
I’m ok. I’m angry more than anything. I let him rile me and I shouldn’t have screamed in his face but the sheer insolence and entitlement of the man provoked me.
there was a culture in our generation that it’s all a bit of a laugh & that calling girls whores or putting hands up their skirt was ok. They learned it from their fathers & no one corrected it. wives turned a blind eye to the misogyny & infidelity.
June 29, 2025 at 11:51 AM
there was a culture in our generation that it’s all a bit of a laugh & that calling girls whores or putting hands up their skirt was ok. They learned it from their fathers & no one corrected it. wives turned a blind eye to the misogyny & infidelity.
True. You are right. Thank you
June 28, 2025 at 11:51 PM
True. You are right. Thank you
You are right Brett. It is wrong and illegal… but I know from painful experience that nothing would come from me reporting it. You know… his dad has a friend who is a mason who went to school with his uncle and was in young farmers with them 20 year ago and he’s a copper. Small rural town.
June 28, 2025 at 11:40 PM
You are right Brett. It is wrong and illegal… but I know from painful experience that nothing would come from me reporting it. You know… his dad has a friend who is a mason who went to school with his uncle and was in young farmers with them 20 year ago and he’s a copper. Small rural town.
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I allowed this man to make me angry. I screamed. What I should have said is
“I pity you. It must be frightening to live in a world you can never hope to understand & be bested by the very women you hoped to enslave. How demoralising. How emasculating to be outdone by those u feel are inferior to u.
“I pity you. It must be frightening to live in a world you can never hope to understand & be bested by the very women you hoped to enslave. How demoralising. How emasculating to be outdone by those u feel are inferior to u.
June 28, 2025 at 11:26 PM
I allowed this man to make me angry. I screamed. What I should have said is
“I pity you. It must be frightening to live in a world you can never hope to understand & be bested by the very women you hoped to enslave. How demoralising. How emasculating to be outdone by those u feel are inferior to u.
“I pity you. It must be frightening to live in a world you can never hope to understand & be bested by the very women you hoped to enslave. How demoralising. How emasculating to be outdone by those u feel are inferior to u.
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What an arse. What a bellend. What a disappointment.
At 44 years old I realise that the culture I grew up in is TOXIC. Women are not trophies or objects to be groped. Insular, white, privileged societies are often inbred, limited and reductive.
At 44 years old I realise that the culture I grew up in is TOXIC. Women are not trophies or objects to be groped. Insular, white, privileged societies are often inbred, limited and reductive.
June 28, 2025 at 11:26 PM
What an arse. What a bellend. What a disappointment.
At 44 years old I realise that the culture I grew up in is TOXIC. Women are not trophies or objects to be groped. Insular, white, privileged societies are often inbred, limited and reductive.
At 44 years old I realise that the culture I grew up in is TOXIC. Women are not trophies or objects to be groped. Insular, white, privileged societies are often inbred, limited and reductive.
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To look at people who were different from me with kindness & curiosity - not fear.
This man: touching me without permission, assuming my body is on display FOR HIM! Ridiculing my intellect, morality politics.
This man: touching me without permission, assuming my body is on display FOR HIM! Ridiculing my intellect, morality politics.
June 28, 2025 at 11:26 PM
To look at people who were different from me with kindness & curiosity - not fear.
This man: touching me without permission, assuming my body is on display FOR HIM! Ridiculing my intellect, morality politics.
This man: touching me without permission, assuming my body is on display FOR HIM! Ridiculing my intellect, morality politics.
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But I’ve ALWAYS been different. My mum was a feminist. So were my brothers & father. I was brought up to think beyond the village I lived in.
June 28, 2025 at 11:26 PM
But I’ve ALWAYS been different. My mum was a feminist. So were my brothers & father. I was brought up to think beyond the village I lived in.
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“You with your t*ts out flirting!” Growing up in rural Worcestershire this was my youth. Men taking whatever they wanted, doing whatever they wanted and saying whatever they wanted because “that’s how things are round here”.
June 28, 2025 at 11:26 PM
“You with your t*ts out flirting!” Growing up in rural Worcestershire this was my youth. Men taking whatever they wanted, doing whatever they wanted and saying whatever they wanted because “that’s how things are round here”.
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But it reminded me. It’s easy to become small to fit the culture you are born into. It takes courage & brains to step beyond and think, care and communicate with empathy, compassion & intellect.
June 28, 2025 at 11:26 PM
But it reminded me. It’s easy to become small to fit the culture you are born into. It takes courage & brains to step beyond and think, care and communicate with empathy, compassion & intellect.
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I’m sorry that you feel dejected & pathetic. I’m sorry you felt you needed to project that onto me” My world is bigger than his. My heart is more open. My mind more advanced.
June 28, 2025 at 11:26 PM
I’m sorry that you feel dejected & pathetic. I’m sorry you felt you needed to project that onto me” My world is bigger than his. My heart is more open. My mind more advanced.
But it reminded me. It’s easy to become small to fit the culture you are born into. It takes courage & brains to step beyond and think, care and communicate with empathy, compassion & intellect.
June 28, 2025 at 11:26 PM
But it reminded me. It’s easy to become small to fit the culture you are born into. It takes courage & brains to step beyond and think, care and communicate with empathy, compassion & intellect.
I’m sorry that you feel dejected & pathetic. I’m sorry you felt you needed to project that onto me” My world is bigger than his. My heart is more open. My mind more advanced.
June 28, 2025 at 11:26 PM
I’m sorry that you feel dejected & pathetic. I’m sorry you felt you needed to project that onto me” My world is bigger than his. My heart is more open. My mind more advanced.
I allowed this man to make me angry. I screamed. What I should have said is
“I pity you. It must be frightening to live in a world you can never hope to understand & be bested by the very women you hoped to enslave. How demoralising. How emasculating to be outdone by those u feel are inferior to u.
“I pity you. It must be frightening to live in a world you can never hope to understand & be bested by the very women you hoped to enslave. How demoralising. How emasculating to be outdone by those u feel are inferior to u.
June 28, 2025 at 11:26 PM
I allowed this man to make me angry. I screamed. What I should have said is
“I pity you. It must be frightening to live in a world you can never hope to understand & be bested by the very women you hoped to enslave. How demoralising. How emasculating to be outdone by those u feel are inferior to u.
“I pity you. It must be frightening to live in a world you can never hope to understand & be bested by the very women you hoped to enslave. How demoralising. How emasculating to be outdone by those u feel are inferior to u.
What an arse. What a bellend. What a disappointment.
At 44 years old I realise that the culture I grew up in is TOXIC. Women are not trophies or objects to be groped. Insular, white, privileged societies are often inbred, limited and reductive.
At 44 years old I realise that the culture I grew up in is TOXIC. Women are not trophies or objects to be groped. Insular, white, privileged societies are often inbred, limited and reductive.
June 28, 2025 at 11:26 PM
What an arse. What a bellend. What a disappointment.
At 44 years old I realise that the culture I grew up in is TOXIC. Women are not trophies or objects to be groped. Insular, white, privileged societies are often inbred, limited and reductive.
At 44 years old I realise that the culture I grew up in is TOXIC. Women are not trophies or objects to be groped. Insular, white, privileged societies are often inbred, limited and reductive.
To look at people who were different from me with kindness & curiosity - not fear.
This man: touching me without permission, assuming my body is on display FOR HIM! Ridiculing my intellect, morality politics.
This man: touching me without permission, assuming my body is on display FOR HIM! Ridiculing my intellect, morality politics.
June 28, 2025 at 11:26 PM
To look at people who were different from me with kindness & curiosity - not fear.
This man: touching me without permission, assuming my body is on display FOR HIM! Ridiculing my intellect, morality politics.
This man: touching me without permission, assuming my body is on display FOR HIM! Ridiculing my intellect, morality politics.
But I’ve ALWAYS been different. My mum was a feminist. So were my brothers & father. I was brought up to think beyond the village I lived in.
June 28, 2025 at 11:26 PM
But I’ve ALWAYS been different. My mum was a feminist. So were my brothers & father. I was brought up to think beyond the village I lived in.
“You with your t*ts out flirting!” Growing up in rural Worcestershire this was my youth. Men taking whatever they wanted, doing whatever they wanted and saying whatever they wanted because “that’s how things are round here”.
June 28, 2025 at 11:26 PM
“You with your t*ts out flirting!” Growing up in rural Worcestershire this was my youth. Men taking whatever they wanted, doing whatever they wanted and saying whatever they wanted because “that’s how things are round here”.
I haven’t been sacked but HR did get in touch a while ago which is why I stopped writing. Despite anonymising an anecdote and having no link on here to where I work someone made a connection and contacted my employer.
June 22, 2025 at 2:53 PM
I haven’t been sacked but HR did get in touch a while ago which is why I stopped writing. Despite anonymising an anecdote and having no link on here to where I work someone made a connection and contacted my employer.