i will check her out, but is that the answer "learn about investing" i feel like i'm "invested" but i don't really know what those investments are doing (or not doing) for me, and at what point I should access that money; if I have cash now should I be paying down my mortgage or "investing"

The bank was the last one I talked to who told me to open the IRA but didn't really explain why or when to use it. I fully admit that because I don't know anything about this stuff, I don't know what questions to ask.

I want someone to tell me you can spend up to xyz a month and still be ok in the future; you can give away xyz a month and still be ok; you can work less and still be ok...I work hard because I'm worried about a future where i have nothing but... I'm basically killing myself with fear and anxiety?

I don't know who to trust or how to find someone who will do this. I feel like... whenever I hit retirement I will have accounts to draw from but no clue which to tap when or why or even if there's an emergency before retirement (if the world doesn't burn) what order to tap into stuff.

Oh and more recently a woman I met with told me to start a Roth IRA? No one tells me how these things help me now or in the future and I want someone who can honestly review everything and explain it like I'm 5 on how to enjoy the present and save for a future.

I've been overachieving to prove my worth for as long as I can remember. And getting pissed off at the people "not pulling their weight" or "not hearing my idea" or "making my life hard" or or or instead of idk I guess treating myself the way I want to be treated 🙃😵‍💫💀

I think there's a lot of layers and causes but I can recognize how I didn't feel valued at home as a kid (or in my last relationship) and obsessed with work (and school before this) because I got something out of it. I always think the next win will finally make ___ see how great I am. The ___ is me

Oh also she accused me of being codependent on my dog and I was like you leave Beavis out of your mouth!!

Therapist pointed out how even my crappy grandma didn't value me enough as-is to buy me clothes that fit or gifts that I wanted. It was always how/who she wanted me to be 🙃 jfc this runs deep

🤢I do feel valued! but need to get over the old shit. Need to value myself. Oooof

What do people with good self esteem do with themselves all day?

Is it admitting to myself or just believing it?

we printed and signed our certified letter to weird ll demanding remainder of our security deposit. the amount he stole pays for one of mt man's barely effective pain management injections. fuck this rich bitch.

I earned wings