i can only offer that it's really hard to do that on sites like bluesky- some people can manage it, but it's like trying to socialize out in the open with everyone watching. i've had more luck with discord servers + livestreams but moderation can be real shit if it's something you gotta do yourself

this to me is the movie of the year and i'm showing it to everyone i know

question for the both of you- how hard was it to get previous returns into the program? that's the only reason i'm still using TT is it's saved everything from the past years i've used it

LETSGOOOOO

defy?

knowing someone before they transitioned and not knowing they did so is going to be awkward no matter what, but having someone to run interference can at least in theory make it smoother for the person who transitioned

like, you do NOT want to out folks, but also there are some situations where it's either you tell someone that this person is trans and that it's not okay to call them by their deadname/pronouns, or said trans person has to handle that on their own if they end up meeting. for me i prefer the former

then AGAIN that also really depends on where you are and who you're talking to. (and who you're talking about) there's a large contingent of trans folks who would MUCH rather be seen as cis

like, there's something valuable about prefacing that someone is trans that normalizes people just like. being trans. people who you know, even if you're cis. demonstrating what the correct etiquette is to whoever said person might have to interact with

then again, i'm not sure all trans folks would want continuity between who they were and who they are so ymmv. up for discussion tbh

to add for the wary- if you're talking to someone who knew said person before they transitioned but not currently, you'd say something like "[new pronoun] used to be known as [deadname] but is now [name]." you would not at any point use that person's old pronouns, nor continue to use the old name.

oooooo nora these are gonna be so sick