Long Sad Breakup
@long-sad-breakup.bsky.social
Middle aged white man, breaking up with my partner after 25 years.
Honest, because I need to be.
Anonymous, because there are a few people involved and I can't be honest about one without hurting the others.
Honest, because I need to be.
Anonymous, because there are a few people involved and I can't be honest about one without hurting the others.
I want to be wanted. I do not need to be needed.
January 28, 2026 at 9:54 PM
I want to be wanted. I do not need to be needed.
She used to be so smart, that girl I married. Not any more. Maybe the menopause is messing with her mind. Or maybe she’s just losing her sight and her hearing, and is too proud to admit it, and is desperately guessing what’s going on.
January 23, 2026 at 6:42 AM
She used to be so smart, that girl I married. Not any more. Maybe the menopause is messing with her mind. Or maybe she’s just losing her sight and her hearing, and is too proud to admit it, and is desperately guessing what’s going on.
This week I found out that Facebook has been suggesting to my ex-wife and my girlfriend that they should be friends. They’re in a mexican standoff, both ignoring the suggestion.
January 20, 2026 at 1:45 AM
This week I found out that Facebook has been suggesting to my ex-wife and my girlfriend that they should be friends. They’re in a mexican standoff, both ignoring the suggestion.
Trigger warning : bad taste paedophile discussion
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I am a statistically average straight man who has had sex with a few women. Size does make a difference... 🧵
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I am a statistically average straight man who has had sex with a few women. Size does make a difference... 🧵
January 15, 2026 at 6:13 PM
Trigger warning : bad taste paedophile discussion
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I am a statistically average straight man who has had sex with a few women. Size does make a difference... 🧵
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I am a statistically average straight man who has had sex with a few women. Size does make a difference... 🧵
A friend said “I think my relationship broke up because of shame. My husband went bankrupt. I was sorry for him, but he felt like such a failure that it broke everything.”
January 12, 2026 at 6:39 AM
A friend said “I think my relationship broke up because of shame. My husband went bankrupt. I was sorry for him, but he felt like such a failure that it broke everything.”
When my ex said “let’s have an open relationship”, i was still an optimistic person. We were 20 years in, living a fantastic life. Maybe this golden time could include other lovers?
January 8, 2026 at 5:12 AM
When my ex said “let’s have an open relationship”, i was still an optimistic person. We were 20 years in, living a fantastic life. Maybe this golden time could include other lovers?
Last night i had dinner with my ex-wife. Talked about my girlfriend. Said that i felt hope. She was angry, with my gf but not me. She cried, for the first time in 5 years.
December 24, 2025 at 12:48 AM
Last night i had dinner with my ex-wife. Talked about my girlfriend. Said that i felt hope. She was angry, with my gf but not me. She cried, for the first time in 5 years.
Do i want do be with you tonight, or do i just want to do whatever i want to do?
December 17, 2025 at 8:02 PM
Do i want do be with you tonight, or do i just want to do whatever i want to do?
text: “Wednesday is the anniversary of my brothers’ deaths. I’m taking the day off work. I would like to spend the day alone in the void of my sorry heart, touching your skin.”
December 9, 2025 at 3:10 AM
text: “Wednesday is the anniversary of my brothers’ deaths. I’m taking the day off work. I would like to spend the day alone in the void of my sorry heart, touching your skin.”
A life-changing moment : I was about 22. Walking down a city street with my fiancee and her 5yr old cousin. An impossibly old, broken man (who I now identify as a normal 30-ish yr old alcoholic) stopped us and smiled at us and said “I was like you once”.
December 3, 2025 at 3:43 AM
A life-changing moment : I was about 22. Walking down a city street with my fiancee and her 5yr old cousin. An impossibly old, broken man (who I now identify as a normal 30-ish yr old alcoholic) stopped us and smiled at us and said “I was like you once”.
The day of the party my ex wrote to me, wished me a happy day, said sorry. I cried.
November 27, 2025 at 12:13 AM
The day of the party my ex wrote to me, wished me a happy day, said sorry. I cried.
I hosted a big dinner party, 40 people. Invited my girlfriend, sat with her, introduced her in my speech as “the beautiful [name] who i love”. That felt optimistic.
November 18, 2025 at 3:04 AM
I hosted a big dinner party, 40 people. Invited my girlfriend, sat with her, introduced her in my speech as “the beautiful [name] who i love”. That felt optimistic.
The last two weeks, I celebrated my niece’s 21st birthday (I'm doing her dead father’s job), and my New Girlfriend’s birthday. In two weeks I celebrate my own 20,000th day. I’m feeling pretty good.
November 4, 2025 at 3:46 AM
The last two weeks, I celebrated my niece’s 21st birthday (I'm doing her dead father’s job), and my New Girlfriend’s birthday. In two weeks I celebrate my own 20,000th day. I’m feeling pretty good.
Talking about dentists, she wondered about low calcium levels in women over 50. Says the word “menopause” for the third time ever. “talking to my friends, they all have terrible head to toe symptoms - they ask me how I’m going and well I lost my marriage a few aches and pains not too bad really”.
October 30, 2025 at 1:15 AM
Talking about dentists, she wondered about low calcium levels in women over 50. Says the word “menopause” for the third time ever. “talking to my friends, they all have terrible head to toe symptoms - they ask me how I’m going and well I lost my marriage a few aches and pains not too bad really”.
Is there a special place in your brain for the names of exes? I have suddenly started switching the names of my this-year ex and my last-century ex.
October 26, 2025 at 11:33 PM
Is there a special place in your brain for the names of exes? I have suddenly started switching the names of my this-year ex and my last-century ex.
The “confused” stage of the grieving process. I think it’s because my life has changed, but my sense of self has not. My heart is not aligned with my actions. Just have to wait for my heart to catch up, I guess.
October 22, 2025 at 12:50 AM
The “confused” stage of the grieving process. I think it’s because my life has changed, but my sense of self has not. My heart is not aligned with my actions. Just have to wait for my heart to catch up, I guess.
I’m in the “confused” stage of the grieving process. I feel more OK, but my life feels… wrong. Taking my niece out for her 21st because her father is dead. Inviting a friend to dinner at what used to be my partners favourite restaurant.
October 19, 2025 at 11:24 PM
I’m in the “confused” stage of the grieving process. I feel more OK, but my life feels… wrong. Taking my niece out for her 21st because her father is dead. Inviting a friend to dinner at what used to be my partners favourite restaurant.
A dream : My ex-partner had moved back in (not my actual house - corridor, rooms). It was good, a relief. But she still didn't want to talk about my new partner, which felt bad. Also I had made an animated thing, maybe part of a music video, which we were going to tour overseas. That felt great.
October 17, 2025 at 5:32 AM
A dream : My ex-partner had moved back in (not my actual house - corridor, rooms). It was good, a relief. But she still didn't want to talk about my new partner, which felt bad. Also I had made an animated thing, maybe part of a music video, which we were going to tour overseas. That felt great.
I bought this house when me and the first girl I married were 25. When she became depressed and moved out, I was really glad that our last ditch effort to shore up our relationship was to buy a house, not to have a child.
October 14, 2025 at 11:02 PM
I bought this house when me and the first girl I married were 25. When she became depressed and moved out, I was really glad that our last ditch effort to shore up our relationship was to buy a house, not to have a child.
I will not grow old with the woman I loved, because she/we chose not to. My sister-in-law will not grow old with the man she loved, because one day his life ended. Alcohol took my other brother, he was never able to maintain a relationship, and now he never will.
October 7, 2025 at 7:29 AM
I will not grow old with the woman I loved, because she/we chose not to. My sister-in-law will not grow old with the man she loved, because one day his life ended. Alcohol took my other brother, he was never able to maintain a relationship, and now he never will.
I’m not a born winner. I don’t care about crossing the line first or getting a gold star. But some days I really feel like a failure. I promised to make a relationship work, and i failed.
September 29, 2025 at 5:26 AM
I’m not a born winner. I don’t care about crossing the line first or getting a gold star. But some days I really feel like a failure. I promised to make a relationship work, and i failed.
Something I never thought or imagined would happen : a beautiful woman blow drying my cum off her silk dress before we go out.
September 22, 2025 at 2:11 AM
Something I never thought or imagined would happen : a beautiful woman blow drying my cum off her silk dress before we go out.
I tried to stay her partner, lover, husband, but she didn't want that. So I tried to stay her best friend, but she didn't want that. So I tried to stay her housemate, but she didn't want that. So I'm trying to stay friends. I'm not hopeful.
September 19, 2025 at 6:52 AM
I tried to stay her partner, lover, husband, but she didn't want that. So I tried to stay her best friend, but she didn't want that. So I tried to stay her housemate, but she didn't want that. So I'm trying to stay friends. I'm not hopeful.
It’s my ex-partner’s birthday this weekend. The first one since she became ex. For the first time in 26 years I haven’t bought presents. But the postie delivered one from her sister.
September 15, 2025 at 8:43 PM
It’s my ex-partner’s birthday this weekend. The first one since she became ex. For the first time in 26 years I haven’t bought presents. But the postie delivered one from her sister.
September 8, 2025 at 12:05 AM