Phteve
@lncstrlgnd.bsky.social
Now with a clearer lens: officially late-diagnosed autistic
Passionate about mindset, justice, & finding *our space
📍Nelson Mandela Bay, 🇿🇦
Passionate about mindset, justice, & finding *our space
📍Nelson Mandela Bay, 🇿🇦
Reconciliation implies relationship. Relationship implies worth.
Many of our relationships in this country have been rooted in abuse (some even declared criminal, SA, Apartheid/State Capture, fraud, theft, etc).
Abuse is wrong, criminal or not.
#DayOfReconciliation #SouthAfrica
Many of our relationships in this country have been rooted in abuse (some even declared criminal, SA, Apartheid/State Capture, fraud, theft, etc).
Abuse is wrong, criminal or not.
#DayOfReconciliation #SouthAfrica
December 16, 2025 at 5:55 AM
Reconciliation implies relationship. Relationship implies worth.
Many of our relationships in this country have been rooted in abuse (some even declared criminal, SA, Apartheid/State Capture, fraud, theft, etc).
Abuse is wrong, criminal or not.
#DayOfReconciliation #SouthAfrica
Many of our relationships in this country have been rooted in abuse (some even declared criminal, SA, Apartheid/State Capture, fraud, theft, etc).
Abuse is wrong, criminal or not.
#DayOfReconciliation #SouthAfrica
Nostalgia
These shoes and this pack have taken me many, many miles.
Memories
While there’s not much to be done for the shoes, the pack will pack more memories…
And this photo from Mac Mac the 1st shows the shoes, and now the pack carries the legends onward.
LoFER 2025 loading...
These shoes and this pack have taken me many, many miles.
Memories
While there’s not much to be done for the shoes, the pack will pack more memories…
And this photo from Mac Mac the 1st shows the shoes, and now the pack carries the legends onward.
LoFER 2025 loading...
December 15, 2025 at 8:30 PM
Nostalgia
These shoes and this pack have taken me many, many miles.
Memories
While there’s not much to be done for the shoes, the pack will pack more memories…
And this photo from Mac Mac the 1st shows the shoes, and now the pack carries the legends onward.
LoFER 2025 loading...
These shoes and this pack have taken me many, many miles.
Memories
While there’s not much to be done for the shoes, the pack will pack more memories…
And this photo from Mac Mac the 1st shows the shoes, and now the pack carries the legends onward.
LoFER 2025 loading...
Today is the 6th day of being away from my kid... the first time we've been apart so long since they were born. #divorce is crap.
The ex sends an autistic kid to holiday club full day cos she *must work (there's history here). Meanwhile kid has no voice, & is listless on the phone.
Send love.
The ex sends an autistic kid to holiday club full day cos she *must work (there's history here). Meanwhile kid has no voice, & is listless on the phone.
Send love.
December 5, 2025 at 6:18 AM
Today is the 6th day of being away from my kid... the first time we've been apart so long since they were born. #divorce is crap.
The ex sends an autistic kid to holiday club full day cos she *must work (there's history here). Meanwhile kid has no voice, & is listless on the phone.
Send love.
The ex sends an autistic kid to holiday club full day cos she *must work (there's history here). Meanwhile kid has no voice, & is listless on the phone.
Send love.
After a season of significant change, today my divorce was finalized. This past year has been overwhelming, personal factors compounded by global and national stressors, and I’m learning my “new normal” limits.
December 1, 2025 at 10:48 AM
After a season of significant change, today my divorce was finalized. This past year has been overwhelming, personal factors compounded by global and national stressors, and I’m learning my “new normal” limits.
Today: married 12 years 11 months. Together 14+ yrs.
Tomorrow: divorced. Not willingly, but gratefully (no details).
Kid: 10 years & change.❤️
Now we "timeshare" the kid. It's the first time I'll have been away from them more than a few nights.😭
She's taken 10 day holidays. Do I ask for tips?
😡
Tomorrow: divorced. Not willingly, but gratefully (no details).
Kid: 10 years & change.❤️
Now we "timeshare" the kid. It's the first time I'll have been away from them more than a few nights.😭
She's taken 10 day holidays. Do I ask for tips?
😡
November 30, 2025 at 8:20 PM
Today: married 12 years 11 months. Together 14+ yrs.
Tomorrow: divorced. Not willingly, but gratefully (no details).
Kid: 10 years & change.❤️
Now we "timeshare" the kid. It's the first time I'll have been away from them more than a few nights.😭
She's taken 10 day holidays. Do I ask for tips?
😡
Tomorrow: divorced. Not willingly, but gratefully (no details).
Kid: 10 years & change.❤️
Now we "timeshare" the kid. It's the first time I'll have been away from them more than a few nights.😭
She's taken 10 day holidays. Do I ask for tips?
😡
A messy year is shortly to end.
Slowly things seem to move, sometimes.
As old as things may be, keep moving.
New growth comes... when harmful things are removed.
You don't have to be good at it all, but try and enjoy most of it.
See you at LoFER?
Slowly things seem to move, sometimes.
As old as things may be, keep moving.
New growth comes... when harmful things are removed.
You don't have to be good at it all, but try and enjoy most of it.
See you at LoFER?
November 23, 2025 at 7:53 PM
A messy year is shortly to end.
Slowly things seem to move, sometimes.
As old as things may be, keep moving.
New growth comes... when harmful things are removed.
You don't have to be good at it all, but try and enjoy most of it.
See you at LoFER?
Slowly things seem to move, sometimes.
As old as things may be, keep moving.
New growth comes... when harmful things are removed.
You don't have to be good at it all, but try and enjoy most of it.
See you at LoFER?
WomenForChangeSA
⚠️ What Will Happen on 21 November?
Women For Change are calling on women and members of the LGBTQI+ community across the country to withdraw their labor on Friday, 21 November, to show that without us, there is no economy, no progress, and no future.
⚠️ What Will Happen on 21 November?
Women For Change are calling on women and members of the LGBTQI+ community across the country to withdraw their labor on Friday, 21 November, to show that without us, there is no economy, no progress, and no future.
November 13, 2025 at 3:27 PM
WomenForChangeSA
⚠️ What Will Happen on 21 November?
Women For Change are calling on women and members of the LGBTQI+ community across the country to withdraw their labor on Friday, 21 November, to show that without us, there is no economy, no progress, and no future.
⚠️ What Will Happen on 21 November?
Women For Change are calling on women and members of the LGBTQI+ community across the country to withdraw their labor on Friday, 21 November, to show that without us, there is no economy, no progress, and no future.
The "Superhero" Myth is a Dangerous Fantasy.
A DA politician's superhero post isn't just cringe-worthy; it's ideologically dangerous. It promotes the defunct myth of the solitary savior.
#SouthAfrica #Politics #Impositors #BigWords
A DA politician's superhero post isn't just cringe-worthy; it's ideologically dangerous. It promotes the defunct myth of the solitary savior.
#SouthAfrica #Politics #Impositors #BigWords
November 12, 2025 at 2:42 PM
The "Superhero" Myth is a Dangerous Fantasy.
A DA politician's superhero post isn't just cringe-worthy; it's ideologically dangerous. It promotes the defunct myth of the solitary savior.
#SouthAfrica #Politics #Impositors #BigWords
A DA politician's superhero post isn't just cringe-worthy; it's ideologically dangerous. It promotes the defunct myth of the solitary savior.
#SouthAfrica #Politics #Impositors #BigWords
Me: posts meme saying all work is valuable to society and the worker should be paid a living wage.
Conservatives/Capitalists: Don't devalue my work by comparing it to a cleaner! If they'll work for less, pay less!
Liberals: Steven, don't be mean and don't make this a moral issue when its financial.
Conservatives/Capitalists: Don't devalue my work by comparing it to a cleaner! If they'll work for less, pay less!
Liberals: Steven, don't be mean and don't make this a moral issue when its financial.
October 30, 2025 at 7:20 AM
Me: posts meme saying all work is valuable to society and the worker should be paid a living wage.
Conservatives/Capitalists: Don't devalue my work by comparing it to a cleaner! If they'll work for less, pay less!
Liberals: Steven, don't be mean and don't make this a moral issue when its financial.
Conservatives/Capitalists: Don't devalue my work by comparing it to a cleaner! If they'll work for less, pay less!
Liberals: Steven, don't be mean and don't make this a moral issue when its financial.
A lot of photos taken of #LancasterLight these last couple of weeks.
And here are some other memories I will share here...
>After a twisted ankle, it was good to sweat today... in a bike traffic jam 🚲 🦶
>Yesterday's parkrun was a walk to check the course: 🐴 & 🕷️ fed + watered. 🕸️ cleared.
And here are some other memories I will share here...
>After a twisted ankle, it was good to sweat today... in a bike traffic jam 🚲 🦶
>Yesterday's parkrun was a walk to check the course: 🐴 & 🕷️ fed + watered. 🕸️ cleared.
October 26, 2025 at 6:32 PM
A lot of photos taken of #LancasterLight these last couple of weeks.
And here are some other memories I will share here...
>After a twisted ankle, it was good to sweat today... in a bike traffic jam 🚲 🦶
>Yesterday's parkrun was a walk to check the course: 🐴 & 🕷️ fed + watered. 🕸️ cleared.
And here are some other memories I will share here...
>After a twisted ankle, it was good to sweat today... in a bike traffic jam 🚲 🦶
>Yesterday's parkrun was a walk to check the course: 🐴 & 🕷️ fed + watered. 🕸️ cleared.
Dysregulation to regulation.
Moments of quiet.
Accepting the "mile I am running".
Listening to the feelings.
Resting. Moving.
These last few days have been slowly better again.
Time will come when its mostly good again.
Again, being in communion with those around.
And Earth.
Moments of quiet.
Accepting the "mile I am running".
Listening to the feelings.
Resting. Moving.
These last few days have been slowly better again.
Time will come when its mostly good again.
Again, being in communion with those around.
And Earth.
October 23, 2025 at 6:59 AM
Dysregulation to regulation.
Moments of quiet.
Accepting the "mile I am running".
Listening to the feelings.
Resting. Moving.
These last few days have been slowly better again.
Time will come when its mostly good again.
Again, being in communion with those around.
And Earth.
Moments of quiet.
Accepting the "mile I am running".
Listening to the feelings.
Resting. Moving.
These last few days have been slowly better again.
Time will come when its mostly good again.
Again, being in communion with those around.
And Earth.
She once told me she could never be the parent a disabled child needed, but that I could. It was a reason she'd choose abortion.
10 years on, she's insisted on divorce. & months later: our child & I are both told: you're ASD.
Ironic. The disability was mine, just unseen.
#latediagnosis
10 years on, she's insisted on divorce. & months later: our child & I are both told: you're ASD.
Ironic. The disability was mine, just unseen.
#latediagnosis
October 21, 2025 at 5:40 AM
She once told me she could never be the parent a disabled child needed, but that I could. It was a reason she'd choose abortion.
10 years on, she's insisted on divorce. & months later: our child & I are both told: you're ASD.
Ironic. The disability was mine, just unseen.
#latediagnosis
10 years on, she's insisted on divorce. & months later: our child & I are both told: you're ASD.
Ironic. The disability was mine, just unseen.
#latediagnosis
If you're injured or disabled, and someone who can (or who has promised to) help then refuses: that is abuse.
If you need a wheelchair and the means to give it, and it is refused: that is abuse.
#Autism #AuDHD #SelfActualisation #Boundaries 1/2
If you need a wheelchair and the means to give it, and it is refused: that is abuse.
#Autism #AuDHD #SelfActualisation #Boundaries 1/2
October 17, 2025 at 5:19 AM
If you're injured or disabled, and someone who can (or who has promised to) help then refuses: that is abuse.
If you need a wheelchair and the means to give it, and it is refused: that is abuse.
#Autism #AuDHD #SelfActualisation #Boundaries 1/2
If you need a wheelchair and the means to give it, and it is refused: that is abuse.
#Autism #AuDHD #SelfActualisation #Boundaries 1/2
Today's level of overwhelm? 15/12.
Brought to you by the divorce proceedings fueled by capitalist greed (hers, obvs), legal minimums over moral duty (hers obvs), and systemic oppression leading to housing insecurity.
Fuck this world today.
From... a late-diagnosed AuDHDer
Brought to you by the divorce proceedings fueled by capitalist greed (hers, obvs), legal minimums over moral duty (hers obvs), and systemic oppression leading to housing insecurity.
Fuck this world today.
From... a late-diagnosed AuDHDer
October 15, 2025 at 9:07 AM
Today's level of overwhelm? 15/12.
Brought to you by the divorce proceedings fueled by capitalist greed (hers, obvs), legal minimums over moral duty (hers obvs), and systemic oppression leading to housing insecurity.
Fuck this world today.
From... a late-diagnosed AuDHDer
Brought to you by the divorce proceedings fueled by capitalist greed (hers, obvs), legal minimums over moral duty (hers obvs), and systemic oppression leading to housing insecurity.
Fuck this world today.
From... a late-diagnosed AuDHDer
Livin' is an art ~ Clinton Fearon
Not just therapeutic, livin'.
Not just walking, livin'.
Not just friends, livin'.
richardpearcephotography and me at liveadventureco 's #AlexandriaTrailRun 2025 last Saturday.
Thank you. Do you want an encore? 🎶
Not just therapeutic, livin'.
Not just walking, livin'.
Not just friends, livin'.
richardpearcephotography and me at liveadventureco 's #AlexandriaTrailRun 2025 last Saturday.
Thank you. Do you want an encore? 🎶
September 24, 2025 at 1:16 PM
Livin' is an art ~ Clinton Fearon
Not just therapeutic, livin'.
Not just walking, livin'.
Not just friends, livin'.
richardpearcephotography and me at liveadventureco 's #AlexandriaTrailRun 2025 last Saturday.
Thank you. Do you want an encore? 🎶
Not just therapeutic, livin'.
Not just walking, livin'.
Not just friends, livin'.
richardpearcephotography and me at liveadventureco 's #AlexandriaTrailRun 2025 last Saturday.
Thank you. Do you want an encore? 🎶
I don't mourn fascists.
I do mourn for the oppressed and the dreams and skills and talents murdered by systemic abuse.
I do mourn for the oppressed and the dreams and skills and talents murdered by systemic abuse.
September 11, 2025 at 8:55 AM
I don't mourn fascists.
I do mourn for the oppressed and the dreams and skills and talents murdered by systemic abuse.
I do mourn for the oppressed and the dreams and skills and talents murdered by systemic abuse.
Anti-fiancé (neuro-typical/NT)+ me relaying Autism Spectrum Diagnosis to our kid, 10:
Me: do you know what NT means?
Kid:
Me: what does typical mean?
Kid: it means... meh!
Me: & neuro comes from the same word as nerves, like your brain
Kid: oh, so NT is meh-brain!
Me: 🤭😃🤣 (Kid joins in)
Her: 😤🤷♀️😄
Me: do you know what NT means?
Kid:
Me: what does typical mean?
Kid: it means... meh!
Me: & neuro comes from the same word as nerves, like your brain
Kid: oh, so NT is meh-brain!
Me: 🤭😃🤣 (Kid joins in)
Her: 😤🤷♀️😄
September 7, 2025 at 12:41 PM
Anti-fiancé (neuro-typical/NT)+ me relaying Autism Spectrum Diagnosis to our kid, 10:
Me: do you know what NT means?
Kid:
Me: what does typical mean?
Kid: it means... meh!
Me: & neuro comes from the same word as nerves, like your brain
Kid: oh, so NT is meh-brain!
Me: 🤭😃🤣 (Kid joins in)
Her: 😤🤷♀️😄
Me: do you know what NT means?
Kid:
Me: what does typical mean?
Kid: it means... meh!
Me: & neuro comes from the same word as nerves, like your brain
Kid: oh, so NT is meh-brain!
Me: 🤭😃🤣 (Kid joins in)
Her: 😤🤷♀️😄
Tuesday... autism diagnosis day... for our 10 year old.
Incidentally, also for me, at 51 (and a little change).
I wonder if this diagnosis would have changed the outcomes of certain things for me/us? And how it will impact the future?
Onwards and upwards as we explore our superpowers.
Incidentally, also for me, at 51 (and a little change).
I wonder if this diagnosis would have changed the outcomes of certain things for me/us? And how it will impact the future?
Onwards and upwards as we explore our superpowers.
September 4, 2025 at 10:09 AM
Tuesday... autism diagnosis day... for our 10 year old.
Incidentally, also for me, at 51 (and a little change).
I wonder if this diagnosis would have changed the outcomes of certain things for me/us? And how it will impact the future?
Onwards and upwards as we explore our superpowers.
Incidentally, also for me, at 51 (and a little change).
I wonder if this diagnosis would have changed the outcomes of certain things for me/us? And how it will impact the future?
Onwards and upwards as we explore our superpowers.
I want to do 6... but will be enabling your glory!
Come climb... Nelson Mandela Bays's highest mountain!
Come climb... Nelson Mandela Bays's highest mountain!
🚨 It's THIRSTDAY… and the thing YOU ARE thirsty for, is GLORY! 🚨
That "I'm Interested" excuse is looking a little short. It's time to turn that maybe into a HILL YES.
Enter now? 👉 CLICK THE LINK. CONVERT YOUR CURIOSITY INTO LEGEND STATUS. 👉
www.wildebeestrun.co.za/everesting
#JoinTheHerd #Running
That "I'm Interested" excuse is looking a little short. It's time to turn that maybe into a HILL YES.
Enter now? 👉 CLICK THE LINK. CONVERT YOUR CURIOSITY INTO LEGEND STATUS. 👉
www.wildebeestrun.co.za/everesting
#JoinTheHerd #Running
August 28, 2025 at 11:37 AM
I want to do 6... but will be enabling your glory!
Come climb... Nelson Mandela Bays's highest mountain!
Come climb... Nelson Mandela Bays's highest mountain!
Life last week.
Included lavender reflections
Group running, solo running, walking, and parkrun (photos and a video in comments...)
Various views of Lady's Slipper.
Cartoon inspired fresh lemon juice.
And apparently I'm fun again...~a friend
😆 🫶🤟🤗🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
Included lavender reflections
Group running, solo running, walking, and parkrun (photos and a video in comments...)
Various views of Lady's Slipper.
Cartoon inspired fresh lemon juice.
And apparently I'm fun again...~a friend
😆 🫶🤟🤗🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
August 25, 2025 at 9:44 AM
Life last week.
Included lavender reflections
Group running, solo running, walking, and parkrun (photos and a video in comments...)
Various views of Lady's Slipper.
Cartoon inspired fresh lemon juice.
And apparently I'm fun again...~a friend
😆 🫶🤟🤗🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
Included lavender reflections
Group running, solo running, walking, and parkrun (photos and a video in comments...)
Various views of Lady's Slipper.
Cartoon inspired fresh lemon juice.
And apparently I'm fun again...~a friend
😆 🫶🤟🤗🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
Great energy at a networking session this am!
Business range was fantastic: steel, construction, cyber forensics, cleaning, events, & solar.
The legal compliance deep-dive was on a crucial topic:
**Beneficial Ownership**. 🤔
Do YOU know what Beneficial Ownership is & how it affects your business?
Business range was fantastic: steel, construction, cyber forensics, cleaning, events, & solar.
The legal compliance deep-dive was on a crucial topic:
**Beneficial Ownership**. 🤔
Do YOU know what Beneficial Ownership is & how it affects your business?
August 21, 2025 at 2:14 PM
Great energy at a networking session this am!
Business range was fantastic: steel, construction, cyber forensics, cleaning, events, & solar.
The legal compliance deep-dive was on a crucial topic:
**Beneficial Ownership**. 🤔
Do YOU know what Beneficial Ownership is & how it affects your business?
Business range was fantastic: steel, construction, cyber forensics, cleaning, events, & solar.
The legal compliance deep-dive was on a crucial topic:
**Beneficial Ownership**. 🤔
Do YOU know what Beneficial Ownership is & how it affects your business?
Tinnitus is usually my white noise. Its been loud lately!
I do live with it as a constant background to my life. And yet, with the recent stressors, its decided to go from pp, p, and m, to m - fff accents! Eish.
It will improve! I look forward to the calming quiet again.
I do live with it as a constant background to my life. And yet, with the recent stressors, its decided to go from pp, p, and m, to m - fff accents! Eish.
It will improve! I look forward to the calming quiet again.
August 20, 2025 at 12:57 PM
Tinnitus is usually my white noise. Its been loud lately!
I do live with it as a constant background to my life. And yet, with the recent stressors, its decided to go from pp, p, and m, to m - fff accents! Eish.
It will improve! I look forward to the calming quiet again.
I do live with it as a constant background to my life. And yet, with the recent stressors, its decided to go from pp, p, and m, to m - fff accents! Eish.
It will improve! I look forward to the calming quiet again.
#DidYouKnow that the Lady's Slipper is the end of the range of mountains that starts outside #CapeTown?
A good reason to visit Nelson Mandela Bay, nature lovers...
A good reason to visit Nelson Mandela Bay, nature lovers...
Have You Ever Summited Lady’s Slipper?🏔️
🚴It’s not a hill: it’s a lifestyle choice.
-YES? Drop your best pic below
-NO? This is your sign to try it! (No worries, we’ll cheer you up & up!)
#ProTip: steeper the climb -> better the views.
#GetUp2Good #JoinTheHerd #ShareTheBay
wildebeestrun.co.za
🚴It’s not a hill: it’s a lifestyle choice.
-YES? Drop your best pic below
-NO? This is your sign to try it! (No worries, we’ll cheer you up & up!)
#ProTip: steeper the climb -> better the views.
#GetUp2Good #JoinTheHerd #ShareTheBay
wildebeestrun.co.za
August 18, 2025 at 7:01 AM
#DidYouKnow that the Lady's Slipper is the end of the range of mountains that starts outside #CapeTown?
A good reason to visit Nelson Mandela Bay, nature lovers...
A good reason to visit Nelson Mandela Bay, nature lovers...
Sunrise. 🌞
Run tar & trail. 🏃♀️
Recover rolling. 💪
Coral tree blooms, a memory marker of seasons change. 🌳
Success is in community, not in money (some so poor, it's all they have & all that).
I'm grateful for those supporting me & mine. Even those that shout from their cars in a drive-by 😆
Run tar & trail. 🏃♀️
Recover rolling. 💪
Coral tree blooms, a memory marker of seasons change. 🌳
Success is in community, not in money (some so poor, it's all they have & all that).
I'm grateful for those supporting me & mine. Even those that shout from their cars in a drive-by 😆
August 17, 2025 at 6:35 PM
Sunrise. 🌞
Run tar & trail. 🏃♀️
Recover rolling. 💪
Coral tree blooms, a memory marker of seasons change. 🌳
Success is in community, not in money (some so poor, it's all they have & all that).
I'm grateful for those supporting me & mine. Even those that shout from their cars in a drive-by 😆
Run tar & trail. 🏃♀️
Recover rolling. 💪
Coral tree blooms, a memory marker of seasons change. 🌳
Success is in community, not in money (some so poor, it's all they have & all that).
I'm grateful for those supporting me & mine. Even those that shout from their cars in a drive-by 😆
Some of life this week:
When you're at the bottom, the top is attainable.
When you're at the top, the bottom is closer than you remember.
Howl what you mean, and mean what you howl.
Don't throw your Frisbee at the trees!!
And the interim is a box feast.
When you're at the bottom, the top is attainable.
When you're at the top, the bottom is closer than you remember.
Howl what you mean, and mean what you howl.
Don't throw your Frisbee at the trees!!
And the interim is a box feast.
August 10, 2025 at 2:37 PM
Some of life this week:
When you're at the bottom, the top is attainable.
When you're at the top, the bottom is closer than you remember.
Howl what you mean, and mean what you howl.
Don't throw your Frisbee at the trees!!
And the interim is a box feast.
When you're at the bottom, the top is attainable.
When you're at the top, the bottom is closer than you remember.
Howl what you mean, and mean what you howl.
Don't throw your Frisbee at the trees!!
And the interim is a box feast.