Publicly.

Other people likely have the same questions & can learn by reading through the thread.

I am one adoptee, I do not claim to speak for everyone. If other adoptees want to chime in with their knowledge & experience then I want them to have the opportunity to do that.

exactly

You're saying you're going to ignore certain adoptees... why?
because they told hard truths about their experiences and challenged you to look inward in a way you didn't like?
because they weren't polite enough when they told you what you said was insensitive and perpetuates harm against us?

Maybe I am missing something here but I don't see a single post in which you took accountability for the harm your responses caused without defending yourself in some way or wrongly assuming the emotions of the other person. That is not true accountability.

And just bc there's always a whiner:

It's not on us to eat it or try to ignore it.

It's on you to stop perpetuating ideals and language that support white supremacy, colonialism, and the saviour complex.

And you're refusing.

What does that make you.

I'm willing to discuss more with you. I don't think you are operating in bad faith or being a troll.

Yeah, most people are immediately aggressive when they hear something about adoption they don't like. It's rare to find people who actually want to learn from us. Your assumption is correct.

We do not owe you comfort. We do not owe you polite education.

If anything, you owe us.

I am not playing the respectability politics game w this anymore.

The discomfort you feel while learning the truth about adoption is NOTHING compared to the discomfort and pain adoptees have experienced under this racist classist system of oppression in which we are trafficked and treated as a commodity.

Said it before and I'll say it again:

It takes time and energy for me to handhold people through why dehumanizing and commodifying us is wrong, and frankly, I should be compensated.

There isn't some institutional violence IN adoption.
Adoption IS institutional violence. Adoption IS Trauma.
The problem runs all the way to the core of the adoption a.k.a. the legal human trafficking industry.
The system was founded on racism and classism.

So am I..

I wholeheartedly second this:
Trans adoptees don't get solidarity within the Trans community.

& Queer adoptees do not get the support & solidarity from the LGBTQ+ community on issues important to the adoptee community.

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This issue runs deep.