For over a year, I felt silenced. Lucy’s refusal to take accountability, combined with her actions that exacerbated the situation, shows a pattern of deflecting blame and failing to honor the trust and vulnerability I placed in her as a mentor. And this also adds to the abuse.
December 10, 2024 at 4:20 PM
For over a year, I felt silenced. Lucy’s refusal to take accountability, combined with her actions that exacerbated the situation, shows a pattern of deflecting blame and failing to honor the trust and vulnerability I placed in her as a mentor. And this also adds to the abuse.
At one point, they slapped me really hard across the face. Unprompted. Because it was “funny.” When I asked why they would do that, their response—“Well, you never said you didn’t like being slapped across the face”—echoed the same dismissive tone I encountered when asking Lucy for accountability.
December 10, 2024 at 4:20 PM
At one point, they slapped me really hard across the face. Unprompted. Because it was “funny.” When I asked why they would do that, their response—“Well, you never said you didn’t like being slapped across the face”—echoed the same dismissive tone I encountered when asking Lucy for accountability.
My roommate was/is under the impression that I was trying to tear them apart (despite having a copy of the essay), escalated the tension.
December 10, 2024 at 4:20 PM
My roommate was/is under the impression that I was trying to tear them apart (despite having a copy of the essay), escalated the tension.
This behavior had real consequences in my life, particularly in my living situation with one of her subs, who was also my roommate. After Lucy shared my essay with them, framing it as an attack on their relationship, the tension at home became unbearable.
December 10, 2024 at 4:20 PM
This behavior had real consequences in my life, particularly in my living situation with one of her subs, who was also my roommate. After Lucy shared my essay with them, framing it as an attack on their relationship, the tension at home became unbearable.
When I confronted her in an essay, detailing the harm I experienced and the ways she crossed boundaries, she didn’t respond to my claims or engage in any meaningful way. Instead, she privately shared her version of events, which further evades the responsibility of addressing what actually happened.
December 10, 2024 at 4:20 PM
When I confronted her in an essay, detailing the harm I experienced and the ways she crossed boundaries, she didn’t respond to my claims or engage in any meaningful way. Instead, she privately shared her version of events, which further evades the responsibility of addressing what actually happened.
Lucy presents a different narrative of what happened, one that absolves her of accountability and shifts blame onto me. And I do not know what that narrative is.
December 10, 2024 at 4:20 PM
Lucy presents a different narrative of what happened, one that absolves her of accountability and shifts blame onto me. And I do not know what that narrative is.
When my therapist’s guidance didn’t align with her beliefs or desires, Lucy lectured me, insisting I listen to her instead. It created a dynamic where she expected me to share everything and follow her guidance unquestioningly.
December 10, 2024 at 4:20 PM
When my therapist’s guidance didn’t align with her beliefs or desires, Lucy lectured me, insisting I listen to her instead. It created a dynamic where she expected me to share everything and follow her guidance unquestioningly.
Her years of experience as a dominatrix and certification as a life coach became tools she wielded to override my claims and sometimes even my therapist’s advice.
December 10, 2024 at 4:20 PM
Her years of experience as a dominatrix and certification as a life coach became tools she wielded to override my claims and sometimes even my therapist’s advice.
Lucy imposed herself into the role of a 'life coach'—a position I never asked her to take but was grateful for—and treated me as though she knew me better than I knew myself.
December 10, 2024 at 4:20 PM
Lucy imposed herself into the role of a 'life coach'—a position I never asked her to take but was grateful for—and treated me as though she knew me better than I knew myself.
My claims of discomfort were frequently met with comments about how I needed to challenge myself or assurances that I was capable of more or straight up put downs that were really cruel. These remarks often left me feeling shamed or guilted into doing things I wasn’t comfortable with.
December 10, 2024 at 4:20 PM
My claims of discomfort were frequently met with comments about how I needed to challenge myself or assurances that I was capable of more or straight up put downs that were really cruel. These remarks often left me feeling shamed or guilted into doing things I wasn’t comfortable with.
What is your definition of abuse? Is it not financial exploitation? Was it not coercion to stop escorting despite me trying to stand by my no? Did Harvey Weinstein abuse people? By your logic, it was "their choice"- no?
December 10, 2024 at 4:00 PM
What is your definition of abuse? Is it not financial exploitation? Was it not coercion to stop escorting despite me trying to stand by my no? Did Harvey Weinstein abuse people? By your logic, it was "their choice"- no?
I've shed light on the things that enabled my exploitation, mechanisms that have harmed others and will continue to harm more unless we have hard/honest conversations around them. To those who read my words: take from them what you will.
December 7, 2024 at 10:18 PM
I've shed light on the things that enabled my exploitation, mechanisms that have harmed others and will continue to harm more unless we have hard/honest conversations around them. To those who read my words: take from them what you will.
My story stands as both warning and witness. A warning to those who might follow a similar path, and a witness against systems that shield abusers while silencing the abused.
December 7, 2024 at 10:18 PM
My story stands as both warning and witness. A warning to those who might follow a similar path, and a witness against systems that shield abusers while silencing the abused.
And it's fucking scary. But goddammit, I feel proud of myself for working past that fear to advocate for myself and what I went through. I am not a coward anymore. For people who don't understand how it feels to doubt yourself and erase yourself for so long- it's a big accomplishment for me.
December 7, 2024 at 10:18 PM
And it's fucking scary. But goddammit, I feel proud of myself for working past that fear to advocate for myself and what I went through. I am not a coward anymore. For people who don't understand how it feels to doubt yourself and erase yourself for so long- it's a big accomplishment for me.
The very insecurity that led me to seek mentorship - the desire to be accepted at the cost of my boundaries - is exactly what I'm breaking free from by sharing my story. I am practicing the courage to 'rock the boat' if it can help bring awareness to others who might find it helpful.
December 7, 2024 at 10:18 PM
The very insecurity that led me to seek mentorship - the desire to be accepted at the cost of my boundaries - is exactly what I'm breaking free from by sharing my story. I am practicing the courage to 'rock the boat' if it can help bring awareness to others who might find it helpful.
Because truth matters more than comfort. Because staying silent serves no one but those who abuse their power. I would rather post alone/scream into a void and face criticism for speaking out than compromise my integrity by staying quiet.
December 7, 2024 at 10:18 PM
Because truth matters more than comfort. Because staying silent serves no one but those who abuse their power. I would rather post alone/scream into a void and face criticism for speaking out than compromise my integrity by staying quiet.
Go fuck yourself, Dia. You can pretend to be nice and holistic but people know how fake you are and how you protect abusers and rapists for your own benefit.
December 7, 2024 at 2:41 AM
Go fuck yourself, Dia. You can pretend to be nice and holistic but people know how fake you are and how you protect abusers and rapists for your own benefit.
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When I told Lucy I didn't want to stop escorting- she threatened my living situation, the removal of my community, and the career that I was trying to build. So yeah, I could have said no but there were consequences.
December 7, 2024 at 2:22 AM
When I told Lucy I didn't want to stop escorting- she threatened my living situation, the removal of my community, and the career that I was trying to build. So yeah, I could have said no but there were consequences.
Fucking manipulative.
December 7, 2024 at 2:23 AM
Fucking manipulative.
When I told Lucy I didn't want to stop escorting- she threatened my living situation, the removal of my community, and the career that I was trying to build. So yeah, I could have said no but there were consequences.
December 7, 2024 at 2:22 AM
When I told Lucy I didn't want to stop escorting- she threatened my living situation, the removal of my community, and the career that I was trying to build. So yeah, I could have said no but there were consequences.
Yeah it was enough, actually. Sharing my story when I want to is enough for me. I don't care who believes me and I've accepted that Lucy will never apologize and will come up with whatever narrative to make her seem like a victim but I will continue to do my best to advocate what I went through.
December 7, 2024 at 2:18 AM
Yeah it was enough, actually. Sharing my story when I want to is enough for me. I don't care who believes me and I've accepted that Lucy will never apologize and will come up with whatever narrative to make her seem like a victim but I will continue to do my best to advocate what I went through.