the guides have made it abundantly clear that they do not want to have to do this, won't be excluding trans women from volunteering, etc but that they simply cannot defend themselves in a legal challenge against unlimited resources

They were 8 and 11 years old

20. If you have to deal with someone regularly who uses "I was only joking" as an excuse for being a prick, the trick is to ask them who they were trying to make laugh. They're using likeability as a shield, but there's no likeable answer to that.