The worst part of falling in love is knowing that, in the best case, you will hurt each other. Try to avoid it, and know it’s inevitable. Invest as much communication, connection, and repair practice as you can to help you turn those stop signs into speed bumps.

“I need attention.” “I need your attention.”

Humans need attention, and many of us struggle to accept that needing attention is healthy. If you can love and accept that your needs are real and be neutral toward them you can get them met in healthy ways.

Breathe. You’re ok.

Validation*

The price of validation is the acceptance that something really is true. Your justifications, your minimizations, your catastrophizing, your hopes, the stories you created to live in it, the deals you made with yourself to endure - all of it goes. It’s ok for letting go to be a thing.

Happy 2025!

Reminder: Transitions are hard for humans.

Whether it’s between tasks, tiles, or environments, the transition itself - needing it and respecting it - is part of your humanity. Take care of you!

Every person goes into their day wanting to be successful and their behavior will tell you exactly what they think success looks like. But it will never tell you why.

There’s a privilege to conversational ease. Representation is often cast as a way of inspiring children but it works for each of us who has been without. Tonight I got to say “Hsu, as in Stephanie not. Elizabeth.” It was beautiful.

My annual plea to Santa parents. Please, pleeeeeeease remember there are kids who celebrate Christmas but don’t have Santa. If you tell your kids that Santa is about being “good” or “naughty” they may use that to judge friends with other traditions.

Can you help me attribute this quote??

Humans crave consistency until it becomes rigidity, and flexibility until it becomes chaos.

I see it everywhere and use it all the time, particularly when any two humans draw the limits in different places.

I’d love to give credit and attention. Thank you!

Resolution revolution!

When you feel the pull to resolve to start and do things, remember that the space and time and energy you will need comes from resolving the things you need to conclude and let go of. Keep moving through revolutions of resolution.

There was a disturbance in the force today. It was a day is small hurts, minor slights that wouldn’t normally be noticed.

So this is the time to sit and not react, have a cup of tea, and see where my head is when the sun comes up.

See what tomorrow has to say. Take it in. Go from there.

In this season of giving, here’s a reminder that sharing your gifts/superpowers/magic is your choice.

You are not obligated to give them. They’re not wasted if you don’t use them. You’re not stingy if you hold them close.

They are still you, and you get to be in control.

They aren’t soft skills, they are Elemental Commitments. No fluffy layer to make you feel good. Not skills because it’s not about how good YOU are at them, but how committed you are to their importance. Forget rules, they are the values of engagement.

I love you. I believe you. I understand you.

Humans need all three. It’s beautiful when they come from the same source, but it’s not necessary. You get to decide how these need to align, you get to feel the truth of each one when they stand alone. It doesn’t need to be tidy.

First order of business on this #GivingTuesday -- donating to orgs like Amnesty International who will defend our human rights under a Trump Admin.

It’s Giving Tuesday, and I’m supporting Black and Pink National! www.tiktok.com/t/ZTYUBAfgu/
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If you’re able to donate, lovely! If not, a share is as good as a donation! 💗🖤

Dating when you have kids is a lot like being a kid. You try to come up with adult sounding versions of “can you go out in a school night?” and “when’s your curfew?” 😒