Love this piece! Also I have recently been curious about more 'hobby' findom dynamics, but always wondered how to negotiate that and also make sure it stays firmly in the hobby world, so it was great to read about the questions + rules of engagement you took into it

Also also, more shallowly, I'm bi and like subby guys taking the strap lol

Plus I feel I relate a *ton* to dommes talking about being late bloomers when it comes to dominance, because the dominant sexual cultural script for women is so, *so* sub/bottom centered

Like tbf I am a (mostly-)dude who switches to be a subtop for dommes, so that interest is clear. But also I feel like my interests as a transmasc who mostly doms and only tops are way more represented in F/m than in actual erotic depictions of transmasc people

oh wow! pink is not normally my colour, buuuuut... 👀

(Also this is me soft launching that, despite all the fuckery with the NHS over the past couple of years, I've actually got my referrals and funding sorted for phallo. Still 1+ year away (timing depending on how quickly my hair wants to be lasered), but on the horizon finally!)

the person having the crush feels like the crush top to me