Katie Kaput
@katiekaput.bsky.social
Trans woman. Mother of grown people. Chicagoan forever, long term Portlander. Writer-ish. And all at 43! ;)
I remember as a teenager excitedly realizing the threads that wove Throwing Muses—Belly—The Breeders together, too, in certain eras of the bands, despite being different. And there’s lots of other exploration they can enjoy of side and solo projects. So fun that you get to share music with them :)
November 16, 2025 at 3:34 PM
I remember as a teenager excitedly realizing the threads that wove Throwing Muses—Belly—The Breeders together, too, in certain eras of the bands, despite being different. And there’s lots of other exploration they can enjoy of side and solo projects. So fun that you get to share music with them :)
Throwing Muses is the band I always want the “I’m getting into 90s-ish alt music” kids to discover, so yay!
Also all of your other picks are great, too. Those are lucky kids :)
Also all of your other picks are great, too. Those are lucky kids :)
November 16, 2025 at 3:16 PM
Throwing Muses is the band I always want the “I’m getting into 90s-ish alt music” kids to discover, so yay!
Also all of your other picks are great, too. Those are lucky kids :)
Also all of your other picks are great, too. Those are lucky kids :)
I only read the piece in public once and I told everyone how horrible he is and that they should not support him
November 8, 2025 at 3:57 PM
I only read the piece in public once and I told everyone how horrible he is and that they should not support him
One of my pettiest regrets in life (can’t make the list of biggest because I’m 43) is that I had an essay published in an anthology that he also had an essay published in. Even though I didn’t know that before it came out.
November 8, 2025 at 3:52 PM
One of my pettiest regrets in life (can’t make the list of biggest because I’m 43) is that I had an essay published in an anthology that he also had an essay published in. Even though I didn’t know that before it came out.
I found so many things to add to my ridiculously large bandcamp collection here! Thanks!
November 4, 2025 at 10:13 PM
I found so many things to add to my ridiculously large bandcamp collection here! Thanks!
namely that struggles for trans liberation were primarily a distraction (or at the very least subordinate to) the communist revolution. Leslie Feinberg declined to repeat that and gave what seemed like a really smart and nuanced answer I wish I could remember more than 20 years later but I can’t.
October 15, 2025 at 11:49 AM
namely that struggles for trans liberation were primarily a distraction (or at the very least subordinate to) the communist revolution. Leslie Feinberg declined to repeat that and gave what seemed like a really smart and nuanced answer I wish I could remember more than 20 years later but I can’t.
Fast forward a year or two and I went with some friends to see Leslie Feinberg speak, and this same guy was there (actually with a queer teenager I knew who was in the same communist group he was) and he asked LF a question trying to get hir to repeat, in very specific language, his thoughts,
October 15, 2025 at 11:49 AM
Fast forward a year or two and I went with some friends to see Leslie Feinberg speak, and this same guy was there (actually with a queer teenager I knew who was in the same communist group he was) and he asked LF a question trying to get hir to repeat, in very specific language, his thoughts,
who should leave 16 year old trans girls alone (which led to a house meeting and me not sleeping over there anymore, whoops).
October 15, 2025 at 11:49 AM
who should leave 16 year old trans girls alone (which led to a house meeting and me not sleeping over there anymore, whoops).
At the time I was already a (non theoretical, entirely instinctual) anarchist, so while I didn’t do the best job getting out of the conversation promptly or have access to any theory to tell him he wasn’t even right from a communist perspective, I did tell him he was an asshole and a creep
October 15, 2025 at 11:49 AM
At the time I was already a (non theoretical, entirely instinctual) anarchist, so while I didn’t do the best job getting out of the conversation promptly or have access to any theory to tell him he wasn’t even right from a communist perspective, I did tell him he was an asshole and a creep
Except he didn’t! He wanted to lecture me about how trans people didn’t matter on any real scale (an argument I had heard at my job from an older hippie guy explaining why he wasn’t going to try to get my pronouns right), and specifically about how trans people were a bourgeois perversion.
October 15, 2025 at 11:49 AM
Except he didn’t! He wanted to lecture me about how trans people didn’t matter on any real scale (an argument I had heard at my job from an older hippie guy explaining why he wasn’t going to try to get my pronouns right), and specifically about how trans people were a bourgeois perversion.
When I read it I kind of assumed (as an Italian American, which she is too), that she was talking to Italian Americans in particular.
October 13, 2025 at 11:50 PM
When I read it I kind of assumed (as an Italian American, which she is too), that she was talking to Italian Americans in particular.
I get this… My Italian grandparents couldn’t speak English yet when they named their first born son “Peter” after Peter Jennings because they were trying to learn from TV. That might make me feel weird, or sad, or whatever… but it was also a strategy they chose and could choose.
October 13, 2025 at 11:18 PM
I get this… My Italian grandparents couldn’t speak English yet when they named their first born son “Peter” after Peter Jennings because they were trying to learn from TV. That might make me feel weird, or sad, or whatever… but it was also a strategy they chose and could choose.
You’re welcome! I plan to read your other book eventually, and this conversation turned into a nice random reminder. :) have a good day!
October 13, 2025 at 1:36 PM
You’re welcome! I plan to read your other book eventually, and this conversation turned into a nice random reminder. :) have a good day!
That smiley face was my very weird way of saying exactly! Haha. PS Birding was really great!
October 13, 2025 at 1:16 PM
That smiley face was my very weird way of saying exactly! Haha. PS Birding was really great!
This is also why I love the teens in my life so hard (although my youngest kid is about to leave the teen years), and seeing people’s pictures of earlier years of whatever age. I’m so glad people (generally) make it out of adolescence! It’s really often way too hard
October 13, 2025 at 12:53 PM
This is also why I love the teens in my life so hard (although my youngest kid is about to leave the teen years), and seeing people’s pictures of earlier years of whatever age. I’m so glad people (generally) make it out of adolescence! It’s really often way too hard
Haha, thanks! That was my purse for most of that time period (I also had a larger one for days when I had to carry more). That thrift store fur coat was ummmm not a very good fur coat and my hair was very asymmetrical under that hat but I am very fond of teenage me. She got me here! ;)
October 13, 2025 at 12:45 PM
Haha, thanks! That was my purse for most of that time period (I also had a larger one for days when I had to carry more). That thrift store fur coat was ummmm not a very good fur coat and my hair was very asymmetrical under that hat but I am very fond of teenage me. She got me here! ;)
The other issues are really cool too (maybe you’ve already seen them)
October 8, 2025 at 2:56 AM
The other issues are really cool too (maybe you’ve already seen them)
At this point no matter what I’m seeing there, I’m there forty minutes early if at all possible ;) I have seat preferences and if you’re a group of more than two people… you gotta be early! Luckily it’s fun to hang out and talk beforehand. And so nice to see movies with a real crowd.
September 29, 2025 at 4:03 PM
At this point no matter what I’m seeing there, I’m there forty minutes early if at all possible ;) I have seat preferences and if you’re a group of more than two people… you gotta be early! Luckily it’s fun to hang out and talk beforehand. And so nice to see movies with a real crowd.