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Ella 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈
@kaleideros.bsky.social
PhD, prof, writer, friend. Sending out good vibrations, and hope for the same in return.

Unpopular opinions are probably someone else’s.
Example: “Go fuck yourself”

I understand what you’re saying and how important it is to you, but I’m not really vibing with it, personally. I’m sure that when you find a way to make that idea truly resonate with yourself, you can really bring it to its climax.
February 5, 2025 at 10:30 AM
Witness the happy soul in the recovery room, despite the seismic change that was about to occur in my wardrobe:
February 5, 2025 at 9:02 AM
Then I changed all my ID’s, name and gender marker! Driver’s license, passport, nexus, global entry, and all the rest. (And ther is a long list!). Anyone who needs help with this, while we can, PM me.

Don’t pre-comply to the current bullshit. Let’s fight together.
February 5, 2025 at 8:32 AM
I changed my legal name — in a sealed court proceeding no less — in August. I sat in front of a judge, called him your honor and everything, and he gave me a hug at the end. He said he liked being part of someone’s important life event. ❤️
February 5, 2025 at 8:29 AM
Start, my name is actually Ella. For those who started with Jamie, that was an early moment during I was negotiating my identity. Jamie was ambiguous, but Ella is MY NAME.
February 5, 2025 at 8:25 AM
Clearly I am obsessed with the baking potential of lye. Yesterday, I made pretzels!
November 7, 2023 at 3:08 PM
Almost lost my deposit once upon a time bc of this. Mistook oven cleaner for carpet cleaner, trying to clean up a stain. Realized when the carpet started turning bright white, so rushed to the fridge & dumped organic lime juice on it. Then, I remembered the vinegar.
November 7, 2023 at 3:06 PM
Here’s “Artificial Light” from A Better Version of Me

No one defies artificial light
Simultaneous sitting 'til you atrophy
Maybe you try to be pretty instead of kind
Why is this technology an anathema to me?
If I could just breath it out
I could always breathe back in

https://youtu.be/IHojo0fjIa0
August 13, 2023 at 6:20 AM
Obligatory citation for the Rilke quote: The Book of Hours.

Side note, it’s worth checking out the *band* Rainer Maria (named after Rilke), emo-indie like Modest Mouse, but from Madison
August 13, 2023 at 6:16 AM
Gillian was/is my north star of feminine beauty, power, grace, & smarts. But I have tried not to hold up images of others as my object of (self-)desire. For me, the process of transitioning has been about taking steps, sometimes big ones emboldened by people around me.
August 13, 2023 at 6:14 AM
For my part, I think about transitioning as a process of love, the fullest expression of myself.

Love is opening, unfolding, without predetermined endpoints. A free process of self-realization that isn’t just isolated introspection, but is always responsive to others.
August 13, 2023 at 6:13 AM
“I want to unfold. Let no place in me hold itself closed, for where I am closed, I am false” -Rainer Maria Rilke

Rilke was talking about love, writing elsewhere in the poem about “being a mirror to your whole body.”

I think any trans person can identify with that.
August 13, 2023 at 6:10 AM
Gillian Anderson
July 29, 2023 at 3:20 AM
Ans wouldn’t it be reasonable, given all this, that we didn’t have to pay a veritable ransom at the pump? Meanwhile oil execs peddle lies about their sustainability with one hand, while they buy off politicians with the other.
July 28, 2023 at 5:32 AM