Jonathan Teo
@jonathantoteo.bsky.social
Australian * Widow * Lover of Japan * Born on stolen Lenni Lenape Land * Live on stolen Woiworung Country * He/Him * 🏳️🌈
Interested in explowring how we grieve and how various groups, especially the LGBTQIA+ community, confront the concept of death.
Interested in explowring how we grieve and how various groups, especially the LGBTQIA+ community, confront the concept of death.
When someone dies, we use euphamisms to avoid talking about it. And, we expect someone's grief to be brief and/or hidden - basically, "I'm sorry for your loss. Now, let's talk about something else."
This does a disservice to the one who has died, as well as to those of us who are grieving.
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This does a disservice to the one who has died, as well as to those of us who are grieving.
4/4
November 19, 2025 at 11:29 PM
When someone dies, we use euphamisms to avoid talking about it. And, we expect someone's grief to be brief and/or hidden - basically, "I'm sorry for your loss. Now, let's talk about something else."
This does a disservice to the one who has died, as well as to those of us who are grieving.
4/4
This does a disservice to the one who has died, as well as to those of us who are grieving.
4/4
In truth, the only certainties in life are birth & death. If you weren't born, you cannot die. Once you are born, you are inevitably headed to death.
So, why as a society do we avoid talking about death? We acknowledge birth. But, we are extremely uncomfortable recognising that death exists.
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So, why as a society do we avoid talking about death? We acknowledge birth. But, we are extremely uncomfortable recognising that death exists.
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November 19, 2025 at 11:29 PM
In truth, the only certainties in life are birth & death. If you weren't born, you cannot die. Once you are born, you are inevitably headed to death.
So, why as a society do we avoid talking about death? We acknowledge birth. But, we are extremely uncomfortable recognising that death exists.
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So, why as a society do we avoid talking about death? We acknowledge birth. But, we are extremely uncomfortable recognising that death exists.
3/4
However, no one, no matter how rich or famous, can avoid death no matter how hard they try. Death comes for all of us. Whether it comes in hours, years, or decades, whether he comes unexpectedly or with warning, he will come.
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November 19, 2025 at 11:29 PM
However, no one, no matter how rich or famous, can avoid death no matter how hard they try. Death comes for all of us. Whether it comes in hours, years, or decades, whether he comes unexpectedly or with warning, he will come.
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Part 2 is here: bsky.app/profile/jona...
From a support group for widowed people (i.e., wids), here are some that they all agree you shouldn't say.
You may think you're being supportive and/or understanding, but you're not when you say these things to us.
Pt. 2
#widowhood #grief #bereft #dontsaythat
You may think you're being supportive and/or understanding, but you're not when you say these things to us.
Pt. 2
#widowhood #grief #bereft #dontsaythat
October 20, 2025 at 1:57 AM
Part 2 is here: bsky.app/profile/jona...