Even people who believe in compromise - me - have things they would *never* compromise on. I reject the idea that compromise *itself* should be one of those things never compromised on.

The people who post the shit that's killing the mental health of trans people online are also the ones cis normies are the most repelled by. But frankly, if you recognize "There are some situations where compromise is okay", you actually *already* mostly agree with me anyway!

I blame posters who say shit like this because I know that the number one way I get through to people who are somewhat transphobic is I just go "Nah I'm not like people online" and let them feel comfortable about saying shit around me, because they hate *this* shit *specifically*.

Of course you deserve, morally, the health care and safety denied to you for being trans. And you don't have it. If someone offers "Okay, you'll get a bit more than what you have now, but I'll misgender you behind your back", are you really gonna say no to that shit?

Of course it should be yours inherently. But it's being denied to you. How are you going to get it? I recognize the unfairness and move on and then use my *skills* in compromise. The more I "demand", the *less* I get. That's the *entire* point. It's the demanding behaviour that hurts trans people.

I'll stop having an issue with furries when furries stop being the ones advocating the most damaging behaviour for trans people that has lead us to where we are today.

Here's the reality - they do give me some. And then I build on that and I get some more. It is something I'm quite capable of doing. I can get transphobes to give inches and then give further inches. Also getting mad because I said "Furry" is actually just funny, lol.

All political power - and there are no exceptions, not even with violence involved - is based on popular approval and consensus. It's based on people agreeing with you. Use common sense - what gets people to agree with you more? This is actually incredibly obvious and basic.

Obviously I fucking want all of my rights lol. Now how do I *get* my rights? If I just keep Demanding Demanding Dmeanding when it's becoming clear people are getting LESS AND LESS WILLING TO GIVE THEM, how will I magically, suddenly, get them?

"That's not how this works" then why does it *keep working*? Why am I able to get people who start off as totally unsympathetic to trans issues to become more and more normal about them? Here's the reality - it's because I acknowledge the behaviours they hate. That's why.

"Yeah it's weird that I'm trans" - they see me as normal. They start to potentially even like me. Then I vent about a trans thing in front of them. Now they have more sympathy. The progress builds. It literally *happens*. Now let's look at my alternative: Unemployment! Fun, right?

Every time I'm subject to the worst takes that turn normie cis people off us the most it also by and large comes from furry circles. Here's the reality: I have the literal life experience that giving inches lets me build to miles. You start with *nothing* with these people.

Oh of course, that's right, I should make myself as dramatic a problem for HR as possible because a furry looked down on me! If the compromise is simply a full win compared to where I currently am, then I'll take it. And then once I have that, I get the full win later. It should be common sense.

Of course I want better for myself. And to get better for myself, I'll take stuff that's better than what I could otherwise get, then build on that to get better. People are turned off by the behaviour of leftist trans people and suddenly relax a lot more once you signal you're not like that.

Meeting half way would obviously mean giving some rights instead of all rights? I'll take some rights instead of no rights.

In real life frankly meeting someone half way means sometimes accepting someone misgenders you when you're not around in exchange for being gendered correctly when you are, or playing off "Yeah it's weird I'm trans" to get people to relax around you.

I mean because they have the power and we don't? We have nothing to offer them? It has nothing to do with fairness, it's just about who already has the power. The people with the power offering a compromise have something to offer us, we have no leverage.