IdeaSmith
@ideasmithy.bsky.social
Ideas are toys for a playful mind.
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Let’s stop calling them angry men and call them what they are. Spiteful narcissists. Calling them angry men humanises monstrous actions while also silencing their victims. A human adult who spews poison in action & words does not deserve that excuse. Call them narcissists. Unless you’re one.
November 13, 2025 at 11:08 AM
Let’s stop calling them angry men and call them what they are. Spiteful narcissists. Calling them angry men humanises monstrous actions while also silencing their victims. A human adult who spews poison in action & words does not deserve that excuse. Call them narcissists. Unless you’re one.
Anxiety in men is just a capitalist word to excuse entitlement, control games and socially condoned abuse. Nobody else gets to get away with these things, refuse to get help and anyway be excused as being mentally ill.
November 13, 2025 at 10:58 AM
Anxiety in men is just a capitalist word to excuse entitlement, control games and socially condoned abuse. Nobody else gets to get away with these things, refuse to get help and anyway be excused as being mentally ill.
All the book club discussions I’ve been to this year are decidedly not literary discussions. Instead they’re about people’s personal feelings. Like group therapy meets toxic fandom. People are reading to become book influencers. It’s probably good for publishers now but I don’t see it lasting.
November 13, 2025 at 8:58 AM
All the book club discussions I’ve been to this year are decidedly not literary discussions. Instead they’re about people’s personal feelings. Like group therapy meets toxic fandom. People are reading to become book influencers. It’s probably good for publishers now but I don’t see it lasting.
Fat golden shallots make sambar just hit differently. Yum, what genius is Southern home cooking.
November 13, 2025 at 8:27 AM
Fat golden shallots make sambar just hit differently. Yum, what genius is Southern home cooking.
I’m not too worried about AI taking away my job right now because I have full faith in the lazy greed of capitalism that cuts costs with zero regard for crash-and-burn scenarios. I saw it happen with the dotcom boom/bust and the social media wave/mess.
November 12, 2025 at 5:48 PM
I’m not too worried about AI taking away my job right now because I have full faith in the lazy greed of capitalism that cuts costs with zero regard for crash-and-burn scenarios. I saw it happen with the dotcom boom/bust and the social media wave/mess.
I love drawing buildings and interiors without people because they are studies in geometry and light.
I enjoy this because drawing lets me break the rules of gravity and perspective and shade just because I like how pencil scratches look there.
#Ideart
I enjoy this because drawing lets me break the rules of gravity and perspective and shade just because I like how pencil scratches look there.
#Ideart
November 12, 2025 at 5:35 PM
I love drawing buildings and interiors without people because they are studies in geometry and light.
I enjoy this because drawing lets me break the rules of gravity and perspective and shade just because I like how pencil scratches look there.
#Ideart
I enjoy this because drawing lets me break the rules of gravity and perspective and shade just because I like how pencil scratches look there.
#Ideart
Why is no one talking about ‘Nobody Wants This’ on Netflix? It’s very Indian-relatable from the snooping aunties to the communal boundary violations to of course, religious discrimination as identity.
November 12, 2025 at 6:49 AM
Why is no one talking about ‘Nobody Wants This’ on Netflix? It’s very Indian-relatable from the snooping aunties to the communal boundary violations to of course, religious discrimination as identity.
Probably too much to expect non Dravidians to say Bengaluru right when they haven’t managed to say Chennai correctly for 20 years. Never mind Sambar that has exactly two As pronounced exactly the same but they’ll randomly stretch out one in the manner of Americans mocking an Indian accent.
November 11, 2025 at 6:40 PM
Probably too much to expect non Dravidians to say Bengaluru right when they haven’t managed to say Chennai correctly for 20 years. Never mind Sambar that has exactly two As pronounced exactly the same but they’ll randomly stretch out one in the manner of Americans mocking an Indian accent.
November 11, 2025 at 6:11 PM
Just read the phrase ‘bitter divorcee energy’ and I immediately thought of all the men frothing at the mouth over WhatsApp groups.
Funnily enough, the women divorcees look tired at worst and relieved at best. No time or reason for bitterness after escaping marriage.
Funnily enough, the women divorcees look tired at worst and relieved at best. No time or reason for bitterness after escaping marriage.
November 10, 2025 at 8:50 PM
Just read the phrase ‘bitter divorcee energy’ and I immediately thought of all the men frothing at the mouth over WhatsApp groups.
Funnily enough, the women divorcees look tired at worst and relieved at best. No time or reason for bitterness after escaping marriage.
Funnily enough, the women divorcees look tired at worst and relieved at best. No time or reason for bitterness after escaping marriage.
I’ve been pondering how to respond to people angrily saying “I didn’t know that” when I stop their nasty assumptions with my realities. Maybe I’ll take a page out of this and ask, “Now that you know, what are you going to do with that knowledge?”
Not hopeful about positive results though.
Not hopeful about positive results though.
I got this useful bon mot from a middle school teacher recently.
In response to, “I DONT UNDERSTAND,” he calmly said, “okay what steps have you taken to understand?”
And that’s when I realized that a lot of folks have no steps.
In response to, “I DONT UNDERSTAND,” he calmly said, “okay what steps have you taken to understand?”
And that’s when I realized that a lot of folks have no steps.
November 10, 2025 at 8:14 PM
I’ve been pondering how to respond to people angrily saying “I didn’t know that” when I stop their nasty assumptions with my realities. Maybe I’ll take a page out of this and ask, “Now that you know, what are you going to do with that knowledge?”
Not hopeful about positive results though.
Not hopeful about positive results though.
Don’t know if this is true anywhere else but Hinge is India is open season for married men too lazy to get a divorce but feeling entitled to flirtation and even side-pieces because they’re so sad. Utter garbage this gender.
November 10, 2025 at 5:22 PM
Don’t know if this is true anywhere else but Hinge is India is open season for married men too lazy to get a divorce but feeling entitled to flirtation and even side-pieces because they’re so sad. Utter garbage this gender.
Sounds like Literature Live went the marketing way and prioritised influencers. Heard it from someone who’s often complaining so may not be true. But the crowds make it seem like it. Well, good on the books business if they can attract more readers.
November 10, 2025 at 8:32 AM
Sounds like Literature Live went the marketing way and prioritised influencers. Heard it from someone who’s often complaining so may not be true. But the crowds make it seem like it. Well, good on the books business if they can attract more readers.
Rama met the future mayor of New York City on Hinge what am I doing wrong?
a man in a suit and tie stands in front of an elevator that says truly you need to stop
ALT: a man in a suit and tie stands in front of an elevator that says truly you need to stop
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November 6, 2025 at 7:00 PM
Rama met the future mayor of New York City on Hinge what am I doing wrong?
What makes well-educated, well-travelled 40-something (and that’s old enough) men think that off-colour jokes make for appropriate dating bios? Bad ones, that too.
November 6, 2025 at 7:43 AM
What makes well-educated, well-travelled 40-something (and that’s old enough) men think that off-colour jokes make for appropriate dating bios? Bad ones, that too.
Just came across a Hinge bio that says “Will make you laugh when you feel like dying because of periods”.
Can we find the inventor of Indian men and jail them?
Can we find the inventor of Indian men and jail them?
a cartoon drawing of a cat with a very angry expression
ALT: a cartoon drawing of a cat with a very angry expression
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November 3, 2025 at 3:44 PM
Just came across a Hinge bio that says “Will make you laugh when you feel like dying because of periods”.
Can we find the inventor of Indian men and jail them?
Can we find the inventor of Indian men and jail them?
15 years ago, I anticipated seeing my misbehaving male peers brought down by life when their Raja beta status withered. Now I look at misbehaving men and realise I’ll see them go to miserable ends because I’ll outlive them. What a waste of life.
November 2, 2025 at 10:54 AM
15 years ago, I anticipated seeing my misbehaving male peers brought down by life when their Raja beta status withered. Now I look at misbehaving men and realise I’ll see them go to miserable ends because I’ll outlive them. What a waste of life.
You know men may live shorter lives on average, but that’s not counting the days lost doubled over in pain so bad your teeth chatter and you can’t keep even water down, that most menstruators experience at some time.
November 1, 2025 at 2:38 AM
You know men may live shorter lives on average, but that’s not counting the days lost doubled over in pain so bad your teeth chatter and you can’t keep even water down, that most menstruators experience at some time.
Whew, dating in your 40s is exhausting. Because the men have not changed one bit except they have less hair, more paunch, a messy marriage that they pretend is over and blame the lack of divorce on the law being “women-oriented”.
October 25, 2025 at 8:10 PM
Whew, dating in your 40s is exhausting. Because the men have not changed one bit except they have less hair, more paunch, a messy marriage that they pretend is over and blame the lack of divorce on the law being “women-oriented”.
Banana Leaf is sweeping new lows. Rude condescending waiters who inform you that no chutney will be given for rice ka roti (neer dosa), bring coffee spilt all over the tray and sloshing and reluctantly hand you food retrieved from under filthy plates. Not so much as a sorry.
October 25, 2025 at 11:34 AM
Banana Leaf is sweeping new lows. Rude condescending waiters who inform you that no chutney will be given for rice ka roti (neer dosa), bring coffee spilt all over the tray and sloshing and reluctantly hand you food retrieved from under filthy plates. Not so much as a sorry.
I thought South Indians were bad at hospitality services. But nothing beats a North Indian man away from his Raja Beta godi having to actually *gasp* work, that too for kale Southies and pairon-ki-dhool women. So much resentment & entitlement and not a cell of skill or talent.
October 25, 2025 at 11:32 AM
I thought South Indians were bad at hospitality services. But nothing beats a North Indian man away from his Raja Beta godi having to actually *gasp* work, that too for kale Southies and pairon-ki-dhool women. So much resentment & entitlement and not a cell of skill or talent.
I always think of the scene from Men In Black 2.
“I get sad when it rains."
“It’s raining because you’re sad, baby."
“I get sad when it rains."
“It’s raining because you’re sad, baby."
October 24, 2025 at 5:10 PM
I always think of the scene from Men In Black 2.
“I get sad when it rains."
“It’s raining because you’re sad, baby."
“I get sad when it rains."
“It’s raining because you’re sad, baby."
I know I’m beating mental illness when I’m able to go to a good book store for comfort and walk out an hour later without buying a thing, because I know I have a shelf of good unread books waiting for me at home.
Today, I did.
Today, I did.
October 24, 2025 at 5:09 PM
I know I’m beating mental illness when I’m able to go to a good book store for comfort and walk out an hour later without buying a thing, because I know I have a shelf of good unread books waiting for me at home.
Today, I did.
Today, I did.
Medication doesn’t cure depression. It seems to press it deeper in, from your feelings into your very bones. ‘Bone-tired’ is a literal description. Like your entire skeleton just turned to paste and is sinking into a puddle on the floor. Then you sleep and that can be healing.
October 24, 2025 at 5:08 PM
Medication doesn’t cure depression. It seems to press it deeper in, from your feelings into your very bones. ‘Bone-tired’ is a literal description. Like your entire skeleton just turned to paste and is sinking into a puddle on the floor. Then you sleep and that can be healing.
Books I currently love: Like Water for Chocolate, The Namesake, Salt & Saffron, The Pregnant King, The Kite Runner, The Time-Traveller’s Wife and The Covenant of Water (1/2)
October 24, 2025 at 3:45 PM
Books I currently love: Like Water for Chocolate, The Namesake, Salt & Saffron, The Pregnant King, The Kite Runner, The Time-Traveller’s Wife and The Covenant of Water (1/2)