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My general "I'm scared about politics and need to find something to do" post, aka, "I'm giving you homework."
Pick one small actionable thing you can do _today_. Not tomorrow, not next week.
Some things you can do in different genres.
Reading, either buy or check out from the library and […]
Pick one small actionable thing you can do _today_. Not tomorrow, not next week.
Some things you can do in different genres.
Reading, either buy or check out from the library and […]
Become the lipstick lesbian you want to see in the world.
December 8, 2025 at 1:26 AM
Become the lipstick lesbian you want to see in the world.
"Your idea of sex and consent is very limited, for example in pickup play in dungeons…"
"Can you say more about what you mean about pickup play and dungeons and dragons?"
Uh. Child.
"Can you say more about what you mean about pickup play and dungeons and dragons?"
Uh. Child.
December 7, 2025 at 10:12 PM
"Your idea of sex and consent is very limited, for example in pickup play in dungeons…"
"Can you say more about what you mean about pickup play and dungeons and dragons?"
Uh. Child.
"Can you say more about what you mean about pickup play and dungeons and dragons?"
Uh. Child.
It always reminds me of the people who would say "oh if you need CMYK you can just ADD IT TO GIMP rather than use photoshop" (back in the days when there was no support in Gimp for it).
What's the problem, it's open source, isn't it?
Like. Do you understand the number of structural barriers […]
What's the problem, it's open source, isn't it?
Like. Do you understand the number of structural barriers […]
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hachyderm.io
December 7, 2025 at 8:34 PM
It always reminds me of the people who would say "oh if you need CMYK you can just ADD IT TO GIMP rather than use photoshop" (back in the days when there was no support in Gimp for it).
What's the problem, it's open source, isn't it?
Like. Do you understand the number of structural barriers […]
What's the problem, it's open source, isn't it?
Like. Do you understand the number of structural barriers […]
It's amazing how good and affirming it feels to wear dresses and not be wildly dysphoric.
December 7, 2025 at 7:54 PM
It's amazing how good and affirming it feels to wear dresses and not be wildly dysphoric.
What i am learning from responses to this is that:
1. A lot of people are taking a joke about a hypnotherapist in a review by a hypnokinkster entirely too seriously.
2. A lot of people don't know what they don't know about hypnosis.
https://hachyderm.io/@hrefna/115674038756617137
1. A lot of people are taking a joke about a hypnotherapist in a review by a hypnokinkster entirely too seriously.
2. A lot of people don't know what they don't know about hypnosis.
https://hachyderm.io/@hrefna/115674038756617137
Hrefna (DHC) (@hrefna@hachyderm.io)
Quote I came across about Milton Erickson's methods: "it's not gaslighting if it's therapy" and omg.
hachyderm.io
December 7, 2025 at 6:33 PM
What i am learning from responses to this is that:
1. A lot of people are taking a joke about a hypnotherapist in a review by a hypnokinkster entirely too seriously.
2. A lot of people don't know what they don't know about hypnosis.
https://hachyderm.io/@hrefna/115674038756617137
1. A lot of people are taking a joke about a hypnotherapist in a review by a hypnokinkster entirely too seriously.
2. A lot of people don't know what they don't know about hypnosis.
https://hachyderm.io/@hrefna/115674038756617137
Quote I came across about Milton Erickson's methods: "it's not gaslighting if it's therapy" and omg.
December 6, 2025 at 7:24 PM
Quote I came across about Milton Erickson's methods: "it's not gaslighting if it's therapy" and omg.
Men: "woe is us, no one will date us"
Also men: She must be cis, between the ages of 18 (unless we're in Alabama, in which case 16 is acceptable) and 25, conventionally attractive, white, thin but not too thin, short enough that she's still shorter than me in heels, cater to my every whim, have […]
Also men: She must be cis, between the ages of 18 (unless we're in Alabama, in which case 16 is acceptable) and 25, conventionally attractive, white, thin but not too thin, short enough that she's still shorter than me in heels, cater to my every whim, have […]
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hachyderm.io
December 5, 2025 at 9:12 PM
Men: "woe is us, no one will date us"
Also men: She must be cis, between the ages of 18 (unless we're in Alabama, in which case 16 is acceptable) and 25, conventionally attractive, white, thin but not too thin, short enough that she's still shorter than me in heels, cater to my every whim, have […]
Also men: She must be cis, between the ages of 18 (unless we're in Alabama, in which case 16 is acceptable) and 25, conventionally attractive, white, thin but not too thin, short enough that she's still shorter than me in heels, cater to my every whim, have […]
Dear gods #HSR.
You really wrote the character for me that "If I were to write a self-insert character for the HSR universe" with the Constance, didn't you.
High femme, cunning, manipulative, frenemies with Firefly? Like she's perect.
You really wrote the character for me that "If I were to write a self-insert character for the HSR universe" with the Constance, didn't you.
High femme, cunning, manipulative, frenemies with Firefly? Like she's perect.
December 5, 2025 at 7:35 PM
Dear gods #HSR.
You really wrote the character for me that "If I were to write a self-insert character for the HSR universe" with the Constance, didn't you.
High femme, cunning, manipulative, frenemies with Firefly? Like she's perect.
You really wrote the character for me that "If I were to write a self-insert character for the HSR universe" with the Constance, didn't you.
High femme, cunning, manipulative, frenemies with Firefly? Like she's perect.
Aside, if _this appears italicized_ you are using software that is noncompliant with AP as written.
December 4, 2025 at 7:38 PM
Aside, if _this appears italicized_ you are using software that is noncompliant with AP as written.
One challenge I would like people in the AP-based web to think about:
Why do we have our platforms split _vertically_ by _type_ of content rather than _horizontally_ by _purpose_ of content.
For example.
We have eighty gajillion microblogging platforms (not including misskey forks) that all […]
Why do we have our platforms split _vertically_ by _type_ of content rather than _horizontally_ by _purpose_ of content.
For example.
We have eighty gajillion microblogging platforms (not including misskey forks) that all […]
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hachyderm.io
December 4, 2025 at 7:10 PM
One challenge I would like people in the AP-based web to think about:
Why do we have our platforms split _vertically_ by _type_ of content rather than _horizontally_ by _purpose_ of content.
For example.
We have eighty gajillion microblogging platforms (not including misskey forks) that all […]
Why do we have our platforms split _vertically_ by _type_ of content rather than _horizontally_ by _purpose_ of content.
For example.
We have eighty gajillion microblogging platforms (not including misskey forks) that all […]
Samantha Fulnecky's essay would not have passed muster in my 8th grade english class.
Like. What even did I just read through.
Like. What even did I just read through.
December 3, 2025 at 4:47 PM
Samantha Fulnecky's essay would not have passed muster in my 8th grade english class.
Like. What even did I just read through.
Like. What even did I just read through.
What is it with people thinking that merely seeing partial nudity constitutes sexual assault?
Like. Seriously now.
I keep seeing examples of it.
Like. Seriously now.
I keep seeing examples of it.
December 2, 2025 at 7:51 AM
What is it with people thinking that merely seeing partial nudity constitutes sexual assault?
Like. Seriously now.
I keep seeing examples of it.
Like. Seriously now.
I keep seeing examples of it.
Clair Obscur was one of the best games I have ever played…
…until act III. At which point it didn't become bad by _any_ stretch and still GotY worthy on multiple, but as a _game_ I found it much more lacking and it lost a lot of narrative power for me.
I still loved the story and everything in […]
…until act III. At which point it didn't become bad by _any_ stretch and still GotY worthy on multiple, but as a _game_ I found it much more lacking and it lost a lot of narrative power for me.
I still loved the story and everything in […]
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hachyderm.io
December 1, 2025 at 7:27 PM
Clair Obscur was one of the best games I have ever played…
…until act III. At which point it didn't become bad by _any_ stretch and still GotY worthy on multiple, but as a _game_ I found it much more lacking and it lost a lot of narrative power for me.
I still loved the story and everything in […]
…until act III. At which point it didn't become bad by _any_ stretch and still GotY worthy on multiple, but as a _game_ I found it much more lacking and it lost a lot of narrative power for me.
I still loved the story and everything in […]
Time to once again discuss the "rounding up/give $5 at the register or charity."
It isn't a tax writeoff for the company. Period. You aren't giving them money that goes to their tax writeoff. That's not how any of this works.
If they say "we donate 10% of our proceeds to charity!" _that's_ […]
It isn't a tax writeoff for the company. Period. You aren't giving them money that goes to their tax writeoff. That's not how any of this works.
If they say "we donate 10% of our proceeds to charity!" _that's_ […]
Original post on hachyderm.io
hachyderm.io
December 1, 2025 at 4:46 AM
Time to once again discuss the "rounding up/give $5 at the register or charity."
It isn't a tax writeoff for the company. Period. You aren't giving them money that goes to their tax writeoff. That's not how any of this works.
If they say "we donate 10% of our proceeds to charity!" _that's_ […]
It isn't a tax writeoff for the company. Period. You aren't giving them money that goes to their tax writeoff. That's not how any of this works.
If they say "we donate 10% of our proceeds to charity!" _that's_ […]
I've seen now like, four different variations in the last two days of:
* Community A uses term Y to mean one thing.
* Community B independently uses Y (or something similar to Y) to mean something else.
Entire discussions then ensue about "colonizing" or "appropriating" or something similar […]
* Community A uses term Y to mean one thing.
* Community B independently uses Y (or something similar to Y) to mean something else.
Entire discussions then ensue about "colonizing" or "appropriating" or something similar […]
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hachyderm.io
November 30, 2025 at 2:01 AM
I've seen now like, four different variations in the last two days of:
* Community A uses term Y to mean one thing.
* Community B independently uses Y (or something similar to Y) to mean something else.
Entire discussions then ensue about "colonizing" or "appropriating" or something similar […]
* Community A uses term Y to mean one thing.
* Community B independently uses Y (or something similar to Y) to mean something else.
Entire discussions then ensue about "colonizing" or "appropriating" or something similar […]
Me: "Do you want this diced or chopped or what?"
Them: "Diced, definitely, but don't stress over it"
Me: "Got it"
Me: "I'm not going to dice <a different vegetable> I'm going to slice it (rondelle)"
Them: "uhhhhhh, isn't that the same as dicing?????"
…………no. No they are not.
Them: "Diced, definitely, but don't stress over it"
Me: "Got it"
Me: "I'm not going to dice <a different vegetable> I'm going to slice it (rondelle)"
Them: "uhhhhhh, isn't that the same as dicing?????"
…………no. No they are not.
November 29, 2025 at 10:02 PM
Me: "Do you want this diced or chopped or what?"
Them: "Diced, definitely, but don't stress over it"
Me: "Got it"
Me: "I'm not going to dice <a different vegetable> I'm going to slice it (rondelle)"
Them: "uhhhhhh, isn't that the same as dicing?????"
…………no. No they are not.
Them: "Diced, definitely, but don't stress over it"
Me: "Got it"
Me: "I'm not going to dice <a different vegetable> I'm going to slice it (rondelle)"
Them: "uhhhhhh, isn't that the same as dicing?????"
…………no. No they are not.
Gods I hate the "the curtains are just blue there's no deeper meaning" arguments. _Especially_ when they come from authors. Like seriously now, how bad of a writer do you have to be to think that?
November 29, 2025 at 9:24 PM
Gods I hate the "the curtains are just blue there's no deeper meaning" arguments. _Especially_ when they come from authors. Like seriously now, how bad of a writer do you have to be to think that?
"If you have a bunch of partners and decide to get married to all of them, don't your hands get crowded?"
"Well. Have you ever seen how lesbians use rings?"
"…okay fair"
"Well. Have you ever seen how lesbians use rings?"
"…okay fair"
November 29, 2025 at 6:43 PM
"If you have a bunch of partners and decide to get married to all of them, don't your hands get crowded?"
"Well. Have you ever seen how lesbians use rings?"
"…okay fair"
"Well. Have you ever seen how lesbians use rings?"
"…okay fair"
Watching something that uses in-jargon break containment is always fascinating and horrifying.
November 29, 2025 at 2:03 AM
Watching something that uses in-jargon break containment is always fascinating and horrifying.
I have, like, an entire character analysis I want to write on Alastor, but I don't actually because there's no way I want to get involved in that fandom discourse.
November 27, 2025 at 9:26 PM
I have, like, an entire character analysis I want to write on Alastor, but I don't actually because there's no way I want to get involved in that fandom discourse.
Happy Anniversary of the WKRP Turkey Drop to those who celebrate.
November 27, 2025 at 7:20 PM
Happy Anniversary of the WKRP Turkey Drop to those who celebrate.
Reposted by Hrefna (DHC)
1. It would appear that in recent reporting, the BBC is now using the phrase "biological male who identifies as a woman" when they mean to talk about a transgender woman.
This is an incredibly demeaning way to talk about transgender women in news pieces.
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This is an incredibly demeaning way to talk about transgender women in news pieces.
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BBC Now Calling Trans Women 'Biological Males Who Identify As Women'
These stories come in the aftermath of allegations that a small but mighty cabal of “LGBT reporters” had somehow seized control of the BBC and “censored” right-wing views.
www.erininthemorning.com
November 27, 2025 at 1:13 AM
1. It would appear that in recent reporting, the BBC is now using the phrase "biological male who identifies as a woman" when they mean to talk about a transgender woman.
This is an incredibly demeaning way to talk about transgender women in news pieces.
Subscribe to support our journalism.
This is an incredibly demeaning way to talk about transgender women in news pieces.
Subscribe to support our journalism.
There is a particular genre of trans woman, usually in their 20s but sometimes older or younger, who seems to think that the process for transition that others go through is "take HRT, get levels set, and then Ka-Girl! Your dysphoria disappears and you now get gendered correctly constantly when […]
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hachyderm.io
November 26, 2025 at 3:56 PM
There is a particular genre of trans woman, usually in their 20s but sometimes older or younger, who seems to think that the process for transition that others go through is "take HRT, get levels set, and then Ka-Girl! Your dysphoria disappears and you now get gendered correctly constantly when […]
I just saw a supposedly leftist meme published on a supposedly leftist account… attacking AOC for supporting extending subsidies.
Because it isn't universal health care.
Can the left just… not?
Because it isn't universal health care.
Can the left just… not?
November 25, 2025 at 6:08 AM
I just saw a supposedly leftist meme published on a supposedly leftist account… attacking AOC for supporting extending subsidies.
Because it isn't universal health care.
Can the left just… not?
Because it isn't universal health care.
Can the left just… not?
I HAVE ANOTHER COMPANY I CAN ORDER SHOES FROM, ONE THAT MAKES ACTUAL DANCE SHOES.
This is _very_ exciting.
This is _very_ exciting.
November 25, 2025 at 3:56 AM
I HAVE ANOTHER COMPANY I CAN ORDER SHOES FROM, ONE THAT MAKES ACTUAL DANCE SHOES.
This is _very_ exciting.
This is _very_ exciting.