Heather Havrilesky
@heatherhav.bsky.social
Author of Ask Polly + Ask Molly on Substack + four books, most recently Foreverland.
Refusing to compulsively please others will make you more generous and helpful, not less.
Firm boundaries and self-knowledge help you grow into someone who can change the world for the better.
www.nytimes.com/2025/08/25/s...
Firm boundaries and self-knowledge help you grow into someone who can change the world for the better.
www.nytimes.com/2025/08/25/s...
Is Today’s Self-Help Teaching Everyone to Be a Jerk?
www.nytimes.com
August 25, 2025 at 5:42 PM
Refusing to compulsively please others will make you more generous and helpful, not less.
Firm boundaries and self-knowledge help you grow into someone who can change the world for the better.
www.nytimes.com/2025/08/25/s...
Firm boundaries and self-knowledge help you grow into someone who can change the world for the better.
www.nytimes.com/2025/08/25/s...
Read to your toddler every night but set firm boundaries. Start strict and relax as they get older. Many progressive parents start out very lenient and flexible and then panic and feel resentful once their kids are running the show.
July 3, 2025 at 1:57 PM
Read to your toddler every night but set firm boundaries. Start strict and relax as they get older. Many progressive parents start out very lenient and flexible and then panic and feel resentful once their kids are running the show.
My best parenting advice: Keep your babies and toddlers safe but don't kill yourself trying to talk to them around the clock. Save some energy for when they turn 11 and they need a lot of your time, affection, presence, patience, and enthusiasm.
July 3, 2025 at 1:53 PM
My best parenting advice: Keep your babies and toddlers safe but don't kill yourself trying to talk to them around the clock. Save some energy for when they turn 11 and they need a lot of your time, affection, presence, patience, and enthusiasm.
Sadly, at the exact moment when babies need the most attention — age 13 — their parents expect to be able to cruise for the first time. Thirteen-year-old babies are the most baby-like babies of all! They need presence. They need companionship. They need patience. They need quiet acceptance.
July 3, 2025 at 1:52 PM
Sadly, at the exact moment when babies need the most attention — age 13 — their parents expect to be able to cruise for the first time. Thirteen-year-old babies are the most baby-like babies of all! They need presence. They need companionship. They need patience. They need quiet acceptance.