That means that if we want to transform our decision-making, we must go beyond frameworks that rely purely on logic.

It isn't that logic isn’t important – it absolutely is. The myth is that pure logic is enough.

But despite all the calculations, they end up more confused than when they started — trapped in an endless cycle of overthinking.

Studies show that when the emotional center of your brain is impaired, it takes hours to make a simple decision, like where to eat or what pen color to choose.



That's the whole idea behind guilt and shame: To create a sense of obligation.

Hint: It’s impossible to love fully when you feel obligated or when you’re trying to make someone feel obligated.

I was floored.

It reminded me that often the best teacher isn’t the expert — it’s someone who is one step ahead of you in the process.