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Joe Hudson
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Transformation coach to the world’s top leaders and founders. Former VC. Father & husband. Tweets on how to create a life you deeply love.
It took me decades of sitting with my stuckness to realize that every time I was stuck, I was actually just scared of the consequences.
January 10, 2025 at 5:00 PM
All conflict stem from two questions.

1 Who is in charge?
2 And how much do you love me?

Address these two things without being defensive and most issues go
away.
January 9, 2025 at 6:00 PM
Most people believe that we make logical decisions — and that to make better decisions, we need to be MORE logical.

But modern neurology shows us that all our decisions are made in the emotional center of the brain.
January 8, 2025 at 6:00 PM
Why really smart people still make bad decisions:

Over the last two decades, I’ve worked with thousands of people who get stuck in analysis paralysis.

They think if they just analyze enough, research enough, and plan enough, they'll reach the perfect decision.
January 7, 2025 at 6:00 PM
The next time you feel judgmental:

Ask yourself:

1. What would I have to feel if I couldn't judge the person I'm judging?
2. Feel it
January 6, 2025 at 9:31 PM
Obligation, guilt, and shame are close cousins.

Guilt = Trying to make you feel obligated to do something.
Shame = Trying to make you feel obligated to be a certain way.

January 5, 2025 at 6:00 PM
Being stuck in making a decision is an indication that you’re fighting your intuition.
January 4, 2025 at 8:00 PM
Emotional abuse doesn’t just mean yelling or physical violence.

It includes anytime you use your emotions to control another person.

This can be anger, but it can also be fear or sadness.
January 3, 2025 at 5:00 PM
How to know if you’re making a decision from fear or empowerment:

1 If you’re making the decision to try to manage the outcome, it’s from fear
2 If you’re following your truth despite the outcome, it’s from empowerment
January 2, 2025 at 8:00 PM
Feeling stuck is an indicator that you’re not feeling an emotion all the way through.

The most common emotion trapped beneath stuckness is anger.
January 1, 2025 at 5:00 PM
A few years ago, I was leading a retreat and helping someone process their anger. But I kept failing at it. Nothing I did worked.

Then, someone who I had just helped on their anger went over, and helped this person break through in less than 30 seconds.
December 31, 2024 at 7:00 PM
The most dangerous decisions aren't the risky ones.

They're the ones we make to avoid feeling something - whether it’s a fear of failure, rejection, or guilt.
December 31, 2024 at 5:00 PM
If you’re dealing with a manipulative person, this one will f*ck with your head:

Manipulation is an attempt to get our needs met without owning our needs.
December 30, 2024 at 6:00 PM
The most dangerous decisions aren't the risky ones.

They're the ones we make to avoid feeling something - whether it’s a fear of failure, rejection, or guilt.
December 29, 2024 at 6:00 PM
Feeling afraid to make the wrong choice is a sign that you're already making the wrong choice.
December 28, 2024 at 8:00 PM
Self-love is like gravity.

It’s always there, but we seldom recognize that we’re feeling it.
December 28, 2024 at 6:00 PM
The more defensive you are about a belief you have, the more likely that that belief is standing in the way of your freedom.
December 27, 2024 at 6:00 PM
Here’s a thought that our ego hates:

Connection is more of an allowing than a doing.
Enjoyment is more of an allowing than a doing.
Pleasure is more of an allowing than a doing.

Feeling is more of an allowing than a doing.
December 26, 2024 at 5:18 PM
If you can’t love the emotion, love the resistance to the emotion.
December 24, 2024 at 6:00 PM
Constantly trying to make sense of your emotions prevents you from hearing their wisdom
December 23, 2024 at 5:00 PM
People often get confused when I tell them that all they need to do is “feel” in order to stop their bad habits.

Think of your bad habits as a hot frying pans. How do you drop a hot frying pan?

You feel it. That’s all.

Feel it fully, and you will let go.
December 20, 2024 at 5:18 PM
I’ve spent decades working with thousands of couples.

What I’ve seen over and over again: The “death knell” of a relationship isn't loud fights or communication issues — it's disdain.
December 19, 2024 at 8:00 PM
How would you have to see your inner voice to enjoy it as it is, without wanting to change it?
December 18, 2024 at 8:00 PM
I was told that I was smart from a young age, but I didn’t recognize that I was cognitively intelligent until the age of 35.

I was lucky, because I didn’t latch onto it and make it my identity. By the time I recognized it, I saw intelligence the same way I saw hair color — a feature, but not me.
December 17, 2024 at 8:00 PM
When do you feel most at peace with your emotions?

What circumstances lead to that feeling?
December 16, 2024 at 8:00 PM