Raven’s Call : Aging & End of Life guide in Oregon
@endoflifecare.bsky.social
Supporting and informing people who are aging or planning for or facing serious illness and/or death, and those who care about them - for 30+ years.
https://ravens-call.mailerpage.io/
#DeathPositive #EOL #hapc #EOLdoula
Also decluttering: Raven’s Nest.
https://ravens-call.mailerpage.io/
#DeathPositive #EOL #hapc #EOLdoula
Also decluttering: Raven’s Nest.
Isn’t it?!
l'll bet you, too, can imagine the conversation in that room. ❤️💔❤️
l'll bet you, too, can imagine the conversation in that room. ❤️💔❤️
November 15, 2025 at 5:00 AM
Isn’t it?!
l'll bet you, too, can imagine the conversation in that room. ❤️💔❤️
l'll bet you, too, can imagine the conversation in that room. ❤️💔❤️
A physician at a hospital that I helped start a @3wishesprogram.bsky.social told me they lost a patient with a very strong Irish heritage. Per the family's request, his family was allowed to put a shot of Irish whiskey down his nasogastric tube as part of a final toast!
November 15, 2025 at 12:14 AM
I’m glad you’re speaking out about this!
November 14, 2025 at 10:01 PM
I’m glad you’re speaking out about this!
Yes, I can see how that would feel weird. For you and maybe for your mom, too.
I’m glad she was able to obtain what she wanted.
I’m glad she was able to obtain what she wanted.
November 14, 2025 at 4:02 AM
Yes, I can see how that would feel weird. For you and maybe for your mom, too.
I’m glad she was able to obtain what she wanted.
I’m glad she was able to obtain what she wanted.
Thank you for your thoughts and the suggestion. I’ll ponder.
I’m one of those who will use clunky/shoehorned language as a way of pushing English to catch up!
I’m one of those who will use clunky/shoehorned language as a way of pushing English to catch up!
November 14, 2025 at 3:38 AM
Thank you for your thoughts and the suggestion. I’ll ponder.
I’m one of those who will use clunky/shoehorned language as a way of pushing English to catch up!
I’m one of those who will use clunky/shoehorned language as a way of pushing English to catch up!
Hi, Shay. In my experience, medical folks might want to see if there might be conflicts between family members so they can be addressed before an non-revokable action. There’re other reasons, I’m sure, but that’s what comes to mind first.
My condolences to you. The death of a parent can hit hard. 💜
My condolences to you. The death of a parent can hit hard. 💜
November 12, 2025 at 9:19 PM
Hi, Shay. In my experience, medical folks might want to see if there might be conflicts between family members so they can be addressed before an non-revokable action. There’re other reasons, I’m sure, but that’s what comes to mind first.
My condolences to you. The death of a parent can hit hard. 💜
My condolences to you. The death of a parent can hit hard. 💜
I love it! Isn’t it fun when you know the lingo?!
(I struggled with using the binary in creating the graphic. Please don’t feel a need to educate me, but if you want to: Would “Daughter/Son/NB” work, or should I spell out Nonbinary?)
Thank you for the RPs!
(I struggled with using the binary in creating the graphic. Please don’t feel a need to educate me, but if you want to: Would “Daughter/Son/NB” work, or should I spell out Nonbinary?)
Thank you for the RPs!
November 12, 2025 at 9:10 PM
I love it! Isn’t it fun when you know the lingo?!
(I struggled with using the binary in creating the graphic. Please don’t feel a need to educate me, but if you want to: Would “Daughter/Son/NB” work, or should I spell out Nonbinary?)
Thank you for the RPs!
(I struggled with using the binary in creating the graphic. Please don’t feel a need to educate me, but if you want to: Would “Daughter/Son/NB” work, or should I spell out Nonbinary?)
Thank you for the RPs!
...but it's best to stay ahead of the situation. Whether you're a parent or a sibling, I can help you take steps to avoid this.
More info: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Daughte...
(Hat tip to death doula Rev @facilitatrix.bsky.social, to whom I send heartfelt wishes for the best outcome.)
More info: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Daughte...
(Hat tip to death doula Rev @facilitatrix.bsky.social, to whom I send heartfelt wishes for the best outcome.)
Daughter from California syndrome - Wikipedia
"Daughter from California" syndrome is a phrase used in the American medical profession to describe a situation in which a hitherto disengaged relative challenges the care a dying elderly patient is…
en.wikipedia.org
November 12, 2025 at 7:55 PM
...but it's best to stay ahead of the situation. Whether you're a parent or a sibling, I can help you take steps to avoid this.
More info: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Daughte...
(Hat tip to death doula Rev @facilitatrix.bsky.social, to whom I send heartfelt wishes for the best outcome.)
More info: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Daughte...
(Hat tip to death doula Rev @facilitatrix.bsky.social, to whom I send heartfelt wishes for the best outcome.)
The first time I heard this term used was when I first worked in a hospital. The patient's daughter was flying in from California.
It took me a while to learn that the phrase was a shorthand code for staff to be alert for disagreements. Of course, not all out-of-state offspring cause problems...
It took me a while to learn that the phrase was a shorthand code for staff to be alert for disagreements. Of course, not all out-of-state offspring cause problems...
November 12, 2025 at 7:55 PM
The first time I heard this term used was when I first worked in a hospital. The patient's daughter was flying in from California.
It took me a while to learn that the phrase was a shorthand code for staff to be alert for disagreements. Of course, not all out-of-state offspring cause problems...
It took me a while to learn that the phrase was a shorthand code for staff to be alert for disagreements. Of course, not all out-of-state offspring cause problems...
Such a fine line sometimes.
Thank you for your responses, and for all the helpful and interesting info you provide here.
Thank you for your responses, and for all the helpful and interesting info you provide here.
November 9, 2025 at 6:12 PM
Such a fine line sometimes.
Thank you for your responses, and for all the helpful and interesting info you provide here.
Thank you for your responses, and for all the helpful and interesting info you provide here.
How do they know whether the patient is consenting to the alternative option under duress? Many people are uncomfortable standing up for themselves with their doctors.
Isn’t this redirecting the very definition of paternalistic medicine? I thought the medical field decided that’s unethical.
Isn’t this redirecting the very definition of paternalistic medicine? I thought the medical field decided that’s unethical.
November 8, 2025 at 5:08 PM
How do they know whether the patient is consenting to the alternative option under duress? Many people are uncomfortable standing up for themselves with their doctors.
Isn’t this redirecting the very definition of paternalistic medicine? I thought the medical field decided that’s unethical.
Isn’t this redirecting the very definition of paternalistic medicine? I thought the medical field decided that’s unethical.
In the first paragraph you quote, are the authors characterizing “the assumption” accurately?
I thought clinicians such as these authors are duty bound to refer to a clinician who will provide the medical care the patient needs based on the patient’s informed decisions.
I thought clinicians such as these authors are duty bound to refer to a clinician who will provide the medical care the patient needs based on the patient’s informed decisions.
November 8, 2025 at 3:50 AM
In the first paragraph you quote, are the authors characterizing “the assumption” accurately?
I thought clinicians such as these authors are duty bound to refer to a clinician who will provide the medical care the patient needs based on the patient’s informed decisions.
I thought clinicians such as these authors are duty bound to refer to a clinician who will provide the medical care the patient needs based on the patient’s informed decisions.
(Pulse: Wrong link. Interesting essay there, but I wanted to know more about this artist.)
November 8, 2025 at 2:22 AM
(Pulse: Wrong link. Interesting essay there, but I wanted to know more about this artist.)