Eleanor Vincent
@eleanorpvincent.bsky.social
Memoirs DISCONNECTED and SWIMMING WITH MAYA, member of the Writers Grotto, Left Margin Lit, and Memoir Binders.
"The emotional deprivation that occurs in a mixed neurotype relationship is akin to seasonal affective disorder. The sun had gone out in my life. I orbited around my husband like a distant planet."
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Cassandra Syndrome in Autistic Relationships
How it affects allistic partners and what to do about it
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November 24, 2025 at 9:38 PM
"The emotional deprivation that occurs in a mixed neurotype relationship is akin to seasonal affective disorder. The sun had gone out in my life. I orbited around my husband like a distant planet."
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New Essay on Substack: Understanding Demand Avoidance ✨
If you’ve ever struggled with similar patterns—or wondered why everyday conversations can feel like landmines—this essay is for you.
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If you’ve ever struggled with similar patterns—or wondered why everyday conversations can feel like landmines—this essay is for you.
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Demand Avoidance
Anxiety, control, or a high need for autonomy?
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November 18, 2025 at 11:05 PM
New Essay on Substack: Understanding Demand Avoidance ✨
If you’ve ever struggled with similar patterns—or wondered why everyday conversations can feel like landmines—this essay is for you.
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If you’ve ever struggled with similar patterns—or wondered why everyday conversations can feel like landmines—this essay is for you.
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Disconnected is a featured book on LitNuts @lit_nuts today — right in its birthday month!
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Disconnected: Portrait of a Neurodiverse Marriage by Eleanor Vincent
In a late-life romance, Eleanor marries Lars, a brilliant database expert, believing their fairytale love will last forever. However, just months later, Eleanor finds herself in COVID lockdown with he...
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November 5, 2025 at 11:13 PM
Disconnected is a featured book on LitNuts @lit_nuts today — right in its birthday month!
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My third installment in a series of Substack essays exploring how Asperger's can challenge couples, marking the 1st anniversary of my memoir, Disconnected, on November 12. 🔗
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Eleanor Vincent (@eleanorvincent)
“That encounter by the Christmas tree was my introduction to context blindness. At the time, I laughed it off. I realized that Lars did not associate candlelight with sexual intimacy, but I thought it...
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November 4, 2025 at 8:35 PM
My third installment in a series of Substack essays exploring how Asperger's can challenge couples, marking the 1st anniversary of my memoir, Disconnected, on November 12. 🔗
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"The dance is tragic because both partners experience unresolved pain. Try as they might, well-intentioned efforts fail to bridge the gap between different neurological systems."
🔗 Subscribe and read on at my Substack!
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🔗 Subscribe and read on at my Substack!
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The Tragic Dance of the Neurodiverse Couple
A cycle of unresolved conflict
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October 30, 2025 at 9:29 PM
"The dance is tragic because both partners experience unresolved pain. Try as they might, well-intentioned efforts fail to bridge the gap between different neurological systems."
🔗 Subscribe and read on at my Substack!
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🔗 Subscribe and read on at my Substack!
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My book, Disconnected, comes from a wish to connect readers with the resources I once needed myself. To celebrate the book's 1st anniversary in November, I’m sharing a new series of essays on how Asperger’s can challenge couples.
🔗 Read on!
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🔗 Read on!
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Autism 101
A series of essays on how autism affects couples
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October 28, 2025 at 10:05 PM
My book, Disconnected, comes from a wish to connect readers with the resources I once needed myself. To celebrate the book's 1st anniversary in November, I’m sharing a new series of essays on how Asperger’s can challenge couples.
🔗 Read on!
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🔗 Read on!
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"Disconnected" is a 2025 Readers' Favorite Finalist in the Non-Fiction Relationships genre! This is the sort of news that keeps me going.=)
#disconnected #readersfavorite #readersfavoritefinalist #nonfictionrelationships #memoir #womenwriter #neurodivergence #vineleavespress #indieauthor
#disconnected #readersfavorite #readersfavoritefinalist #nonfictionrelationships #memoir #womenwriter #neurodivergence #vineleavespress #indieauthor
September 9, 2025 at 6:44 PM
"Disconnected" is a 2025 Readers' Favorite Finalist in the Non-Fiction Relationships genre! This is the sort of news that keeps me going.=)
#disconnected #readersfavorite #readersfavoritefinalist #nonfictionrelationships #memoir #womenwriter #neurodivergence #vineleavespress #indieauthor
#disconnected #readersfavorite #readersfavoritefinalist #nonfictionrelationships #memoir #womenwriter #neurodivergence #vineleavespress #indieauthor
These are two of my favorite reviews from the last couple of months.
It means the world to me to connect with readers and hear that my book made them feel less alone. And one of the ways more readers who need my book can find it is through reviews. Take a moment to drop a line?🙏
It means the world to me to connect with readers and hear that my book made them feel less alone. And one of the ways more readers who need my book can find it is through reviews. Take a moment to drop a line?🙏
August 29, 2025 at 8:00 AM
These are two of my favorite reviews from the last couple of months.
It means the world to me to connect with readers and hear that my book made them feel less alone. And one of the ways more readers who need my book can find it is through reviews. Take a moment to drop a line?🙏
It means the world to me to connect with readers and hear that my book made them feel less alone. And one of the ways more readers who need my book can find it is through reviews. Take a moment to drop a line?🙏
It's been a good couple of weeks for Disconnected, with my article up on Jane Friedman’s blog on whether Writing Awards matter & a review from The US Review of Books.
These little wins are inspiring me to keep writing the books I need in this world.=)
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These little wins are inspiring me to keep writing the books I need in this world.=)
www.theusreview.com/reviews-1/Di...
July 23, 2025 at 5:03 PM
It's been a good couple of weeks for Disconnected, with my article up on Jane Friedman’s blog on whether Writing Awards matter & a review from The US Review of Books.
These little wins are inspiring me to keep writing the books I need in this world.=)
www.theusreview.com/reviews-1/Di...
These little wins are inspiring me to keep writing the books I need in this world.=)
www.theusreview.com/reviews-1/Di...
So, friends, what do you think? In this week's Substack, I weigh in on my recent Eric Hoffer Award and my recent article on Jane Friedman's blog.
#substack #writingawards
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#substack #writingawards
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Do Writing Awards Matter?
I'll take mine with a shot of dopamine, please
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July 17, 2025 at 9:38 PM
So, friends, what do you think? In this week's Substack, I weigh in on my recent Eric Hoffer Award and my recent article on Jane Friedman's blog.
#substack #writingawards
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#substack #writingawards
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When writers ask me about how I got published, or built a platform, or started my author newsletter, I respond, “I follow Jane Friedman. Today, I had the honor to share my article "I won a writing award, does it matter?" on her blog!
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I Won a Writing Award. Does It Matter? | Jane Friedman
Even awards that offer only bragging rights, but no prize money, can telegraph something important: your work matters to readers.
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July 16, 2025 at 10:23 PM
When writers ask me about how I got published, or built a platform, or started my author newsletter, I respond, “I follow Jane Friedman. Today, I had the honor to share my article "I won a writing award, does it matter?" on her blog!
janefriedman.com/i-won-a-writ... @janefriedman.com
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Great fun at 9th Ave: SF Writers Grotto Blood, Sweat and Tears Toast at Green Apple Books! 🍷
Earlier this month, I had the opportunity to celebrate Disconnected, a finalist for the Eric Hoffer Award, alongside other Grotto writers who released books this year!
One Big Cheer for New Books!🎉
Earlier this month, I had the opportunity to celebrate Disconnected, a finalist for the Eric Hoffer Award, alongside other Grotto writers who released books this year!
One Big Cheer for New Books!🎉
June 24, 2025 at 12:00 AM
Great fun at 9th Ave: SF Writers Grotto Blood, Sweat and Tears Toast at Green Apple Books! 🍷
Earlier this month, I had the opportunity to celebrate Disconnected, a finalist for the Eric Hoffer Award, alongside other Grotto writers who released books this year!
One Big Cheer for New Books!🎉
Earlier this month, I had the opportunity to celebrate Disconnected, a finalist for the Eric Hoffer Award, alongside other Grotto writers who released books this year!
One Big Cheer for New Books!🎉
Later post!
The 11th annual Bay Area Book Festival #Baybookfest was a wonderful opportunity to connect with readers and writers. Wonderful panels and pals!
#writing #writingcommunity #SFBayArea #bayareabookfest #baybookfest #disconnected #memoir
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The 11th annual Bay Area Book Festival #Baybookfest was a wonderful opportunity to connect with readers and writers. Wonderful panels and pals!
#writing #writingcommunity #SFBayArea #bayareabookfest #baybookfest #disconnected #memoir
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June 20, 2025 at 4:04 PM
Later post!
The 11th annual Bay Area Book Festival #Baybookfest was a wonderful opportunity to connect with readers and writers. Wonderful panels and pals!
#writing #writingcommunity #SFBayArea #bayareabookfest #baybookfest #disconnected #memoir
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The 11th annual Bay Area Book Festival #Baybookfest was a wonderful opportunity to connect with readers and writers. Wonderful panels and pals!
#writing #writingcommunity #SFBayArea #bayareabookfest #baybookfest #disconnected #memoir
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I'm attending No Kings's event, “NO KINGS Contra Costa County” - sign up now to join me! www.mobilize.us/nokings/even...
NO KINGS Contra Costa County · No Kings
Rally & March on Saturday 6/14 from 11:30 a.m. to 1 p.m. starting in Broadway Plaza by the fountain behind the Apple Store. More details coming soon. We are also planning overpass visibility actions...
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June 6, 2025 at 7:31 PM
I'm attending No Kings's event, “NO KINGS Contra Costa County” - sign up now to join me! www.mobilize.us/nokings/even...
My memoir Disconnected won an honorable mention in the memoir category of the Eric Hoffer Award, the premier award for small press books. Sharing this news today gladdens my heart. There were more than 2,500 books entered in 25 categories. Being among the small % of writers honored is remarkable
May 16, 2025 at 3:02 PM
My memoir Disconnected won an honorable mention in the memoir category of the Eric Hoffer Award, the premier award for small press books. Sharing this news today gladdens my heart. There were more than 2,500 books entered in 25 categories. Being among the small % of writers honored is remarkable
Just found out my memoir Disconnected made the Grand Prize Shortlist for the Eric Hoffer Award. Found out mid-electrical rewiring—fitting, since the book’s about the brain's wiring. Deeply honored, especially in the company of Joan Kwon Glass, Stacey C. Johnson & others. #Memoir #HofferAward
May 2, 2025 at 11:01 PM
Just found out my memoir Disconnected made the Grand Prize Shortlist for the Eric Hoffer Award. Found out mid-electrical rewiring—fitting, since the book’s about the brain's wiring. Deeply honored, especially in the company of Joan Kwon Glass, Stacey C. Johnson & others. #Memoir #HofferAward
Is a house really a home till the color-coordinated bookshelf is done?
#justmoved #newhome #bookshelf #decorating
#justmoved #newhome #bookshelf #decorating
April 28, 2025 at 5:04 PM
Is a house really a home till the color-coordinated bookshelf is done?
#justmoved #newhome #bookshelf #decorating
#justmoved #newhome #bookshelf #decorating
Marlowe is scary-smart, extremely intuitive, and the most people-oriented cat I’ve ever met. He trills when he has a question for me, follows me from room to room, and always sits on my lap and purrs. He is truly an excellent companion. Writing can be solitary, but it’s better with a Marlowe!
April 25, 2025 at 5:05 PM
Marlowe is scary-smart, extremely intuitive, and the most people-oriented cat I’ve ever met. He trills when he has a question for me, follows me from room to room, and always sits on my lap and purrs. He is truly an excellent companion. Writing can be solitary, but it’s better with a Marlowe!
Earlier this month, I did the sweetest book club talk. As an author, I love book club talks; they're interactive, intimate, and always fun.
Want to book me for your next book club? I travel all over the Bay, and I also love Zoom meet-ups. Let's open a page, crack open a bottle of wine, and chat!
Want to book me for your next book club? I travel all over the Bay, and I also love Zoom meet-ups. Let's open a page, crack open a bottle of wine, and chat!
April 25, 2025 at 9:02 AM
Earlier this month, I did the sweetest book club talk. As an author, I love book club talks; they're interactive, intimate, and always fun.
Want to book me for your next book club? I travel all over the Bay, and I also love Zoom meet-ups. Let's open a page, crack open a bottle of wine, and chat!
Want to book me for your next book club? I travel all over the Bay, and I also love Zoom meet-ups. Let's open a page, crack open a bottle of wine, and chat!
Disconnected has resonated with a range of people: women with their own stories of heartbreak late in life, lovers of memoir, the children of neurodivergent parents, mental health professionals, journalists, hopeless and cynical romantics, and more. It's such an honor to hear from so many folks
April 23, 2025 at 5:04 PM
Disconnected has resonated with a range of people: women with their own stories of heartbreak late in life, lovers of memoir, the children of neurodivergent parents, mental health professionals, journalists, hopeless and cynical romantics, and more. It's such an honor to hear from so many folks
Reflecting on my life after the story of my memoir, Disconnected, I am reminded that every moment is an opportunity for love. My last romantic love story didn't go as planned, but I see all my love from nature, animals, family, friends, and community. I can say, Okay, this is good. This is enough.
April 21, 2025 at 5:04 PM
Reflecting on my life after the story of my memoir, Disconnected, I am reminded that every moment is an opportunity for love. My last romantic love story didn't go as planned, but I see all my love from nature, animals, family, friends, and community. I can say, Okay, this is good. This is enough.
1966. Is it time to bring it back? Back then, I worked at Perkin’s Pancake House so I could buy all my own cosmetics and clothes. This hair is brought to you by the powers of AquaNet hairspray, which I just learned still exists!
#1960s #bighairdontcare #aquanet #throwbackthursday
#1960s #bighairdontcare #aquanet #throwbackthursday
April 17, 2025 at 5:03 PM
1966. Is it time to bring it back? Back then, I worked at Perkin’s Pancake House so I could buy all my own cosmetics and clothes. This hair is brought to you by the powers of AquaNet hairspray, which I just learned still exists!
#1960s #bighairdontcare #aquanet #throwbackthursday
#1960s #bighairdontcare #aquanet #throwbackthursday
Like many writers, I often need nature to connect to and to replenish my creative spirit. I love living in Rossmoor, with views of Mount Diablo visible from all corners. Sometimes all I need is to walk out my front door.
#activeliving #norcal #walnutcreek #amwriting #naturelover #rossmoor
#activeliving #norcal #walnutcreek #amwriting #naturelover #rossmoor
April 17, 2025 at 1:00 AM
Like many writers, I often need nature to connect to and to replenish my creative spirit. I love living in Rossmoor, with views of Mount Diablo visible from all corners. Sometimes all I need is to walk out my front door.
#activeliving #norcal #walnutcreek #amwriting #naturelover #rossmoor
#activeliving #norcal #walnutcreek #amwriting #naturelover #rossmoor
There is something poignant about this photo. I believe this is the last move I will ever do (I can't imagine going through the exhaustion of moving ever again), and in this photo, it is as if my suitcases are looking out at the beginning of a new life, pondering the old one.
April 11, 2025 at 5:00 PM
There is something poignant about this photo. I believe this is the last move I will ever do (I can't imagine going through the exhaustion of moving ever again), and in this photo, it is as if my suitcases are looking out at the beginning of a new life, pondering the old one.
Happy National Library Week!
Join me at the Local Author Book Festival at the Benicia Public Library this Saturday! There will be readings, Q&As, Book Signings, and community!
And if you can't attend, order a copy of Disconnected from your local library.=)
Join me at the Local Author Book Festival at the Benicia Public Library this Saturday! There will be readings, Q&As, Book Signings, and community!
And if you can't attend, order a copy of Disconnected from your local library.=)
April 4, 2025 at 5:03 PM
Happy National Library Week!
Join me at the Local Author Book Festival at the Benicia Public Library this Saturday! There will be readings, Q&As, Book Signings, and community!
And if you can't attend, order a copy of Disconnected from your local library.=)
Join me at the Local Author Book Festival at the Benicia Public Library this Saturday! There will be readings, Q&As, Book Signings, and community!
And if you can't attend, order a copy of Disconnected from your local library.=)