My initial reaction was “surely this person isn’t talking to me, a grown man, like this??” I actually couldn’t believe it.

I will definitely be bringing this up to my VP tomorrow during the team call. I’m not even sure what I want. I think I want an apology? Or some kind of acknowledgement that he was wilding. idk.

I couldn’t crash out like I wanted to because I’m already black in a relatively high-visibility position. So naturally, I reach for de-escalation. I was like “ping me when you’re free so I can call.” We end up talking on the phone, and the guy was still curt/rude/dismissive.