Dr Nicole Lipkin
@drnicolelipkin.bsky.social
Organizational Psychologist | Executive Coach | Keynote Speaker | CEO, Equilibria Leadership Consulting | Founder & CEO, @heykiddoapp |
Silence isn’t neutral.
When effort meets nothing, it lands as erasure.
Appreciation isn’t ego. It’s acknowledgment.
Ten seconds can stay with someone for life.
Choose to say it.
When effort meets nothing, it lands as erasure.
Appreciation isn’t ego. It’s acknowledgment.
Ten seconds can stay with someone for life.
Choose to say it.
December 22, 2025 at 5:40 PM
Silence isn’t neutral.
When effort meets nothing, it lands as erasure.
Appreciation isn’t ego. It’s acknowledgment.
Ten seconds can stay with someone for life.
Choose to say it.
When effort meets nothing, it lands as erasure.
Appreciation isn’t ego. It’s acknowledgment.
Ten seconds can stay with someone for life.
Choose to say it.
Being the strong one is exhausting. What’s one thing you actually nailed this week? Say it out loud.
December 4, 2025 at 4:52 PM
Being the strong one is exhausting. What’s one thing you actually nailed this week? Say it out loud.
If you’ve ever led a team and still felt unseen, you’re not imagining it - there’s a Gratitude Gap at the top.
Which is why leaders need to practice self-recognition. The key is to normalize self-appreciation.
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Which is why leaders need to practice self-recognition. The key is to normalize self-appreciation.
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The Gratitude Gap That Comes With Being In Charge
The Gratitude Gap leaves many leaders unseen and exhausted. Learn why appreciation rarely flows upward and how leaders can protect their wellbeing.
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November 26, 2025 at 3:26 PM
If you’ve ever led a team and still felt unseen, you’re not imagining it - there’s a Gratitude Gap at the top.
Which is why leaders need to practice self-recognition. The key is to normalize self-appreciation.
www.forbes.com/sites/nicole...
Which is why leaders need to practice self-recognition. The key is to normalize self-appreciation.
www.forbes.com/sites/nicole...
When people feel heard, they find their own solutions faster. Leaders who ask instead of assume build trust, autonomy, and calm. This question does all three.
November 21, 2025 at 2:26 PM
When people feel heard, they find their own solutions faster. Leaders who ask instead of assume build trust, autonomy, and calm. This question does all three.
If you’re always the fixer, you’re training people to stay helpless.
Leadership means knowing when to step back, not just step in.
#LeadershipDevelopment #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfLeadership
Leadership means knowing when to step back, not just step in.
#LeadershipDevelopment #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfLeadership
November 19, 2025 at 2:19 PM
If you’re always the fixer, you’re training people to stay helpless.
Leadership means knowing when to step back, not just step in.
#LeadershipDevelopment #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfLeadership
Leadership means knowing when to step back, not just step in.
#LeadershipDevelopment #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfLeadership
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Psyched to get into McSweeney’s for the 2nd time - only took 11 years!
I Like to Almost Kill People by Driving Past Them at 125 mph in My Modified Honda Accord
Everyone’s got their thing. For some, it’s baking. Others, gardening. Me? I like to take a modified Honda Accord, drive over 100 mph, and swerve be...
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November 18, 2025 at 4:49 PM
Psyched to get into McSweeney’s for the 2nd time - only took 11 years!
Never shy away from saying, “I was wrong.” People will respect you more than all the rationalizations and justifications in the world.
November 18, 2025 at 5:42 PM
Never shy away from saying, “I was wrong.” People will respect you more than all the rationalizations and justifications in the world.
Ever wake up exhausted and realize you didn’t overwork, you overfelt?
That’s an empathy hangover. You can care deeply without carrying everyone’s emotions.
In this video I suggest asking one question the next time someone unloads on you:
That’s an empathy hangover. You can care deeply without carrying everyone’s emotions.
In this video I suggest asking one question the next time someone unloads on you:
November 17, 2025 at 3:06 PM
Ever wake up exhausted and realize you didn’t overwork, you overfelt?
That’s an empathy hangover. You can care deeply without carrying everyone’s emotions.
In this video I suggest asking one question the next time someone unloads on you:
That’s an empathy hangover. You can care deeply without carrying everyone’s emotions.
In this video I suggest asking one question the next time someone unloads on you:
We say the word “should” so often we don’t realize its effect on our brain and our lives.
“Should” removes the freedom that comes with choice.
The trick is to reframe those should statements:
“I should be more patient”
👉 What would help me feel calmer right now?
“Should” removes the freedom that comes with choice.
The trick is to reframe those should statements:
“I should be more patient”
👉 What would help me feel calmer right now?
November 14, 2025 at 3:40 PM
We say the word “should” so often we don’t realize its effect on our brain and our lives.
“Should” removes the freedom that comes with choice.
The trick is to reframe those should statements:
“I should be more patient”
👉 What would help me feel calmer right now?
“Should” removes the freedom that comes with choice.
The trick is to reframe those should statements:
“I should be more patient”
👉 What would help me feel calmer right now?
When we bulldoze appreciation, people feel rejection and confusion. Emotion drives behavior.
That behavior is disengagement or the exit interview.
Protect it in yourself: share your wins and contributions.
Protect it in others: name the value you see and be specific.
That behavior is disengagement or the exit interview.
Protect it in yourself: share your wins and contributions.
Protect it in others: name the value you see and be specific.
October 21, 2025 at 7:47 PM
When we bulldoze appreciation, people feel rejection and confusion. Emotion drives behavior.
That behavior is disengagement or the exit interview.
Protect it in yourself: share your wins and contributions.
Protect it in others: name the value you see and be specific.
That behavior is disengagement or the exit interview.
Protect it in yourself: share your wins and contributions.
Protect it in others: name the value you see and be specific.
Great leadership is about showing your humanity, not stifling it.
Why Great Leaders Don’t Need To Be Calm, Cool And Collected
There’s a leadership myth that you always have to be calm, cool, and collected, particularly during times of crisis. Yet the research shows this is incorrect.
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September 25, 2025 at 6:46 PM
Great leadership is about showing your humanity, not stifling it.
Ever felt like people at work see you differently than you see yourself?
Psychologist, Heidi Grant Halverson, proposes 2 methods to shift it:
✨ The Tortoise Method → small, consistent changes over time.
✨ The Hare Method → collaborate on something that makes others depend on you.
Psychologist, Heidi Grant Halverson, proposes 2 methods to shift it:
✨ The Tortoise Method → small, consistent changes over time.
✨ The Hare Method → collaborate on something that makes others depend on you.
September 19, 2025 at 2:16 PM
Ever felt like people at work see you differently than you see yourself?
Psychologist, Heidi Grant Halverson, proposes 2 methods to shift it:
✨ The Tortoise Method → small, consistent changes over time.
✨ The Hare Method → collaborate on something that makes others depend on you.
Psychologist, Heidi Grant Halverson, proposes 2 methods to shift it:
✨ The Tortoise Method → small, consistent changes over time.
✨ The Hare Method → collaborate on something that makes others depend on you.
To give an example of how this might look in real time:
“This is challenging, but I know you’re capable of figuring this out. What could your first step be?”
“This is challenging, but I know you’re capable of figuring this out. What could your first step be?”
August 7, 2025 at 2:03 PM
To give an example of how this might look in real time:
“This is challenging, but I know you’re capable of figuring this out. What could your first step be?”
“This is challenging, but I know you’re capable of figuring this out. What could your first step be?”
True leadership support doesn’t mean solving everyone’s problems for them. Rather, it’s about enabling the other person’s capacity. It involves building their resilience muscle.
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How To Support Without Absorbing Everyone’s Stress
Discover why effective leadership means empowering others, not rescuing them. Learn how to redefine support to build real capacity without burning out.
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August 5, 2025 at 3:32 PM
True leadership support doesn’t mean solving everyone’s problems for them. Rather, it’s about enabling the other person’s capacity. It involves building their resilience muscle.
www.forbes.com/sites/nicole...
www.forbes.com/sites/nicole...
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AI can be a trap, especially for kids who are still learning how to navigate relationships and emotions. We can’t shield our kids from technology, but we can help them make sense of it.
🎧 The HeyKiddo Parenting Podcast with @drnicolelipkin.bsky.social
@techlifesteph.bsky.social
🎧 The HeyKiddo Parenting Podcast with @drnicolelipkin.bsky.social
@techlifesteph.bsky.social
June 17, 2025 at 1:58 PM
AI can be a trap, especially for kids who are still learning how to navigate relationships and emotions. We can’t shield our kids from technology, but we can help them make sense of it.
🎧 The HeyKiddo Parenting Podcast with @drnicolelipkin.bsky.social
@techlifesteph.bsky.social
🎧 The HeyKiddo Parenting Podcast with @drnicolelipkin.bsky.social
@techlifesteph.bsky.social
Fairness is subjective. What feels unfair to one might feel justified to another, bc our perceptions are shaped by our life experiences. We don’t have to agree w/ someone’s perception to acknowledge it. We just need to see it, bc you can’t address what u refuse to see. 💥🧠
June 5, 2025 at 5:34 PM
Fairness is subjective. What feels unfair to one might feel justified to another, bc our perceptions are shaped by our life experiences. We don’t have to agree w/ someone’s perception to acknowledge it. We just need to see it, bc you can’t address what u refuse to see. 💥🧠
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When we hover, our kids feel controlled, and they push away. Dr. Ken Ginsburg reminds us: real protection is preparation. It’s how we build lasting trust and lifelong connection.
May 30, 2025 at 2:08 PM
When we hover, our kids feel controlled, and they push away. Dr. Ken Ginsburg reminds us: real protection is preparation. It’s how we build lasting trust and lifelong connection.
Reposted by Dr Nicole Lipkin
When we hover, our kids feel controlled, and they push away. Dr. Ken Ginsburg reminds us: real protection is preparation. It’s how we build lasting trust and lifelong connection.
May 29, 2025 at 7:36 PM
When we hover, our kids feel controlled, and they push away. Dr. Ken Ginsburg reminds us: real protection is preparation. It’s how we build lasting trust and lifelong connection.
Join me for a LinkedIn Live on Workplace Resilience!
April 1st, 10:30 AM CST
Tune in for insights on:
✅ Mental agility in times of change
✅ Emotional intelligence for teamwork
✅ Leading with influence & inspiration
Event link: bit.ly/3FMdmO4
April 1st, 10:30 AM CST
Tune in for insights on:
✅ Mental agility in times of change
✅ Emotional intelligence for teamwork
✅ Leading with influence & inspiration
Event link: bit.ly/3FMdmO4
March 28, 2025 at 4:13 PM
Join me for a LinkedIn Live on Workplace Resilience!
April 1st, 10:30 AM CST
Tune in for insights on:
✅ Mental agility in times of change
✅ Emotional intelligence for teamwork
✅ Leading with influence & inspiration
Event link: bit.ly/3FMdmO4
April 1st, 10:30 AM CST
Tune in for insights on:
✅ Mental agility in times of change
✅ Emotional intelligence for teamwork
✅ Leading with influence & inspiration
Event link: bit.ly/3FMdmO4
What’s a major trigger for us? When the roles we play in life aren't recognized or respected.
Let people in! When others understand the roles we carry we create space for empathy and avoid unnecessary conflict.
Let people in! When others understand the roles we carry we create space for empathy and avoid unnecessary conflict.
March 14, 2025 at 2:03 PM
What’s a major trigger for us? When the roles we play in life aren't recognized or respected.
Let people in! When others understand the roles we carry we create space for empathy and avoid unnecessary conflict.
Let people in! When others understand the roles we carry we create space for empathy and avoid unnecessary conflict.
We can easily fall into the belief that if an idea similar to ours already exists in the world then it’s not worth pursuing.
Yet history proves otherwise.
What sets your idea apart from the pack is YOU, and the way you market it.
Yet history proves otherwise.
What sets your idea apart from the pack is YOU, and the way you market it.
March 12, 2025 at 2:57 PM
We can easily fall into the belief that if an idea similar to ours already exists in the world then it’s not worth pursuing.
Yet history proves otherwise.
What sets your idea apart from the pack is YOU, and the way you market it.
Yet history proves otherwise.
What sets your idea apart from the pack is YOU, and the way you market it.
The better-suited we are at navigating change, the happier, more successful, and more resilient, and more content we’ll be in our lives.
It all comes down to your perspective and how you frame it. Framing is everything!
Frame change as an opportunity!
It all comes down to your perspective and how you frame it. Framing is everything!
Frame change as an opportunity!
March 6, 2025 at 6:41 PM
The better-suited we are at navigating change, the happier, more successful, and more resilient, and more content we’ll be in our lives.
It all comes down to your perspective and how you frame it. Framing is everything!
Frame change as an opportunity!
It all comes down to your perspective and how you frame it. Framing is everything!
Frame change as an opportunity!
Abandon the notion that everything has to be done perfectly. Allow for imperfection, allow for messiness, and practice self-compassion when you feel you’ve fallen short in some area.
February 27, 2025 at 7:40 PM
Abandon the notion that everything has to be done perfectly. Allow for imperfection, allow for messiness, and practice self-compassion when you feel you’ve fallen short in some area.
The notion that women should be flawless multitaskers, managing a perfect home and career while never showing vulnerability or weakness is not only unrealistic, but also foolish. This road inevitably leads to one place: Burnout City.
How Female Breadwinners Can Break Free From The Pressure To Be Perfect
By challenging these expectations and embracing a healthier way of living, female breadwinners can redefine success on their terms.
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February 25, 2025 at 4:25 PM
The notion that women should be flawless multitaskers, managing a perfect home and career while never showing vulnerability or weakness is not only unrealistic, but also foolish. This road inevitably leads to one place: Burnout City.
Emotions are contagious—what are you spreading? 🧠🔥 Negativity can ripple through teams, families, and communities like wildfire. Let’s break the chain reaction by choosing positivity and self-awareness. 🌟
What do you want to leave in your wake today?
What do you want to leave in your wake today?
February 19, 2025 at 5:11 PM
Emotions are contagious—what are you spreading? 🧠🔥 Negativity can ripple through teams, families, and communities like wildfire. Let’s break the chain reaction by choosing positivity and self-awareness. 🌟
What do you want to leave in your wake today?
What do you want to leave in your wake today?