Delaney
@delaneyr.bsky.social
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Thanatologist
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Delaney
@delaneyr.bsky.social
· Dec 5
What’s is a thanatologist? A professional who studies death, dying, and grief.
Is that depressing?
It’s freeing to demystify death and understand the emotional, neurological, and spiritual components of grief.
It’s best used to support through sacred death to allow for hope and joy in living.
Is that depressing?
It’s freeing to demystify death and understand the emotional, neurological, and spiritual components of grief.
It’s best used to support through sacred death to allow for hope and joy in living.
“I think the only way to meet the end is with curiosity. Not fear. not regret. Just a question- what now?” Alan Rickman
#deathsky
#deathdoula
#deathsky
#deathdoula
April 23, 2025 at 2:23 AM
“I think the only way to meet the end is with curiosity. Not fear. not regret. Just a question- what now?” Alan Rickman
#deathsky
#deathdoula
#deathsky
#deathdoula
“Your life is an occasion, rise to it.“
—Mr. Magorium’s Wonder Imporium
—Mr. Magorium’s Wonder Imporium
April 16, 2025 at 12:48 AM
“Your life is an occasion, rise to it.“
—Mr. Magorium’s Wonder Imporium
—Mr. Magorium’s Wonder Imporium
Thanatophobia, the fear of death, can involve fear of the process (pain), fear of the afterlife (or lack there of), fear of being forgotten, fear that life is meaningless, but if I’m being honest mine is rooted in FOMO.
You?
#deathsky
#deathpositive
You?
#deathsky
#deathpositive
April 2, 2025 at 12:11 PM
Thanatophobia, the fear of death, can involve fear of the process (pain), fear of the afterlife (or lack there of), fear of being forgotten, fear that life is meaningless, but if I’m being honest mine is rooted in FOMO.
You?
#deathsky
#deathpositive
You?
#deathsky
#deathpositive
People often tell me that their grief makes other people uncomfortable. So they avoid social interaction. Isolation is the worst thing for a grieving human. Let’s all try to be the friend who can be comfortable sitting in the presence of someone’s grief. Our job is to care, not to cure.
March 30, 2025 at 6:29 PM
People often tell me that their grief makes other people uncomfortable. So they avoid social interaction. Isolation is the worst thing for a grieving human. Let’s all try to be the friend who can be comfortable sitting in the presence of someone’s grief. Our job is to care, not to cure.
I love that my inner voice switches to be @johngreensbluesky.bsky.social ‘s voice while I’m reading #everythingistuberculosis
March 28, 2025 at 2:30 AM
I love that my inner voice switches to be @johngreensbluesky.bsky.social ‘s voice while I’m reading #everythingistuberculosis
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There is no “right” way to die, hold a funeral, or grieve. When we engage in conversations about death we learn from each other, expand our ideas and understanding, and create a sacred space at the threshold between life and death.
#deathsky
#deathpositive
#deathsky
#deathpositive
March 14, 2025 at 7:18 PM
There is no “right” way to die, hold a funeral, or grieve. When we engage in conversations about death we learn from each other, expand our ideas and understanding, and create a sacred space at the threshold between life and death.
#deathsky
#deathpositive
#deathsky
#deathpositive
Death will not be the great equalizer until all bodies are equally valued in life.
Here’s a great podcast episode with Dr. Kami Fletcher.
#deathsky
#deathpositive
Here’s a great podcast episode with Dr. Kami Fletcher.
#deathsky
#deathpositive
Death Rituals & Funeral Practices As Resistance - Dr. Kami Fletcher
At Dougy Center, you'll find grief support, resources, and connection before and after a death. We provide the right place when nothing feels right.
www.dougy.org
March 12, 2025 at 12:41 PM
Death will not be the great equalizer until all bodies are equally valued in life.
Here’s a great podcast episode with Dr. Kami Fletcher.
#deathsky
#deathpositive
Here’s a great podcast episode with Dr. Kami Fletcher.
#deathsky
#deathpositive
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It's official: The lunatics are now running the asylum.
March 10, 2025 at 2:04 PM
It's official: The lunatics are now running the asylum.
Ash Wednesday: the day where people walk around with a memento mori on their foreheads.
#deathsky
#deathpositive
#mementomori
#ashwednesday
#deathsky
#deathpositive
#mementomori
#ashwednesday
March 5, 2025 at 10:46 PM
Ash Wednesday: the day where people walk around with a memento mori on their foreheads.
#deathsky
#deathpositive
#mementomori
#ashwednesday
#deathsky
#deathpositive
#mementomori
#ashwednesday
Natural burials feel powerful and intimate in a way that helps me appreciate the circle of life and death. What are the options for green burial in your areas?
Green Burial Options - Bellefontaine Cemetery
bellefontainecemetery.org
March 1, 2025 at 12:48 PM
Natural burials feel powerful and intimate in a way that helps me appreciate the circle of life and death. What are the options for green burial in your areas?
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It took seeing adult bullies to understand that my childhood bullies didn’t even really want to hurt me, they just wanted to feel powerful and how I felt about it wasn’t even in the equation.
I can’t imagine someone not outgrowing that, but apparently it happens quite a lot!
I can’t imagine someone not outgrowing that, but apparently it happens quite a lot!
February 28, 2025 at 11:29 PM
It took seeing adult bullies to understand that my childhood bullies didn’t even really want to hurt me, they just wanted to feel powerful and how I felt about it wasn’t even in the equation.
I can’t imagine someone not outgrowing that, but apparently it happens quite a lot!
I can’t imagine someone not outgrowing that, but apparently it happens quite a lot!
Death in the arts shapes our perception. Is death inherently bad? Can death be kind?
#deathsky
#deathdoula
#deathpositive
#deathsky
#deathdoula
#deathpositive
February 27, 2025 at 5:09 AM
Death in the arts shapes our perception. Is death inherently bad? Can death be kind?
#deathsky
#deathdoula
#deathpositive
#deathsky
#deathdoula
#deathpositive
If your deceased loved one created a chatbot to emulate themselves would you want to use it? Are you comforted by the thought of an AI surrogate of your loved one? Would this ameliorate grief or cause maladaptive grief behaviors?
#deathsky
#deathdoula
#grief
#bereavement
#deathsky
#deathdoula
#grief
#bereavement
February 26, 2025 at 12:45 PM
If your deceased loved one created a chatbot to emulate themselves would you want to use it? Are you comforted by the thought of an AI surrogate of your loved one? Would this ameliorate grief or cause maladaptive grief behaviors?
#deathsky
#deathdoula
#grief
#bereavement
#deathsky
#deathdoula
#grief
#bereavement
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Listen, things are fucked, but that doesn’t mean your accomplishments don’t matter. Wrote a book? Got accepted to a program? Recorded a song? One year sober? Whatever it is, share it. Maybe your joy will bring someone else a bit of joy, and we all need that.
February 9, 2025 at 11:14 PM
Listen, things are fucked, but that doesn’t mean your accomplishments don’t matter. Wrote a book? Got accepted to a program? Recorded a song? One year sober? Whatever it is, share it. Maybe your joy will bring someone else a bit of joy, and we all need that.
What you post is your online legacy. How you react, what you say, and all your digital footprints will remain as long as the hosting platforms do. Is this good or bad?
#deathsky
#deathpositive
#deathsky
#deathpositive
February 7, 2025 at 9:47 PM
What you post is your online legacy. How you react, what you say, and all your digital footprints will remain as long as the hosting platforms do. Is this good or bad?
#deathsky
#deathpositive
#deathsky
#deathpositive
Thanatechnology is a conversation we need to be having with those nearing end-of-life. How do they want their digital remains- such as social media accounts, emails, blogs, and videos, handled?
February 4, 2025 at 1:06 PM
Thanatechnology is a conversation we need to be having with those nearing end-of-life. How do they want their digital remains- such as social media accounts, emails, blogs, and videos, handled?
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There are choices beyond cremation or embalming. Alkaline Hydrolysis. Natural Organic Reduction. Green (Natural) Burial. Cryopreservation.
What body disposition method appeals to you?
What body disposition method appeals to you?
January 29, 2025 at 3:25 AM
There are choices beyond cremation or embalming. Alkaline Hydrolysis. Natural Organic Reduction. Green (Natural) Burial. Cryopreservation.
What body disposition method appeals to you?
What body disposition method appeals to you?
I would love to have the resources to start a community grief garden. Not only would it provide opportunities for individuals to acknowledge and actively process their own grief (including non-death losses), but it would bring people together to support each other’s grief in community.
Navigating Loss by Starting a Grief Garden
Grief gardening connects me to the awe and the magic of energy, which is undeniably everywhere in a garden.
talkdeath.com
January 27, 2025 at 1:47 PM
I would love to have the resources to start a community grief garden. Not only would it provide opportunities for individuals to acknowledge and actively process their own grief (including non-death losses), but it would bring people together to support each other’s grief in community.
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Today is an important day of remembering and honoring MLKJr. Nothing else.
January 20, 2025 at 5:34 PM
Today is an important day of remembering and honoring MLKJr. Nothing else.