Coach Mel 5w4 INTJ
@couplesdevelopment.bsky.social
I'm a: Certified Relationship Coach Member of The Relationship Coach Institute, A Clinical Sexologist & member of The American Board of Sexology, an Enneagram Certified Coach, DISC Certified, A Wife, A Mother & an Author! Books are my savior!
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December 27, 2024 at 7:40 PM
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Can you think of any other unrealistic expectations that we place on each other?
#blacksky
#relationships
#blacksky
#relationships
December 10, 2024 at 5:52 PM
Can you think of any other unrealistic expectations that we place on each other?
#blacksky
#relationships
#blacksky
#relationships
And we wonder why relationships are hard.
Make it make sense please! 😭
Gentlemen, you're next!
#blacksky
#addtoblacksky
Make it make sense please! 😭
Gentlemen, you're next!
#blacksky
#addtoblacksky
December 10, 2024 at 1:40 AM
And we wonder why relationships are hard.
Make it make sense please! 😭
Gentlemen, you're next!
#blacksky
#addtoblacksky
Make it make sense please! 😭
Gentlemen, you're next!
#blacksky
#addtoblacksky
This is part of what 'relationships take work' means. Becoming aware when we're viewing our partners in black & white terms is crucial for relationship success. Idealization can lead to let downs & obviously devaluing borders on abusive. Learning to differentiate is hard, but it's essential to learn
November 27, 2024 at 1:11 AM
This is part of what 'relationships take work' means. Becoming aware when we're viewing our partners in black & white terms is crucial for relationship success. Idealization can lead to let downs & obviously devaluing borders on abusive. Learning to differentiate is hard, but it's essential to learn
1. Shared values. Trying to change someone else's values is almost impossible.
2. Shared intimacy. Being aligned on what intimacy is and looks like.
3. Sense of humor. Someone that gets you
4. Life goals. This helps the couple to more intuitively support each other's goals.
#blacksky
#relationships
November 25, 2024 at 10:18 PM
1. Shared values. Trying to change someone else's values is almost impossible.
2. Shared intimacy. Being aligned on what intimacy is and looks like.
3. Sense of humor. Someone that gets you
4. Life goals. This helps the couple to more intuitively support each other's goals.
#blacksky
#relationships
Unmet childhood needs often lead us to expect our partners to make up for what our caregivers didn't give us. Our partners can offer us compassion, but they cannot undo our painful past. Our partners are there to support & encourage us while we're on own healing journey.
#Blacksky
#Relationshipsky
#Blacksky
#Relationshipsky
November 25, 2024 at 3:12 AM
Unmet childhood needs often lead us to expect our partners to make up for what our caregivers didn't give us. Our partners can offer us compassion, but they cannot undo our painful past. Our partners are there to support & encourage us while we're on own healing journey.
#Blacksky
#Relationshipsky
#Blacksky
#Relationshipsky
Remember: In healthy relationships, we talk about our feelings. In unhealthy relationships, we act them out!
#BlackSky
#RelationshipSky
#BlackSky
#RelationshipSky
November 25, 2024 at 2:40 AM
Remember: In healthy relationships, we talk about our feelings. In unhealthy relationships, we act them out!
#BlackSky
#RelationshipSky
#BlackSky
#RelationshipSky
Femininity is not one thing. It is made up of many beautiful things. We are not a monolith! Ladies, pick 5 styles that best suit you.
Mine are:
Fearless
Poise
Minimalist
Polished
Fashionable
What's your style of femininity?
#AddToBlackSky
#Blacksky
Mine are:
Fearless
Poise
Minimalist
Polished
Fashionable
What's your style of femininity?
#AddToBlackSky
#Blacksky
November 24, 2024 at 2:50 AM
Femininity is not one thing. It is made up of many beautiful things. We are not a monolith! Ladies, pick 5 styles that best suit you.
Mine are:
Fearless
Poise
Minimalist
Polished
Fashionable
What's your style of femininity?
#AddToBlackSky
#Blacksky
Mine are:
Fearless
Poise
Minimalist
Polished
Fashionable
What's your style of femininity?
#AddToBlackSky
#Blacksky
Walls block us from feeling hurt, but they also block us from feeling loved.
#AddToBlackSky
#AddToBlackSky
November 24, 2024 at 12:59 AM
Walls block us from feeling hurt, but they also block us from feeling loved.
#AddToBlackSky
#AddToBlackSky
No need to give others too much of your energy. Some people won't understand all of the hard work you're putting in and some may even envy it. Which is ok because you definitely don't need their approval anyway.
November 23, 2024 at 1:37 PM
No need to give others too much of your energy. Some people won't understand all of the hard work you're putting in and some may even envy it. Which is ok because you definitely don't need their approval anyway.
Test your beliefs about your goals with these questions...
November 23, 2024 at 1:28 PM
Test your beliefs about your goals with these questions...
Thank you so much! I was just busy following back. It took me 3 seconds to scroll thru their page and that was that. Absolutely terrible!
November 22, 2024 at 9:31 PM
Thank you so much! I was just busy following back. It took me 3 seconds to scroll thru their page and that was that. Absolutely terrible!
My hair has a mind of its own and kinda does what it wants on the day that it wants to do it 😫
November 22, 2024 at 5:57 PM
My hair has a mind of its own and kinda does what it wants on the day that it wants to do it 😫
A little reminder...
November 22, 2024 at 3:58 PM
A little reminder...
Come look at this... I blocked their name bc of the mutuals but...
November 22, 2024 at 3:34 PM
Come look at this... I blocked their name bc of the mutuals but...
Speaking of which... I'm a genuinely good person who doesn't want any problems. But something like this is just egregious
November 22, 2024 at 3:33 PM
Speaking of which... I'm a genuinely good person who doesn't want any problems. But something like this is just egregious
Morning everyone!
November 22, 2024 at 1:05 PM
Morning everyone!
Mine is incompetence... which led me to avoid putting myself in spaces that would've helped me reach my goals faster because of the fear of not knowing enough.
November 22, 2024 at 12:11 AM
Mine is incompetence... which led me to avoid putting myself in spaces that would've helped me reach my goals faster because of the fear of not knowing enough.
Who can relate? 🙋🏾♀️
November 22, 2024 at 12:04 AM
Who can relate? 🙋🏾♀️
What’s your 10/10 album?
November 21, 2024 at 5:21 PM
What’s your 10/10 album?
I really do try 😭😖
November 21, 2024 at 5:05 PM
I really do try 😭😖
Dear Women who think and say:
'I can do bad all by myself'
It sounds empowering & feels good to say but, It's a way of avoiding TRUE healing work & allows us to keep the focus/blame on others vs looking internally. The same way we are traumatized through relationships, we also heal through them.
'I can do bad all by myself'
It sounds empowering & feels good to say but, It's a way of avoiding TRUE healing work & allows us to keep the focus/blame on others vs looking internally. The same way we are traumatized through relationships, we also heal through them.
November 21, 2024 at 4:25 PM
Dear Women who think and say:
'I can do bad all by myself'
It sounds empowering & feels good to say but, It's a way of avoiding TRUE healing work & allows us to keep the focus/blame on others vs looking internally. The same way we are traumatized through relationships, we also heal through them.
'I can do bad all by myself'
It sounds empowering & feels good to say but, It's a way of avoiding TRUE healing work & allows us to keep the focus/blame on others vs looking internally. The same way we are traumatized through relationships, we also heal through them.
Dear Men who think & say:
'Never share your true feelings with a woman. She'll just use that as ammunition to get back at you'...
Not everyone is deserving of your vulnerability. You have to be a safe space for yourself FIRST before knowing how to discern who can be a safe space for you.
'Never share your true feelings with a woman. She'll just use that as ammunition to get back at you'...
Not everyone is deserving of your vulnerability. You have to be a safe space for yourself FIRST before knowing how to discern who can be a safe space for you.
November 21, 2024 at 3:28 PM
Dear Men who think & say:
'Never share your true feelings with a woman. She'll just use that as ammunition to get back at you'...
Not everyone is deserving of your vulnerability. You have to be a safe space for yourself FIRST before knowing how to discern who can be a safe space for you.
'Never share your true feelings with a woman. She'll just use that as ammunition to get back at you'...
Not everyone is deserving of your vulnerability. You have to be a safe space for yourself FIRST before knowing how to discern who can be a safe space for you.
Relationships:
-Are the bridge b/t our brokenness & healing
-Are mirrors that reflect back our deepest vulnerabilities
-Provide support, understanding, & validation crucial for psychological healing
-Help us process our emotions, build resilience, & foster growth
-We cannot TRULY heal in isolation
🖤
-Are the bridge b/t our brokenness & healing
-Are mirrors that reflect back our deepest vulnerabilities
-Provide support, understanding, & validation crucial for psychological healing
-Help us process our emotions, build resilience, & foster growth
-We cannot TRULY heal in isolation
🖤
November 20, 2024 at 9:39 PM
Relationships:
-Are the bridge b/t our brokenness & healing
-Are mirrors that reflect back our deepest vulnerabilities
-Provide support, understanding, & validation crucial for psychological healing
-Help us process our emotions, build resilience, & foster growth
-We cannot TRULY heal in isolation
🖤
-Are the bridge b/t our brokenness & healing
-Are mirrors that reflect back our deepest vulnerabilities
-Provide support, understanding, & validation crucial for psychological healing
-Help us process our emotions, build resilience, & foster growth
-We cannot TRULY heal in isolation
🖤