Coach Mel 5w4 INTJ
@couplesdevelopment.bsky.social
I'm a: Certified Relationship Coach Member of The Relationship Coach Institute, A Clinical Sexologist & member of The American Board of Sexology, an Enneagram Certified Coach, DISC Certified, A Wife, A Mother & an Author! Books are my savior!
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Just wanted to share my 1st book with everyone. I hope that it can be a small part of your healing journey.
Softness. 🕊️
Strength. 💪🏾
Wholeness. 💯
Superwoman No More!
Enjoy 🤗🖤
#BlackBookSky
#BookSky
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Softness. 🕊️
Strength. 💪🏾
Wholeness. 💯
Superwoman No More!
Enjoy 🤗🖤
#BlackBookSky
#BookSky
📚
Come join us for our free 2025 Relationship Fresh Start Boot Camp Live Virtual Relationship Coaching Session. Click the link below. Wishing you a Very Happy New Year!
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December 27, 2024 at 7:40 PM
Come join us for our free 2025 Relationship Fresh Start Boot Camp Live Virtual Relationship Coaching Session. Click the link below. Wishing you a Very Happy New Year!
www.couplesdevelopment.com/event-list
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How to deal with negative comments about your relationship through the Holiday Season.
Merry Christmas everyone!
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Merry Christmas everyone!
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Navigating Relationship Criticism: Strategies For Handling Haters #relationshipadvice
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December 25, 2024 at 10:34 PM
How to deal with negative comments about your relationship through the Holiday Season.
Merry Christmas everyone!
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Merry Christmas everyone!
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Being willing to embrace the discomfort of change and confront the resistance that's holding you back, is one of the hardest things to do, but it's also completely transformative.
December 13, 2024 at 6:14 PM
Being willing to embrace the discomfort of change and confront the resistance that's holding you back, is one of the hardest things to do, but it's also completely transformative.
Fixing your relationships issues doesn't start with what you do, it starts with how you think. It begins with your willingness to challenge yourself, to step outside your comfort zone, and to do the very thing you've convinced yourself you can't.
#blacksky
#blacksky
December 13, 2024 at 6:12 PM
Fixing your relationships issues doesn't start with what you do, it starts with how you think. It begins with your willingness to challenge yourself, to step outside your comfort zone, and to do the very thing you've convinced yourself you can't.
#blacksky
#blacksky
Real growth in relationships comes when your motivation is love, not just the fear or avoidance of loss. What are you actively doing to ensure this relationship not only survives, but satisfies and uplifts both of you?
December 13, 2024 at 5:41 PM
Real growth in relationships comes when your motivation is love, not just the fear or avoidance of loss. What are you actively doing to ensure this relationship not only survives, but satisfies and uplifts both of you?
What does wanting your relationship to work look like in your daily actions? Are you creating space for honest communication, addressing your partner's needs, and confronting your own resistance? Or is your effort rooted in the fear of being alone rather than the desire for a healthy relationship?
December 13, 2024 at 5:36 PM
What does wanting your relationship to work look like in your daily actions? Are you creating space for honest communication, addressing your partner's needs, and confronting your own resistance? Or is your effort rooted in the fear of being alone rather than the desire for a healthy relationship?
Do you truly want your relationship to thrive, or are you holding onto it out of fear? Wanting your relationship to work isn't just a feeling, it's a commitment to act. It's about showing up, making changes, and prioritizing what's best for BOTH you and your partner.
#blacksky
#relationships
#blacksky
#relationships
December 13, 2024 at 5:34 PM
Do you truly want your relationship to thrive, or are you holding onto it out of fear? Wanting your relationship to work isn't just a feeling, it's a commitment to act. It's about showing up, making changes, and prioritizing what's best for BOTH you and your partner.
#blacksky
#relationships
#blacksky
#relationships
Can you think of any other unrealistic expectations that we place on each other?
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#blacksky
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December 10, 2024 at 5:52 PM
Can you think of any other unrealistic expectations that we place on each other?
#blacksky
#relationships
#blacksky
#relationships
And we wonder why relationships are hard.
Make it make sense please! 😭
Gentlemen, you're next!
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#addtoblacksky
Make it make sense please! 😭
Gentlemen, you're next!
#blacksky
#addtoblacksky
December 10, 2024 at 1:40 AM
And we wonder why relationships are hard.
Make it make sense please! 😭
Gentlemen, you're next!
#blacksky
#addtoblacksky
Make it make sense please! 😭
Gentlemen, you're next!
#blacksky
#addtoblacksky
One-sided relationships are rare. Both partners are gaining something from it. Exceptions do exist but for most of us, no matter how painful our relationship may feel, we are always gaining something. So, if you hate your relationship, ask yourself, what exactly are you gaining from being in it?
December 5, 2024 at 9:11 PM
One-sided relationships are rare. Both partners are gaining something from it. Exceptions do exist but for most of us, no matter how painful our relationship may feel, we are always gaining something. So, if you hate your relationship, ask yourself, what exactly are you gaining from being in it?
Did you know that over 70% of relationship conflicts never get resolved because of personality differences and NOT a lack of care or love? Using a tool like The Enneagram of Personality to better understand your partner, but most importantly yourself, is life altering. It saved our marriage!
December 4, 2024 at 10:50 PM
Did you know that over 70% of relationship conflicts never get resolved because of personality differences and NOT a lack of care or love? Using a tool like The Enneagram of Personality to better understand your partner, but most importantly yourself, is life altering. It saved our marriage!
When dating, instead of evaluating the man or chasing excitement, check in with your body. How do you feel in his presence? If you feel calm, comfortable, relaxed & at peace, this is often your body signaling, "This person may be good for us." Give him a few more dates or date em til you hate em!
December 4, 2024 at 10:37 PM
When dating, instead of evaluating the man or chasing excitement, check in with your body. How do you feel in his presence? If you feel calm, comfortable, relaxed & at peace, this is often your body signaling, "This person may be good for us." Give him a few more dates or date em til you hate em!
Time for me to get better acquitted with this app. I'll be sharing some info that could hopefully provide you some value in improving your relationships. Most of the time we want the same as our partners. It's our personality differences that get in the way. I'm here to help. Follow for more!
December 4, 2024 at 9:21 PM
Time for me to get better acquitted with this app. I'll be sharing some info that could hopefully provide you some value in improving your relationships. Most of the time we want the same as our partners. It's our personality differences that get in the way. I'm here to help. Follow for more!
@peacheykei.bsky.social Hi, I'm a Relationship and Holistic Wellness Coach and would love to be added to your Renaissance list.
December 4, 2024 at 9:11 PM
@peacheykei.bsky.social Hi, I'm a Relationship and Holistic Wellness Coach and would love to be added to your Renaissance list.
'He's boring'
When chaos or emotional highs have been the norm, the calm stability of a healthy connection can feel unfamiliar or dull. Boredom is often your nervous system feeling safe/peace vs being accustomed to living in survival mode. Stability can be boring, but essential for healthy bonds.
When chaos or emotional highs have been the norm, the calm stability of a healthy connection can feel unfamiliar or dull. Boredom is often your nervous system feeling safe/peace vs being accustomed to living in survival mode. Stability can be boring, but essential for healthy bonds.
December 4, 2024 at 8:48 PM
'He's boring'
When chaos or emotional highs have been the norm, the calm stability of a healthy connection can feel unfamiliar or dull. Boredom is often your nervous system feeling safe/peace vs being accustomed to living in survival mode. Stability can be boring, but essential for healthy bonds.
When chaos or emotional highs have been the norm, the calm stability of a healthy connection can feel unfamiliar or dull. Boredom is often your nervous system feeling safe/peace vs being accustomed to living in survival mode. Stability can be boring, but essential for healthy bonds.
When dating we can often make the mistake of searching for chemistry. Issue is, chemistry often comes from familiarity rooted in unresolved childhood pain. Unconsciously we recognize these patterns, leading to feeling intense chemistry with someone only to later realize they remind us of our past.
December 4, 2024 at 8:33 PM
When dating we can often make the mistake of searching for chemistry. Issue is, chemistry often comes from familiarity rooted in unresolved childhood pain. Unconsciously we recognize these patterns, leading to feeling intense chemistry with someone only to later realize they remind us of our past.
This is part of what 'relationships take work' means. Becoming aware when we're viewing our partners in black & white terms is crucial for relationship success. Idealization can lead to let downs & obviously devaluing borders on abusive. Learning to differentiate is hard, but it's essential to learn
November 27, 2024 at 1:11 AM
This is part of what 'relationships take work' means. Becoming aware when we're viewing our partners in black & white terms is crucial for relationship success. Idealization can lead to let downs & obviously devaluing borders on abusive. Learning to differentiate is hard, but it's essential to learn
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5'3"
Black woman
Natural kinky curly hair
Intelligent af
Super small and pretty feet
Face card must be 🤌🏿
A pretty smile
Eyes that make it hard to keep eye contact
A great sense of humor
Introverted
Basically @Couplesdevelopment.bsky.social 😫
Black woman
Natural kinky curly hair
Intelligent af
Super small and pretty feet
Face card must be 🤌🏿
A pretty smile
Eyes that make it hard to keep eye contact
A great sense of humor
Introverted
Basically @Couplesdevelopment.bsky.social 😫
39. What’s your usual type?
November 26, 2024 at 4:49 AM
5'3"
Black woman
Natural kinky curly hair
Intelligent af
Super small and pretty feet
Face card must be 🤌🏿
A pretty smile
Eyes that make it hard to keep eye contact
A great sense of humor
Introverted
Basically @Couplesdevelopment.bsky.social 😫
Black woman
Natural kinky curly hair
Intelligent af
Super small and pretty feet
Face card must be 🤌🏿
A pretty smile
Eyes that make it hard to keep eye contact
A great sense of humor
Introverted
Basically @Couplesdevelopment.bsky.social 😫
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Reposted by Coach Mel 5w4 INTJ
remember that your mental health is a priority, your inner peace is essential & your self care is a necessity
November 25, 2024 at 3:33 AM
remember that your mental health is a priority, your inner peace is essential & your self care is a necessity
1. Shared values. Trying to change someone else's values is almost impossible.
2. Shared intimacy. Being aligned on what intimacy is and looks like.
3. Sense of humor. Someone that gets you
4. Life goals. This helps the couple to more intuitively support each other's goals.
#blacksky
#relationships
November 25, 2024 at 10:18 PM
1. Shared values. Trying to change someone else's values is almost impossible.
2. Shared intimacy. Being aligned on what intimacy is and looks like.
3. Sense of humor. Someone that gets you
4. Life goals. This helps the couple to more intuitively support each other's goals.
#blacksky
#relationships
Unmet childhood needs often lead us to expect our partners to make up for what our caregivers didn't give us. Our partners can offer us compassion, but they cannot undo our painful past. Our partners are there to support & encourage us while we're on own healing journey.
#Blacksky
#Relationshipsky
#Blacksky
#Relationshipsky
November 25, 2024 at 3:12 AM
Unmet childhood needs often lead us to expect our partners to make up for what our caregivers didn't give us. Our partners can offer us compassion, but they cannot undo our painful past. Our partners are there to support & encourage us while we're on own healing journey.
#Blacksky
#Relationshipsky
#Blacksky
#Relationshipsky
Remember: In healthy relationships, we talk about our feelings. In unhealthy relationships, we act them out!
#BlackSky
#RelationshipSky
#BlackSky
#RelationshipSky
November 25, 2024 at 2:40 AM
Remember: In healthy relationships, we talk about our feelings. In unhealthy relationships, we act them out!
#BlackSky
#RelationshipSky
#BlackSky
#RelationshipSky
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Femininity is not one thing. It is made up of many beautiful things. We are not a monolith! Ladies, pick 5 styles that best suit you.
Mine are:
Charming
Fashionable
Bold
Powerful
Eloquent
What's your style of femininity?
#AddToBlackSky
#Blacksky
Mine are:
Charming
Fashionable
Bold
Powerful
Eloquent
What's your style of femininity?
#AddToBlackSky
#Blacksky
Femininity is not one thing. It is made up of many beautiful things. We are not a monolith! Ladies, pick 5 styles that best suit you.
Mine are:
Fearless
Poise
Minimalist
Polished
Fashionable
What's your style of femininity?
#AddToBlackSky
#Blacksky
Mine are:
Fearless
Poise
Minimalist
Polished
Fashionable
What's your style of femininity?
#AddToBlackSky
#Blacksky
November 24, 2024 at 11:02 AM
Femininity is not one thing. It is made up of many beautiful things. We are not a monolith! Ladies, pick 5 styles that best suit you.
Mine are:
Charming
Fashionable
Bold
Powerful
Eloquent
What's your style of femininity?
#AddToBlackSky
#Blacksky
Mine are:
Charming
Fashionable
Bold
Powerful
Eloquent
What's your style of femininity?
#AddToBlackSky
#Blacksky
Femininity is not one thing. It is made up of many beautiful things. We are not a monolith! Ladies, pick 5 styles that best suit you.
Mine are:
Fearless
Poise
Minimalist
Polished
Fashionable
What's your style of femininity?
#AddToBlackSky
#Blacksky
Mine are:
Fearless
Poise
Minimalist
Polished
Fashionable
What's your style of femininity?
#AddToBlackSky
#Blacksky
November 24, 2024 at 2:50 AM
Femininity is not one thing. It is made up of many beautiful things. We are not a monolith! Ladies, pick 5 styles that best suit you.
Mine are:
Fearless
Poise
Minimalist
Polished
Fashionable
What's your style of femininity?
#AddToBlackSky
#Blacksky
Mine are:
Fearless
Poise
Minimalist
Polished
Fashionable
What's your style of femininity?
#AddToBlackSky
#Blacksky