Complicated Pleasures
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Complicated Pleasures is an upcoming book of real relationship stories from fetishists navigating love, longing, and compromise. Share your story! complicatedpleasures.ca
We recently interviewed a pantyhose fetishist who's been happily married to a vanilla woman for 25+ years. He says they have a mutually incredible sex life. ❤️
December 16, 2025 at 3:22 PM
We recently interviewed a pantyhose fetishist who's been happily married to a vanilla woman for 25+ years. He says they have a mutually incredible sex life. ❤️
Do you agree or disagree with this quote? When it comes to sexuality, and fetish in particular, there's often tremendous pressure to deaden, dampen or compartmentalize this part of ourselves.
December 11, 2025 at 4:15 PM
Do you agree or disagree with this quote? When it comes to sexuality, and fetish in particular, there's often tremendous pressure to deaden, dampen or compartmentalize this part of ourselves.
One pattern we've noticed with fetishists in fulfilling relationships with vanillas is that the fetish partner is deeply concerned with fulfilling their vanilla partner sexually, not just the other way around.
December 9, 2025 at 3:45 PM
One pattern we've noticed with fetishists in fulfilling relationships with vanillas is that the fetish partner is deeply concerned with fulfilling their vanilla partner sexually, not just the other way around.
We've said it before and we'll say it again: 👏 FIND 👏 YOUR 👏 PEOPLE! 👏
A lifetime of shame and secrecy can melt away when you meet other people who share this part of you and who can celebrate it in themselves and in you.
A lifetime of shame and secrecy can melt away when you meet other people who share this part of you and who can celebrate it in themselves and in you.
November 18, 2025 at 3:30 PM
We've said it before and we'll say it again: 👏 FIND 👏 YOUR 👏 PEOPLE! 👏
A lifetime of shame and secrecy can melt away when you meet other people who share this part of you and who can celebrate it in themselves and in you.
A lifetime of shame and secrecy can melt away when you meet other people who share this part of you and who can celebrate it in themselves and in you.
An important quote from an important book. If not for social stigma, how many of us would have come to love and accept this side of ourselves a long time ago?
October 22, 2025 at 4:07 PM
An important quote from an important book. If not for social stigma, how many of us would have come to love and accept this side of ourselves a long time ago?
When you have a fetish, is it one distinct part of you, or your 24/7 core? Do fetishists differ in our ability (or willingness) or compartmentalize it in relationships? We're hoping these interviews will give us some clues.
July 31, 2025 at 2:49 PM
When you have a fetish, is it one distinct part of you, or your 24/7 core? Do fetishists differ in our ability (or willingness) or compartmentalize it in relationships? We're hoping these interviews will give us some clues.
Kinky folks, how long did it take you to fully "come out" to yourself?
July 29, 2025 at 2:33 PM
Kinky folks, how long did it take you to fully "come out" to yourself?
Interview excerpt from a fetishist who's been happily married to a normative (vanilla) partner for over 50 years. ❤️
July 24, 2025 at 2:33 PM
Interview excerpt from a fetishist who's been happily married to a normative (vanilla) partner for over 50 years. ❤️
One of the greatest quotes of all time, and just as true for us folks in the kink/fetish community as anyone else.
July 23, 2025 at 2:34 AM
One of the greatest quotes of all time, and just as true for us folks in the kink/fetish community as anyone else.
Interview excerpt from a kinkster in a 25+ year relationship with a fetishist (polyamorous for the past 15+ years).
July 3, 2025 at 2:55 PM
Interview excerpt from a kinkster in a 25+ year relationship with a fetishist (polyamorous for the past 15+ years).
Another interview excerpt. Wisdom from someone in a 10+ year fetish-compatible relationship.
June 26, 2025 at 2:38 PM
Another interview excerpt. Wisdom from someone in a 10+ year fetish-compatible relationship.
We kicked off our first interview for the book last night, with a long-time member of the Toronto kink scene! Here's her advice for people struggling with their fetish. Do you agree?
June 19, 2025 at 5:32 PM
We kicked off our first interview for the book last night, with a long-time member of the Toronto kink scene! Here's her advice for people struggling with their fetish. Do you agree?
Starting to comb through our candidate submissions, and we love when we come across beautiful stories like this one. Can't wait to hear more (and share it with you all in the book!).
June 5, 2025 at 2:07 PM
Starting to comb through our candidate submissions, and we love when we come across beautiful stories like this one. Can't wait to hear more (and share it with you all in the book!).
Shame derives its power from being unspeakable. That's why we want to start speaking up and sharing stories about fetish and the way it affects relationships.
June 4, 2025 at 2:18 PM
Shame derives its power from being unspeakable. That's why we want to start speaking up and sharing stories about fetish and the way it affects relationships.
We fetishists sure do love speculating about HOW we developed these fetishes, but at the end of the day, aren't the most important questions how and with whom we explore them?
May 26, 2025 at 4:25 PM
We fetishists sure do love speculating about HOW we developed these fetishes, but at the end of the day, aren't the most important questions how and with whom we explore them?
