Complicated Pleasures
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Complicated Pleasures is an upcoming book of real relationship stories from fetishists navigating love, longing, and compromise. Share your story! complicatedpleasures.ca
YES, we are still seeking interviews with fetishists (and/or their partners) to hear about their long-term relationships, past or present! Please fill out our intake form at ComplicatePleasures.ca
Complicated Pleasures
Complicated Pleasures is collecting real relationship stories from fetishists navigating love, longing, and compromise. Your experience could help someone else feel seen.
ComplicatePleasures.ca
December 18, 2025 at 4:02 PM
YES, we are still seeking interviews with fetishists (and/or their partners) to hear about their long-term relationships, past or present! Please fill out our intake form at ComplicatePleasures.ca
We recently interviewed a pantyhose fetishist who's been happily married to a vanilla woman for 25+ years. He says they have a mutually incredible sex life. ❤️
December 16, 2025 at 3:22 PM
We recently interviewed a pantyhose fetishist who's been happily married to a vanilla woman for 25+ years. He says they have a mutually incredible sex life. ❤️
Do you agree or disagree with this quote? When it comes to sexuality, and fetish in particular, there's often tremendous pressure to deaden, dampen or compartmentalize this part of ourselves.
December 11, 2025 at 4:15 PM
Do you agree or disagree with this quote? When it comes to sexuality, and fetish in particular, there's often tremendous pressure to deaden, dampen or compartmentalize this part of ourselves.
One pattern we've noticed with fetishists in fulfilling relationships with vanillas is that the fetish partner is deeply concerned with fulfilling their vanilla partner sexually, not just the other way around.
December 9, 2025 at 3:45 PM
One pattern we've noticed with fetishists in fulfilling relationships with vanillas is that the fetish partner is deeply concerned with fulfilling their vanilla partner sexually, not just the other way around.
We've said it before and we'll say it again: 👏 FIND 👏 YOUR 👏 PEOPLE! 👏
A lifetime of shame and secrecy can melt away when you meet other people who share this part of you and who can celebrate it in themselves and in you.
A lifetime of shame and secrecy can melt away when you meet other people who share this part of you and who can celebrate it in themselves and in you.
November 18, 2025 at 3:30 PM
We've said it before and we'll say it again: 👏 FIND 👏 YOUR 👏 PEOPLE! 👏
A lifetime of shame and secrecy can melt away when you meet other people who share this part of you and who can celebrate it in themselves and in you.
A lifetime of shame and secrecy can melt away when you meet other people who share this part of you and who can celebrate it in themselves and in you.
Check us out on a recent "Fetish Friday" episode of the Strictly Anonymous Confessions podcast! Miz Darling talks about Complicated Pleasures, plus her own history as a fetishist navigating relationships. open.spotify.com/episode/23HM...
1257 – Miz Darling is a Dominatrix with a Spanking Kink
Strictly Anonymous Confessions · Episode
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November 14, 2025 at 3:02 PM
Check us out on a recent "Fetish Friday" episode of the Strictly Anonymous Confessions podcast! Miz Darling talks about Complicated Pleasures, plus her own history as a fetishist navigating relationships. open.spotify.com/episode/23HM...
A huge THANK YOU to Erin Pim for having Miz Darling on her podcast to talk about Complicated Pleasures, plus kink vs. fetish, working as a pro Dominant and the importance of kink community. open.spotify.com/episode/0gIB...
Miz Darling
The Bed Post Podcast · Episode
open.spotify.com
November 12, 2025 at 3:15 PM
A huge THANK YOU to Erin Pim for having Miz Darling on her podcast to talk about Complicated Pleasures, plus kink vs. fetish, working as a pro Dominant and the importance of kink community. open.spotify.com/episode/0gIB...
Miz Darling was recently on the Strictly Anonymous podcast, talking to Kathy about Complicated Pleasures, as well as her own experience as a fetishist navigating sexuality and relationships. open.spotify.com/episode/23HM...
1257 – Miz Darling is a Dominatrix with a Spanking Kink
Strictly Anonymous Confessions · Episode
open.spotify.com
November 11, 2025 at 7:27 PM
Miz Darling was recently on the Strictly Anonymous podcast, talking to Kathy about Complicated Pleasures, as well as her own experience as a fetishist navigating sexuality and relationships. open.spotify.com/episode/23HM...
An important quote from an important book. If not for social stigma, how many of us would have come to love and accept this side of ourselves a long time ago?
October 22, 2025 at 4:07 PM
An important quote from an important book. If not for social stigma, how many of us would have come to love and accept this side of ourselves a long time ago?
Want to hear more about the Complicated Pleasures fetish relationship book project, straight from the authors? We're on Amanda's podcast talking about the book, plus fetish versus kink, spanking, foot fetish, cuckolding and more! open.spotify.com/episode/3G4O...
Ep 49 - Complicated Pleasures: Can Fetish, Kink, and Romance Coexist? with Miz Darling
The Kink Consultant · Episode
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September 16, 2025 at 2:32 PM
Want to hear more about the Complicated Pleasures fetish relationship book project, straight from the authors? We're on Amanda's podcast talking about the book, plus fetish versus kink, spanking, foot fetish, cuckolding and more! open.spotify.com/episode/3G4O...
When you have a fetish, is it one distinct part of you, or your 24/7 core? Do fetishists differ in our ability (or willingness) or compartmentalize it in relationships? We're hoping these interviews will give us some clues.
July 31, 2025 at 2:49 PM
When you have a fetish, is it one distinct part of you, or your 24/7 core? Do fetishists differ in our ability (or willingness) or compartmentalize it in relationships? We're hoping these interviews will give us some clues.
There are books for couples who disagree about money, parenting, politics, religion.
But what about when the difference is sexual wiring?
That’s what we’re writing.
complicatedpleasures.ca
#fetish #BDSM #relationships
But what about when the difference is sexual wiring?
That’s what we’re writing.
complicatedpleasures.ca
#fetish #BDSM #relationships
Complicated Pleasures - Fetishists in Love and Relationships
Complicated Pleasures is about real relationship stories from fetishists navigating love, longing, and compromise. Share your story!
complicatedpleasures.ca
July 30, 2025 at 3:03 PM
There are books for couples who disagree about money, parenting, politics, religion.
But what about when the difference is sexual wiring?
That’s what we’re writing.
complicatedpleasures.ca
#fetish #BDSM #relationships
But what about when the difference is sexual wiring?
That’s what we’re writing.
complicatedpleasures.ca
#fetish #BDSM #relationships
Kinky folks, how long did it take you to fully "come out" to yourself?
July 29, 2025 at 2:33 PM
Kinky folks, how long did it take you to fully "come out" to yourself?
Interview excerpt from a fetishist who's been happily married to a normative (vanilla) partner for over 50 years. ❤️
July 24, 2025 at 2:33 PM
Interview excerpt from a fetishist who's been happily married to a normative (vanilla) partner for over 50 years. ❤️
Now seeking:
🖤 Fetishists in long-term relationships
🖤 Partners of fetishists
🖤 Real stories—whether they worked or didn’t
We’re creating a book of anonymous case studies. Link in bio.
#ComplicatedPleasures
🖤 Fetishists in long-term relationships
🖤 Partners of fetishists
🖤 Real stories—whether they worked or didn’t
We’re creating a book of anonymous case studies. Link in bio.
#ComplicatedPleasures
July 23, 2025 at 2:52 PM
Now seeking:
🖤 Fetishists in long-term relationships
🖤 Partners of fetishists
🖤 Real stories—whether they worked or didn’t
We’re creating a book of anonymous case studies. Link in bio.
#ComplicatedPleasures
🖤 Fetishists in long-term relationships
🖤 Partners of fetishists
🖤 Real stories—whether they worked or didn’t
We’re creating a book of anonymous case studies. Link in bio.
#ComplicatedPleasures
One of the greatest quotes of all time, and just as true for us folks in the kink/fetish community as anyone else.
July 23, 2025 at 2:34 AM
One of the greatest quotes of all time, and just as true for us folks in the kink/fetish community as anyone else.
Thanks to everyone filled out our survey at ComplicatedPleasures.ca! We're in the process of sorting through responses and beginning to contact people for interviews, but it's going to take some time.
Complicated Pleasures - Fetishists in Love and Relationships
Complicated Pleasures is about real relationship stories from fetishists navigating love, longing, and compromise. Share your story!
ComplicatedPleasures.ca
July 21, 2025 at 4:15 PM
Thanks to everyone filled out our survey at ComplicatedPleasures.ca! We're in the process of sorting through responses and beginning to contact people for interviews, but it's going to take some time.
Interview excerpt from a kinkster in a 25+ year relationship with a fetishist (polyamorous for the past 15+ years).
July 3, 2025 at 2:55 PM
Interview excerpt from a kinkster in a 25+ year relationship with a fetishist (polyamorous for the past 15+ years).
Another interview excerpt. Wisdom from someone in a 10+ year fetish-compatible relationship.
June 26, 2025 at 2:38 PM
Another interview excerpt. Wisdom from someone in a 10+ year fetish-compatible relationship.
We kicked off our first interview for the book last night, with a long-time member of the Toronto kink scene! Here's her advice for people struggling with their fetish. Do you agree?
June 19, 2025 at 5:32 PM
We kicked off our first interview for the book last night, with a long-time member of the Toronto kink scene! Here's her advice for people struggling with their fetish. Do you agree?
Starting to comb through our candidate submissions, and we love when we come across beautiful stories like this one. Can't wait to hear more (and share it with you all in the book!).
June 5, 2025 at 2:07 PM
Starting to comb through our candidate submissions, and we love when we come across beautiful stories like this one. Can't wait to hear more (and share it with you all in the book!).
Shame derives its power from being unspeakable. That's why we want to start speaking up and sharing stories about fetish and the way it affects relationships.
June 4, 2025 at 2:18 PM
Shame derives its power from being unspeakable. That's why we want to start speaking up and sharing stories about fetish and the way it affects relationships.
Who was the first person you ever told about your fetish? How did they react? How did that reaction shape your decision to tell people or explore your fetish going forward?
You don't have to comment, but it might be worth taking a moment to reflect privately on your answers.
You don't have to comment, but it might be worth taking a moment to reflect privately on your answers.
June 3, 2025 at 2:31 PM
Who was the first person you ever told about your fetish? How did they react? How did that reaction shape your decision to tell people or explore your fetish going forward?
You don't have to comment, but it might be worth taking a moment to reflect privately on your answers.
You don't have to comment, but it might be worth taking a moment to reflect privately on your answers.
We only started spreading the word about this project on Tuesday, and already we have 36 survey submissions to participate as case studies for the book! We're feeling pretty overwhelmed with gratitude for the support this project is already receiving. Thank you! ❤️
May 30, 2025 at 2:09 PM
We only started spreading the word about this project on Tuesday, and already we have 36 survey submissions to participate as case studies for the book! We're feeling pretty overwhelmed with gratitude for the support this project is already receiving. Thank you! ❤️
We know a lot of fetishists in relationships with vanillas—some genuinely happy, some who worry it will never work out because of sexual incompatibilities. IF ONLY the second group could hear more stories about how the first group makes things work... >> complicatedpleasures.ca 👀👀👀
Complicated Pleasures - Fetishists in Love and Relationships
Complicated Pleasures is about real relationship stories from fetishists navigating love, longing, and compromise. Share your story!
complicatedpleasures.ca
May 29, 2025 at 3:22 PM
We know a lot of fetishists in relationships with vanillas—some genuinely happy, some who worry it will never work out because of sexual incompatibilities. IF ONLY the second group could hear more stories about how the first group makes things work... >> complicatedpleasures.ca 👀👀👀