Cody Daigle-Orians
@codydo.bsky.social
Writer and educator. Also: Books. Horror. Theatre. 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
Had to postone, so this workshop is now coming up on Sunday!
www.crowdcast.io/c/aspecfree
www.crowdcast.io/c/aspecfree
Breaking Free from Sex and Romance: Strategies for Mastering an Aspec Mindset
Register now for Breaking Free from Sex and Romance: Strategies for Mastering an Aspec Mindset on crowdcast, scheduled to go live on November 16, 2025, 12:00 PM EST.
www.crowdcast.io
November 11, 2025 at 4:08 PM
Had to postone, so this workshop is now coming up on Sunday!
www.crowdcast.io/c/aspecfree
www.crowdcast.io/c/aspecfree
I’ve had a few interactions recently with people who say they’re demisexual and then describe wildly not demisexual experiences, and I fear allo people are gonna render that word meaningless for actual ace-spec demi folks.
November 10, 2025 at 5:28 PM
I’ve had a few interactions recently with people who say they’re demisexual and then describe wildly not demisexual experiences, and I fear allo people are gonna render that word meaningless for actual ace-spec demi folks.
There's often a suggestion that sex-favorable ace people have an easy road. But sex-favorable asexuality is still asexuality.
Sex-favorable asexuality *is* asexuality.
Being sex-favorable isn't an "easier" form of asexuality.
acedadadvice.substack.com
November 10, 2025 at 2:55 PM
There's often a suggestion that sex-favorable ace people have an easy road. But sex-favorable asexuality is still asexuality.
I'm of course very happy the Supreme Court won't hear the case to overturn Obergefell v Hodges. That's great news.
I would not be surprised, however, if the dismantling of marriage equality shows up in some other form down the road.
I would not be surprised, however, if the dismantling of marriage equality shows up in some other form down the road.
November 10, 2025 at 2:53 PM
I'm of course very happy the Supreme Court won't hear the case to overturn Obergefell v Hodges. That's great news.
I would not be surprised, however, if the dismantling of marriage equality shows up in some other form down the road.
I would not be surprised, however, if the dismantling of marriage equality shows up in some other form down the road.
Therapists I’ve jived with in my life have all been men I thought, “that’s a gay man, Maury” but were married to women and had children.
That’s my new screening question going forward.
That’s my new screening question going forward.
November 7, 2025 at 7:34 PM
Therapists I’ve jived with in my life have all been men I thought, “that’s a gay man, Maury” but were married to women and had children.
That’s my new screening question going forward.
That’s my new screening question going forward.
New on the advice column: there are ways to navigate a changing landscape with a close friend when romance enters the picture.
"My roommate has a new boyfriend, and it's changing our relationship."
Tackle the changes head-on, and be honest about what you're feeling.
acedadadvice.substack.com
November 6, 2025 at 9:47 PM
New on the advice column: there are ways to navigate a changing landscape with a close friend when romance enters the picture.
A thing that always cracks me up on the gay apps: guys who have screen names like "BIGDADDY202" or something and they're like 21. Mama, help me.
November 6, 2025 at 9:46 PM
A thing that always cracks me up on the gay apps: guys who have screen names like "BIGDADDY202" or something and they're like 21. Mama, help me.
Since it's the 5th, it's a great day to launch the first set of High Five interviews!
High Five: Aspec Interviews — Ace Dad Advice
acedadadvice.com
November 5, 2025 at 5:11 PM
Since it's the 5th, it's a great day to launch the first set of High Five interviews!
Aspec invisibility isn’t the only obstacle in figuring ourselves out and embracing who we are.
You can't read a life written in invisible ink.
Asexual invisibility, intelligibility and learning to read ourselves.
open.substack.com
November 4, 2025 at 5:09 PM
Aspec invisibility isn’t the only obstacle in figuring ourselves out and embracing who we are.
November 1, 2025 at 7:11 PM
Happy Halloween! This year I’m the legend, the icon Chuck Tingle. LOVE IS REAL
October 31, 2025 at 2:15 PM
Happy Halloween! This year I’m the legend, the icon Chuck Tingle. LOVE IS REAL
Being ace and acting as though allonormativity is right is shooting yourself in the foot.
Why would you adhere to a worldview that doesn’t think you deserve to exist as yourself?
Why would you adhere to a worldview that doesn’t think you deserve to exist as yourself?
October 31, 2025 at 1:46 AM
Being ace and acting as though allonormativity is right is shooting yourself in the foot.
Why would you adhere to a worldview that doesn’t think you deserve to exist as yourself?
Why would you adhere to a worldview that doesn’t think you deserve to exist as yourself?
Colder weather is here, and my seasonal depression is around the corner, so chances are slim I'm gonna put up with your internet bullshit. lol
October 30, 2025 at 7:07 PM
Colder weather is here, and my seasonal depression is around the corner, so chances are slim I'm gonna put up with your internet bullshit. lol
“Just go to a food bank, a church or a charity”
For every meal the food bank provides, the SNAP program provides 9.
Even if donations are rapidly scaled up, they won’t be able to meet the needs of 42 million Americans who are about to go hungry.
It’s not sustainable.
For every meal the food bank provides, the SNAP program provides 9.
Even if donations are rapidly scaled up, they won’t be able to meet the needs of 42 million Americans who are about to go hungry.
It’s not sustainable.
October 28, 2025 at 12:22 PM
Started THE CHAIR COMPANY, and it's so good and weird.
October 26, 2025 at 9:29 PM
Started THE CHAIR COMPANY, and it's so good and weird.
"If there’s one mental shift I think you’d get a ton from, it’s shifting from thinking about the current position you’re in as combative to thinking about it as collaborative."
"I'd like our queerplatonic relationship to evolve, but I'm afraid to mess things up."
You can turn these hard conversations into exciting spaces for exploration.
acedadadvice.substack.com
October 26, 2025 at 9:21 PM
"If there’s one mental shift I think you’d get a ton from, it’s shifting from thinking about the current position you’re in as combative to thinking about it as collaborative."
I do writing coaching on campus, and this week I had an asych feedback on an assignment where a required element was to use AI to get feedback on your paper.
gross.
gross.
October 26, 2025 at 9:19 PM
I do writing coaching on campus, and this week I had an asych feedback on an assignment where a required element was to use AI to get feedback on your paper.
gross.
gross.
October 22, 2025 at 2:07 PM
There's a brand new fiction podcast exploring asexuality from creator Zanah Thirus that you DO NOT want to miss. It's called VELVET, and we talk about it here.
Asexuality, Pleasure, and Podcasts... with Zanah Thirus
In this One on One, I talk to the creator of the new ace fiction podcast, "Velvet," and we explore the space where asexuality meets pleasure.
acedadadvice.substack.com
October 20, 2025 at 12:03 PM
There's a brand new fiction podcast exploring asexuality from creator Zanah Thirus that you DO NOT want to miss. It's called VELVET, and we talk about it here.
It's Ace Week! I did this great One on One with fellow ace content creator Patrick Bex (@fluentlyaspec.bsky.social) about aspec masculinity.
Aspec Masculinity... with Patrick Bex
One on One, we discuss being aspec in male-presenting bodies and how masculinity intersects with the experience of being aspec.
acedadadvice.substack.com
October 19, 2025 at 2:39 PM
It's Ace Week! I did this great One on One with fellow ace content creator Patrick Bex (@fluentlyaspec.bsky.social) about aspec masculinity.
Republicans may not love democracy, but BOY do they love abuse.
Q: This has been reported for a while. Cory Mills was accused of beating a girlfriend in his DC apt. Are you concerned about these allegations?
JOHNSON: You have to ask Rep. Mills about that. He's been a faithful colleague. I don't know the details. Let's talk about things that are really serious
JOHNSON: You have to ask Rep. Mills about that. He's been a faithful colleague. I don't know the details. Let's talk about things that are really serious
October 15, 2025 at 5:37 PM
Republicans may not love democracy, but BOY do they love abuse.
For any Ohio folks: I'm doing my first Ohio event next Wednesday!
Info: www.eventbrite.com/e/clintonvil...
Info: www.eventbrite.com/e/clintonvil...
October 15, 2025 at 1:14 PM
For any Ohio folks: I'm doing my first Ohio event next Wednesday!
Info: www.eventbrite.com/e/clintonvil...
Info: www.eventbrite.com/e/clintonvil...
We were discussing nontraditional students and the newer names they're using for them, and my husband called us "the dialup-aspora"
October 15, 2025 at 12:48 PM
We were discussing nontraditional students and the newer names they're using for them, and my husband called us "the dialup-aspora"
One of my professors called me out on how much of a slut I am for the em dash. Sorry not sorry.
October 14, 2025 at 2:49 PM
One of my professors called me out on how much of a slut I am for the em dash. Sorry not sorry.
"[W]e, in the Now, are builders. We are making the space the world denied us for centuries. We are naming what it means to be who we are. That process is messy. That process is long.
Is "The Aspec Moment" now?
How a view of transgender history can help us think about where we are in aspec history.
acedadadvice.substack.com
October 13, 2025 at 8:40 PM
"[W]e, in the Now, are builders. We are making the space the world denied us for centuries. We are naming what it means to be who we are. That process is messy. That process is long.