To change behaviour, we need to understand the triggers and the consequence.
And we need to ask, "is this behaviour taking me towards my goals? or is it taking me away from my goals?"

Yet closer observation shows a different picture.
Not everyone in his team has the same level of ownership.
Not everyone has the same level of rigour.
And if he doesn't selectively micro-manage, outages will happen.
A few have happened in the recent past.

So what should he do? What do you think?

Does any of the above feels like you?
If yes, you are psychologically rigid.
But it's okay.
Because we all are all rigid.
And there is a way out of this rigidity.

5) Avoidance
You avoid your thoughts and feelings.
Or as some of us like to call it, you park it for later, or compartmentalize them.

4) You are in love with your self-image
You believe you are who you are.
It has made you successful.
So why change?

3) Ineffective attention
You act in ways that take you away from the life you want.
You look for short term relief at the expense of more long term pain

2) What are my values?
You dont know your values.
Or worse, you know, but are acting incongruently to them

1) Inflexible attention.
You get distracted - you are not present in the current moment.
When you are with your team, you are < 100% engaged.
You dont know how you feel at this moment, or what thoughts are running in your mind.

Thank you!
I am going to start one myself.

Behaviours are often related to the context.
Of the person.
And of the situation.

The lens that helps, is to ask, "was my behaviour helpful?"
"Did it take me closer to the life I want?"

Off late, I use a different lens.
That of, helpful or unhelpful.
Was my behaviour helpful? No it wasnt.
Was her's helpful? No it wasnt.
Did our behaviour take us one step closer to meaningful relationship?
No it didnt.

Let's take an example.
Let's say I had a disagreement with my wife.
Well I had one yesterday.
We both got mad at each other. In our own way.

Was I right? Was she wrong?
Surely she feels the opposite of what I do.
So whose behaviour was right?