Our solicitor today was really helpful & explained our options clearly so we are informed.

The will splits everything between the 2 brothers so I don’t understand. Our 2 boys can’t either.

How do you fix a sibling relationship after this?

#Family #Broken #Will #Probate

So #ADHDmeds won’t be issued anymore.

I was diagnosed 7 or 8 years ago. So I know what it’s like without meds & I know what it’s like when medication works.

To know that I have to go back to before meds is scary
But otherwise I have to jeopardise my mental health.

It’s just not fair

#Scared

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This is because I used to struggle with my weight. Focus on it so much that I was so scared to gain any weight.

I’m still like that.

I’ve gained weight since being diagnosed as coeliacs & I’m already struggling with it

I don’t have scales in my home

Docs won’t weigh me like they used to

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Increased risk of depression, frustration of not being able to manage symptoms (what I was trying to explain)

Misunderstandings/Conflicts

Daily struggles

Emotional dysregulation

She said she wasn’t aware not aware of any of this 🤦‍♀️

My meds have been stopped because I won’t weigh myself

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So we’d have to spend money so someone else could.

My (bio) family is a mess & I was really hoping to keep my husband & his brother close. But this is going to tear them apart.

Both need to decide what to do, one can’t decide without the other.

So for this month, I’m done 😭

To see if there is any way we could make it work.

We wouldn’t be able to pay our bills, there’s just no viable way to make our money stretch far enough.

While he lives & works in a different country we could lose our home.

We wouldn’t be able to look after a rented property either

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Husbands trying to explain that we wouldn’t have certain bills to pay because our mortgage etc would be paid off.

We’d like to put money in a trust for the boys when they are older. To help them with a home maybe.

I understand he may want to keep the home he grew up in & I’ve looked

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with that our UC will stop & the income from the house will not give us enough to cover our monthly bills.

He lives in another country.

The Will says he can reside in the property rent free for up to 3 years.

He’s now arguing that if the house is sold, our UC will also stop so no difference

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It was recently confirmed I do have permanent tinnitus & I can no longer hear certain frequencies.

Drs also believe I may have arthritis so that’s one to add to my every growing list.

My brother-in-law wants to rent out the house that was left to him & my husband in their mums will… but

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They also said they would start escalating him through the absence procedure due to the time he has off caring for me - dependents leave. We’ve already proven to them that this would be ‘discrimination by association’ as he is my legal carer.

And asked if he would like a 12 hour contract pm.

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& a week later - still no money.
Plus our bills start going out next week.

Said employer also stated that parental leave has to be taken in blocks of at least a week - true, unless agreed by them or child is disabled.

Both our boys are. This is not new to them.

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At 43, I feel a little called out by this

Although to be fair, I do have a diagnosis of ADHD.

I ended up buying Sherlock Holmes, my eldest ended up buying something else (I can’t remember what)
My youngest bought Viewfinder

& that was only last night from your list 🙈😂

My son and I love Frostpunk!!

I haven’t been on this app for a while and I have only just seen this post of yours!!

I’m in the UK, thankfully there are a couple more hours left so I am manically scrolling through your recommended list 😂😂

Drinks in fridge so they’re cooler

I’m having to set reminders to make sure I’m drinking.

We’ve also been making up our drinking bottles so we can just grab them.

Ice cubes - we have reusable ones

If I could afford an air conditioner I’d look at buying one.

Any other advice I’ve missed?

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Ice lollies (any #GlutenFree recommendations?)

Black out blinds

Ice towels

Neck fans

Filling a hot water bottle with water and chilling in the fridge for a bit

Remember to check if your meds can affect you negatively with the heat too.
I’m on #Duloxetine which does

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