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Takeaway: Ghosting is a subjective experience. How long someone is willing to wait for a reply in online messaging meaningfully shapes its interpretation.

Now out in Computers in Human Behavior
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Personality traits (like rejection sensitivity or #FOMO) didn’t predict response delay tolerance.
However, delay tolerance predicts users’ friendly, confrontational, or avoidant follow-up behavior.

Across 8,000+ ratings of chat scenarios, we found:
❗️ People feel ghosted faster when messages are urgent.
⏱️ People also feel ghosted faster when chat partners are usually quick to reply.
❌ Closeness of the relationship didn’t predict response delay tolerance.

👉 Bottom line: #socialmedia isn’t just where exclusion increasingly often happens, it’s also where people seek reconnection. Coping with exclusion may often mean staying put; digitally speaking.

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📱We find that, after online exclusion, people were more likely to seek reconnection online.
But offline exclusion didn’t prompt more in-person coping, although in-person coping was preferred overall.

We captured 853 real-life episodes of social #exclusion, online and offline, using #experiencesampling (N = 323). Right after each event, participants reported how they wanted to cope: by turning to others online or offline.

Our findings highlight how #personality traits like narcissism shape social exclusion experiences in complex ways.

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🔹Mechanism 3: Reverse causality - Ostracism and narcissism reinforce each other over time.

In 14 years of #NZAVS data using #RICLPM, we show a negative loop: Narcissists report more ostracism, and ostracism predicts increases in narcissism over time.

A self-perpetuating cycle ⬇️

🔹Mechanism 2: Target behavior - Narcissists actually get excluded more often.

Two experiments show that people are more likely to ostracize individuals with narcissistic traits, especially those high in narcissistic rivalry.

🔹Mechanism 1: Negative perceptions - Narcissists are more sensitive to exclusion cues.

Four experiments show that narcissists are more likely to perceive ambiguous situations (but not unambiguous situations like #Cyberball) as ostracism.

First, the key findings:

Across two national surveys, a 14-day experience sampling study, and six experiments (N = 77,289), we find that grandiose narcissism is strongly linked to experiencing ostracism more frequently. But why?

We identify three mechanisms: