Michael Loftin
@choicepointpro.bsky.social
I help Thinkers escape analysis paralysis and Harmonizers break the
people pleasing cycle. The secret to purpose & joy isn't some long journey. It's mastering the moments that matter...those Choice Point moments!
people pleasing cycle. The secret to purpose & joy isn't some long journey. It's mastering the moments that matter...those Choice Point moments!
Pinned
The Thinker's Analysis Paralysis Loop:
THOUGHT: "A mistake will collapse everything."
FEELING: Overwhelm & isolation.
BEHAVIOR: Endless preparation, no launch.
This loop costs you opportunities, momentum, and connection. The $44 Protector Pattern Audit maps your exact escape route.
THOUGHT: "A mistake will collapse everything."
FEELING: Overwhelm & isolation.
BEHAVIOR: Endless preparation, no launch.
This loop costs you opportunities, momentum, and connection. The $44 Protector Pattern Audit maps your exact escape route.
Your "unicycle"—the belief you'll collapse without total control—isn't real. It's an old story exhausting you. The Choice Point? Feeling the wobble and asking: "What if this is solid ground?" Rewrite the story.
→ Audit your unicycle. [
→ Audit your unicycle. [
December 19, 2025 at 12:55 PM
Your "unicycle"—the belief you'll collapse without total control—isn't real. It's an old story exhausting you. The Choice Point? Feeling the wobble and asking: "What if this is solid ground?" Rewrite the story.
→ Audit your unicycle. [
→ Audit your unicycle. [
Situation...
The lie: "My needs
are a burden."
What feelings are created & What Behaviors?
Exchange
The truth: Your needs are the
compass your protector tried to hide.
What feelings are created now & what behaviors.
Change is about recognizing a choice point and creating a script.
The lie: "My needs
are a burden."
What feelings are created & What Behaviors?
Exchange
The truth: Your needs are the
compass your protector tried to hide.
What feelings are created now & what behaviors.
Change is about recognizing a choice point and creating a script.
December 16, 2025 at 11:37 AM
Situation...
The lie: "My needs
are a burden."
What feelings are created & What Behaviors?
Exchange
The truth: Your needs are the
compass your protector tried to hide.
What feelings are created now & what behaviors.
Change is about recognizing a choice point and creating a script.
The lie: "My needs
are a burden."
What feelings are created & What Behaviors?
Exchange
The truth: Your needs are the
compass your protector tried to hide.
What feelings are created now & what behaviors.
Change is about recognizing a choice point and creating a script.
Compassion yes, social worker at heart. No-one is beyond saving.
Empathy, yes! Allowing ourselves to visit that emotion in ourselves to connect with another is mandatory.
Solution over Sympathy.
I can't anymore.
No more pretty fiction. It's time for some ugly truth!
Empathy, yes! Allowing ourselves to visit that emotion in ourselves to connect with another is mandatory.
Solution over Sympathy.
I can't anymore.
No more pretty fiction. It's time for some ugly truth!
December 16, 2025 at 11:30 AM
Compassion yes, social worker at heart. No-one is beyond saving.
Empathy, yes! Allowing ourselves to visit that emotion in ourselves to connect with another is mandatory.
Solution over Sympathy.
I can't anymore.
No more pretty fiction. It's time for some ugly truth!
Empathy, yes! Allowing ourselves to visit that emotion in ourselves to connect with another is mandatory.
Solution over Sympathy.
I can't anymore.
No more pretty fiction. It's time for some ugly truth!
Frankl named the space. Your Protector fills it with noise: over analysis or over-obligation. That noise has a name, a pattern, and a cost. My Protector Pattern Audit gives you the blueprint of your specific noise, so you can reclaim the space for choice.
December 16, 2025 at 10:59 AM
Frankl named the space. Your Protector fills it with noise: over analysis or over-obligation. That noise has a name, a pattern, and a cost. My Protector Pattern Audit gives you the blueprint of your specific noise, so you can reclaim the space for choice.
The Thinker's Analysis Paralysis Loop:
THOUGHT: "A mistake will collapse everything."
FEELING: Overwhelm & isolation.
BEHAVIOR: Endless preparation, no launch.
This loop costs you opportunities, momentum, and connection. The $44 Protector Pattern Audit maps your exact escape route.
THOUGHT: "A mistake will collapse everything."
FEELING: Overwhelm & isolation.
BEHAVIOR: Endless preparation, no launch.
This loop costs you opportunities, momentum, and connection. The $44 Protector Pattern Audit maps your exact escape route.
December 16, 2025 at 10:51 AM
The Thinker's Analysis Paralysis Loop:
THOUGHT: "A mistake will collapse everything."
FEELING: Overwhelm & isolation.
BEHAVIOR: Endless preparation, no launch.
This loop costs you opportunities, momentum, and connection. The $44 Protector Pattern Audit maps your exact escape route.
THOUGHT: "A mistake will collapse everything."
FEELING: Overwhelm & isolation.
BEHAVIOR: Endless preparation, no launch.
This loop costs you opportunities, momentum, and connection. The $44 Protector Pattern Audit maps your exact escape route.
The Harmonizer's Cognitive Prison:
THOUGHT: "My needs are a burden."
FEELING: Resentment & guilt.
BEHAVIOR: Silent self-abandonment.
This loop costs you time, money, and self. Map your exact pattern. The Protector Pattern Audit is your first $44 investment in breaking it.
THOUGHT: "My needs are a burden."
FEELING: Resentment & guilt.
BEHAVIOR: Silent self-abandonment.
This loop costs you time, money, and self. Map your exact pattern. The Protector Pattern Audit is your first $44 investment in breaking it.
December 16, 2025 at 10:47 AM
The Harmonizer's Cognitive Prison:
THOUGHT: "My needs are a burden."
FEELING: Resentment & guilt.
BEHAVIOR: Silent self-abandonment.
This loop costs you time, money, and self. Map your exact pattern. The Protector Pattern Audit is your first $44 investment in breaking it.
THOUGHT: "My needs are a burden."
FEELING: Resentment & guilt.
BEHAVIOR: Silent self-abandonment.
This loop costs you time, money, and self. Map your exact pattern. The Protector Pattern Audit is your first $44 investment in breaking it.