I hope you will realise that you have the power to make yourself happy. You have to decide your own purpose.

You are making decisions every second. You have to decide whether you are living for yourself or for other people.

On the other hand, I also feel confident that Bob will be alright eventually. It will hurt but he will heal. Even if he has to grow a scar, he will be stronger with it.

I wished him luck but I think it will be quite challenging unless if he can suddenly change his perceptions overnight. He would still looking for ways to connect with her and he will still fell and moan if he can’t receive any feedback from that girl

“What else can I do? I still want to continue with my job and I wouldn’t be able to push her out of hers”, said Bob

“It is going to be tough. You still work in the same team and you will see her everyday in the office,” I said to him.

The sooner you let go that wrong expectation, the sooner you regain yourself

You are not 007 dealing with a foreign spy on a world ending crisis… it is a very simple matter: you fell for her and started to establish an unrealistic expectation that she will reciprocate.

It is the classic perception con of life: is it a cup half empty or a cup half full?

“There is no need to villainise her,” I said to Bob, “that relationship has not even started and by all means she was doing what she needed to do by her job. The perception and then the exception was all yours and that was never her doing”

Context changed, people changed… the thing that Bob got attached to no longer exists. It has become a floating idea that will never materialise