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The existence of both pro and lifestyle Findom kink dynamics way before social media probably breaks their brains.

It's another form of bashing sex workers and women in general. She's a full ProDom, dude, not someone who would have dated you but "just got greedy", or a "low-tier" version of a pro.

Inspired: It's a direct conduit to that hormone-driven brain of yours, and such a precision access point requires additional security controls regardless of size 🗝️

Brain fog is awful for sure. Best wishes for brighter days soon <3

Pretty pretty! ✨

Getting to explore dark fantasies and demand suffering is great, but also making my sub call me a comedic genius every time I tell a terrible joke is pretty great too.

Running around the woods in elf ears and playing make-pretend together, yes 😄

It's not that it's a kinky kind of LARP, just that there's a big overlap between "people who play at larps" and "people with connections to kink"😂

It's also where I originally met my long-term submissive boyfriend.

A lot of my understanding of what a healthy FLR could be before I was ever in one came from the bird site community many many years ago, where you and @fernss.bsky.social were particularly memorable voices. Thank you for being such a guiding light. 💜

Yep, men overstepping boundaries, feeling entitled to "a chance", and/or assuming consent or that consent to one thing means I ought to "reasonably" consent to more unless I have a "good reason" is pretty standard for most millennial women, & then add them projecting pornified kink views on you... 😑

A problem with being a dominant woman "easy to find" online or on apps is people seeing you as a kink dispenser. Prodomme but free 😕

The best advice I see is to meet kinky folks at munches or workshops, then just focus on genuine kink friends without trying to smash.

Oh, or go LARPing 😆⚔️🧝‍♀️🌿

...as you said, it is (relatively) easy to find & procure attention from these women for money. This accessibility *is* the core aspect to their service.

It feels easier than meeting/dating a woman who happens to be dominant, which is a subtle but important difference from "finding a Domme".

A lot of BDSM is addictive and abusive outside of the context of risk awareness, informed ongoing consent and accountability. Mental/emotional/financial risks are up there with physical, & I consider findom RACK and not SSC.

People gravitate to it because....

How men who weren't actually into any of these things ended up looped into findom and why, and how to connect them with what they're actually looking for.

Like you mentioned, a lot of it stems from just not realizing that it is most definitely *not* the only option for exploring F/m relationships.

Fake is tricky. The original "online findom" kinks are related to that - addiction kink, manipulation, and "ruin" at the hands of an uncaring hottie weaponizing her looks, etc. For some subs, that's the rush. Blackmail/catfishing victim kinks are similar.

My fascination with it has always been....

Consider it a good growth challenge then, perhaps a creative project? 😊 This is a great place for community discussions, which is my favorite part; you lose a lot by keeping to DMs.