...that here I am, a year away from worrying I was going to lose my job to being the project manager for a major software implementation for my organization, with 4 different integrations! I work closely with the C level and upper management.

Sometimes you have to walk away from bad situations

...long enough, but at the end of the day I got my venting out online so I'll probably delete the thread after folks have had a chance to read my responses.

No blocking necessary. And you're right, sometimes people need to vent, and I absolutely DO listen to her vent ALL the time, so I don't know how it is she thinks that she's not allowed to be in a bad mood. We did talk, finally. I don't think we're 100% and I'm still questioning if 28 years is...

...reached the point where maybe we need to move on apart from each other. It's hard when you've been with someone for 28 years to just call it quits. So we will see.

I appreciate your perspective and for allowing me to vent.

So... yeah, we have some work to do, and maybe therapy is a good idea--I've been coming to grips with a lot of things and ought to talk them out with someone, but the couples thing just makes me feel like I'm going to rehash what we've already said to each other.

I don't know if we've just...

...out that she didn't like the therapist but didn't say anything to me until after we were doing better and stopped our sessions.

And the truth is, overall I'm a whole lot happier in my life now. I'm not holding in a bunch of anger. I'm usually in a good mood, but she caught me on a bad day.

...to come talk to me where I can hear her without it disrupting me from getting shit done, and then says she feels like she's not allowed to ever be in a bad mood even though she seems to be in a bad mood frequently. And wants us to do therapy again, wants me to set it up, but last time it turns...

...comes home cranky, tries to talk to me when I'm in the other room cooking and cleaning with earbuds on because the podcasts distract my executive dysfunction, gets mad and says I'm ignoring her, but won't get up off of the couch and her loud crappy TV shows she uses while doing classwork...

..being taken advantage of feelings. And she says I'm way off base about how she feels about teaching, and despite all of the griping she does about her job all the time, I just let that one go.

I'll just say that it's not even really that she works long hours, it's that she works long hours...

I'm going to delete the thread in a day or so because I was really frustrated and just needed to get it out, and I had no one to get it out to at the time besides my daughter and I'm not gonna do that to her.

But we did talk. I'm not sure we are 100% okay yet, but at least she heard me on the...

I apologized in the morning. But this is not unusual. She is cranky and works too much, and takes it out on me. She gaslights me like I'm the issue even though I'm cooking and cleaning. I just tried to get her to understand that her decision to put 12 plus hours a day into school just because...

on Monday (10 hour shifts for me). I got upset because she stomped into the house, complained she was tired and hungry. I said, "well I just got home too, sorry" and she blew up at me saying "I'm not saying that". So I got mad, said some mean things, and we have barely talked for two days.

Well, if that's the goal, they're succeeding. I'll take arms if and when california decides to secede from this dumpster fire and go it alone. Bye by feds!

With all the cuts they made to NASA, the idea that the administration with the lowest collective iq in history will somehow accelerate what should take a decade to accomplish at previous funding levels is so absurd it makes my brain hurt.

At the end of the day, the law of unintended consequences will eventually fuck the rich over. They don't want affordable housing, and they don't want to pay living wages. Well, there are low wage jobs everywhere, so they'll move and no one will work those necessary jobs.

Being reasonable and compromising only works when the other side is wiling to do the same. The GOP hasn't been a reasonable opposition in a very long time now, but for some reason the democrats are only just now starting to realize that.