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Asexual Activities @asexualactivities.com · Nov 21
As I've mentioned before, I'm working on a sex ed book. I'm planning to ask questions to gather a wide variety of perspectives. Some of these questions might seem a bit basic or obvious or strange, but please answer them anyway if you feel comfortable. The more responses I get, the better!
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How strong is your sex drive/libido, typically?

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White letters that say "Libido" over a purple background and the logo of the Ace Community Survey Team (four squares colored with the asexual flag colors. The last one has a white tick over it). This question used a Likert scale to answer how strongly respondents rated the strength of their sex drive/libido on a scale of 0 to 4, with “0” being nonexistent and “4” being very strong. When asked about sex drive/libido, 17.3% of ace respondents rated theirs at a “0,” or nonexistent. About twice as many (37.6%) rated their sex drive/libido at a “1,” while 27.2% rated theirs as a “2,” 13.4% rated theirs at a “3,” and very few ace respondents (4.5%) rated theirs at a “4.” Non-ace respondents contrasted sharply, with about a quarter (24.8%) ranking their sex drive/libido at a “4” (very strong), and 41.2% at a “3.” About a quarter of non-aces (23.6%) ranked their sex drive/libido at a “2,” and 9.6% ranked it at a “1.” Very few non-ace respondents (0.8%) responded with “0” or nonexistent libido. This question used a Likert scale to answer how strongly respondents rated the strength of their sex drive/libido on a scale of 0 to 4, with “0” being nonexistent and “4” being very strong. Among asexual respondents, about one in five rated their sex drive/libido at a “0,” or nonexistent (19.7%). In comparison far fewer graysexual (6.3%) and demisexual (4.9%) respondents ranked theirs at a “0.” Fewer than one in ten respondents across these groups ranked their sex drive/libido at a “4” (very strong), ranging from 3.7% of asexual respondents to 7.5% of demisexual respondents. The majority of asexual, graysexual and demisexual respondents ranked their sex drive/libido at either a “1” or “2” (64.7% of asexual respondents, 71.1% of graysexual respondents and 68.6% of demisexual respondents). This question used a Likert scale to answer how strongly respondents rated the strength of their sex drive/libido on a scale of 0 to 4, with “0” being nonexistent and “4” being very strong. Among aro ace respondents, about one in five rated their sex drive/libido at a “0,” or nonexistent (19.8%). In comparison, just over one in ten ace but not aro respondents (12.4%) ranked their sex drive/libido at a “0”. The majority of aro ace, and ace but not aro respondents ranked their sex drive/libido at either a “1” or “2” (61.7% of aro ace respondents, and 69.1% of ace not aro respondents).
November 12, 2025 at 9:29 AM
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Reminder that "No Nut November" is an anti-masturbation cult's ritual practice that escaped containment and not something that should be mainstreamed and DEFINITELY not something that should be tied to asexuality in any way.
November 2, 2025 at 9:26 PM
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Is there a good hashtag on here for asking questions about sex that'll get the attention of "sexperts", sexuality educators, or sex researchers, etc.?
October 26, 2025 at 7:50 PM
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It's Ace Week!
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Alt: a person holding a ginormous ace flag in a grassy field
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October 19, 2025 at 5:35 PM
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I'm willing to answer questions people have about asexuality!
ohjoysextoy.bsky.social Oh Joy Sex Toy @ohjoysextoy.bsky.social · Oct 17
What better way to celebrate Asexual Awareness Week than by spillin' the asexualiTEA with @sparklemaia.bsky.social! 1/2
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Ace 101 by sparklemaia, published November 12, 2023 on https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/ace-101-sparklemaia Page 1 Two figures sit in a lavender living room that's very comfy and has lots of cats around. They are drinking tea. Maia: -and that's why I can't go back like, ever again. Friend: Completely fair. Speaking of fair: how was the maker faire? Maia: Rad! That's where I got this sweet hat! IMAGE: Close-up on Maia's black baseball hat, which has the black, gray, white, and purple-striped Asexuality flag on it. IMAGE: Friend holding tea mug and talking. Friend: It's... a pride flag... it's on the tip of my brain- Oh! The asexual flag! Friend: You posted about being ace in April! Full disclosure: I googled it, but I'm still pretty vague on what asexuality is... I think it's the "A" in LGBTQIA? But I still have, like, so many questions. Maia: I'd love to be your ace wiki for the day, if you're down? Friend: Ohh, yes please! Maia: Great, this is my jam. Let's spill the tea on asexuali-TEA! Maia: So, what would you say attraction feels like? Friend: Hmm... I guess it's like a strong pull towards someone? IMAGE: The friend leans forward to stroke a gray-striped cat that hopped on their table and is walking towards them. Maia: Totally! But it took some super personal chats with my all- (non-ace) -friends to realize we meant different things when we talked about being into someone. It turns out that attraction- that pull- is made up of different parts. IMAGE: Another table houses multiple bowls of looseleaf teas, with a sign proclaiming, "Build your own!". Each bowl is labeled differently: Sensual, Romantic, Sexual, Aesthetic Maia: I've got romantic attraction in spades. It's just that for me, that romantic attraction isn't linked to sexual attraction. Friend: So, when you feel drawn toward someone, you just don't... have the desire to bone them? Maia: Pretty much! And that's what asexual means: little to no sexual attraction. Friend: Hold up... a 'little' bit of sexual attraction still counts as ace? Maia: Yeah, it's not always an all-or-nothing thing. Some people experience sexual attraction rarely, or only under certain circumstances, or just at very low levels. It's kind of a spectrum. Friend: I guess that tracks, very few things in life are totally black and white! Maia (gesturing at the black, gray, white, purple-striped Asexual flag): Exactly. That's what the grey is for. Anyone who feels like they don't totally vibe with a 'typical' allo experience is welcome, even if they're in that grey zone between allo and 'absolute zero' sexual attraction. Friend: Sounds like there's lots of SPACE- in ACE! IMAGE: Maia plants the Ace flag on the moon, waving at a rocket (also emblazoned with the ace flag) as it cruises by. Maia: Haha, yep! My ace experience might not be the same as someone else's, but the label gives us a starting place for finding common ground. IMAGE: Back in the tea house, the friend observes two cats curled up on a shelf on the wall. Friend: Something I still don't get: you've talked about crushes and dates and stuff before. Are your dates just Netflix and actual chill? Maia: Haha, sometimes! But other times I do take it to the bone zone. For me, sex is often about emotional intimacy with my partner. Heck, sometimes I just need to scratch a biological itch, even if my body isn't pointing me towards a specific person to get it done. Plus, for me, it feels good! Friend: Whoa, you actually... like sex? Maia: Yeah, there's even a word for it in ace space: sex-favorable. And whether sex favorable, sex-indifferent, or sex-repulsed, all aces are still ace. IMAGE: Three cats illustrate the different states of asexual sexual interest. Sex-Favorable cat smiles and approaches a hand to be pet. Sex-Indifferent cat sits by itself, licking its paw. Sex-Repulsed cat is all puffed up and hissing.
October 18, 2025 at 1:26 AM
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Also, yesterday was apparently National Orgasm Day, so here's a reminder for those who could use it: Asexual people are allowed to have and enjoy orgasms.
August 2, 2025 at 3:28 AM
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New high score! I have not had sex for 8280 days, beating my previous record of 8279 days, set during the Bush administration!
August 2, 2025 at 3:27 AM
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After Pride Month settles, maybe I'll be able to get back to working on that book...
June 24, 2025 at 3:01 PM
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Some people will try to tell you that all you need to masturbate are your hands and your imagination. That is missing so many things, where to begin...?
#masturbationmonth
May 18, 2025 at 1:19 AM
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Masturbating feels good!
Orgasms feel good!
Everyone does it because it feels good!
And you should do it because it feels good!
You hear this all the time. It's not entirely true.

#masturbationmonth #masturbation #orgasms #asexual #asexuality
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May 16, 2025 at 4:10 PM
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If you read yesterday's post, you may have noticed that I talked about masturbating as if it was only successful, and, in fact, could only considered be masturbating at all if an orgasm were achieved.

That's wrong. That's flat out wrong, and yesterday's post shouldn't have been written in that way.
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May 15, 2025 at 2:43 PM
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Today's thread has me curious: Did anyone else with a penis have trouble figuring out how to masturbate like I did? What made it difficult for you? I always hear how easy it should be, but it wasn't that easy for me, and I'd like to know how common that is.
#masturbationmonth #masturbation #penis
May 15, 2025 at 5:26 AM
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Today's misconception is that it's easy to masturbate. That it comes naturally to everyone. That pretty much all you have to do is reach down and your genitals will guide you through the process, and presto-bingo! an orgasm arrives on schedule 5-10 minutes later.

#masturbationmonth
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May 14, 2025 at 2:52 PM
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Today, I'm going to tackle the misconception that everyone wants to masturbate. There's a common belief that everyone would masturbate if they could, but that there are various blocks in place preventing them from doing so.
#asexual #asexuality #masturbationmonth
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May 13, 2025 at 2:40 PM
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On another site, someone read today's post about masturbation prevalence, and made a joke about Spiders Georg, the outlier who should not have been counted.
So, I thought, what's better than a Spiders Georg joke?
Spiders Georg SCIENCE!

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May 13, 2025 at 4:15 AM
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This week's first misconception is that everyone masturbates. It's a prevalent joke: "Studies show that 95% of people masturbate and 5% of people lie." Except that's not true.

#asexual #asexuality #masturbationmonth
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May 12, 2025 at 2:55 PM
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This week, I'd like to go over a few misconceptions about masturbation. Not "You'll go blind and grow hair on your palms": Not gonna waste any time on that nonsense. And not "Asexuals can't/don't/shouldn't masturbate" stuff, either. Already debunked those.
#asexual #asexuality #masturbationmonth
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May 11, 2025 at 5:59 PM
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Another question: Do asexuals like toys?
Boy howdy! You should see how big my collection of Legos is!

Oh, you mean *sex* toys...
In that case...

Boy howdy! You should see how big my collection of Tenga-

Um. I mean. Some do, some don't. Let's explore.

#asexual #asexuality #masturbationmonth
An anonymous question from NGL: "Do asexuals like toys?"
May 10, 2025 at 9:11 PM
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For the asexual sex ed book I'm writing, I've mentioned that I'm going to have a series of exercises for reader participation, to guide them through some of the basics of various activities. These exercises will have a time limit to spend time giving it a shot, but not waste time if it doesn't work.
May 10, 2025 at 6:27 AM
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All I'm getting here are highly amatonormative auto-generated questions from the system itself, so I'm begging you to break up the monotony and send in some questions about exploring sexuality from an asexual perspective!
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Anonymous messages!
Anonymous messages!
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May 9, 2025 at 3:39 PM
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I just got an email from a condom company wanting to know if I would be interested in testing their product.

Sure! I'd love to find out how much water it can hold, how much weight it can support, how long it remains inflated...
May 9, 2025 at 3:15 AM
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"Yes," thought the pornbot, "this is the perfect thread upon which to ply my wares."
May 8, 2025 at 4:10 PM
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Someone asked if porn or other erotic media is involved when I masturbate. The short answer is yes.
The longer answer is "But wow is that a complicated topic."
So let's go on an adventure into the world of one asexual's porn use!

#asexual #asexuality #masturbationmonth
May 8, 2025 at 3:18 PM
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Questions are still open, if you have anything you're curious about! (And feel free to share this with anyone you think might be interested. Like, say, that prying allo who won't stop pestering you with questions about "how" and "why" and "but you're asexual")
asexualactivities.com Asexual Activities @asexualactivities.com · May 6
Gonna give this whole anonymous question thing a shot. If you have any questions about asexuality and masturbation, or anything vaguely related to that topic, ask away!
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#asexual #asexuality #masturbationmonth
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May 7, 2025 at 3:17 PM
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In one of my posts the other day, I mentioned that my first orgasm made me feel nauseous. Someone chimed in and said that they did too, and were wondering if that's a common experience.
Does anyone know? Are early orgasms a bit on the queasy side, or did we just have bad luck?
May 7, 2025 at 3:13 PM