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I know it is true… but damn it is hard.

Dumb, inconsiderate, willfully ignorant, lazy bullshit just gets deep under my skin. Raging just feels good… but is mostly ineffective and just not who I aspire to be.

I know, I know… wooo sah 😂🫶🏾

That might be too much “internal lexicon” jargon… if so I’ll translate.

As for what’s driving it… my PMs don’t like PB. I’m not sure why. One of them wants to represent our common goals and wants more flexibility (components on roadmaps).

“Stay close to the people who feel like sunshine”

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but there is a lot of darkness

Find your sunshine. They have the ability to save you from the darkness

Wife, children, mothers, sisters…

Was going to name my sunshine friends, but you know who you are

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Parenting is hard.

Most days I feel like I’m failing them completely.

But every once in a while, a kid will preserve through something unimaginably difficult. Will have a perspective that is kind, pure, and unfading. Will choose love, progress, & togetherness over self-pity, entitlement, & whining

This table from @johncutle.fish is what I define as “deep simple”.

The table itself is very approachable. But you can tell there is depth in every cell that can be explored, explained, and expanded upon.

I’m now thinking of the “default processes” for my current team through this framing. 🤔

I host poker nights, & given the climate, it is best to give context to folks that may come over… what they can expect.

I know we don't all believe the same things. I know we don't all have the same values, so…

I'm beginning to design a signal to give folks a glimpse into the beliefs of this house

A friend and co-worker made a statement that stuck with me…

“Think about your best coaches from sports… how many of them did you like all of the time? The best ones pushed you to be better and that can be hard, that can even hurt a little. My best coaches weren’t people I always liked… "

… 2/n

What to do with complaints basically comes down to:

1. Intend to improve, together
2. Complain to those who can change the decision
3. We will sometimes disagree… be able to disagree and commit

Above all… do the kind and productive thing, not the gossiping / misery-loves-company thing

“We all know it’s raining — Let’s walk”

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Here is the schedule I’ve set as the “default process” for setting quarterly OKRs

The spirit of this is cross-pollination between squads, continuous iteration on goals, and collaboration with the “directors squad”.

This is NOT intended to be approval, but I worry it is being seen as such 🤔

… 3/n

I’m trying (in response to my team asking for it) a concept we are calling the “default process”

The intention is to thread the needle of writing down “sensible defaults”, and making it clear they are intended to be iterated on.

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Last week I had one of these “think while doing chores” notes.

A few threads I want to nurture into actions:

• Higher levels within an organization… the more your job is to turn ambiguity into clarity and outcomes

• Work being hard does not mean it has to be dramatic/political

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We have this concept of decision making on the CP exec team.

I absolutely love this (pictured).

So maybe a thing that is missing is that all decisions are a request for input/comment… even after the decision has been made?

“you are going to decide to go in a direction they don’t want.

This is a critical moment that can go a few different ways…”

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