AR3
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Father. Partner. Son. Friend.
VP Product & Engineering @ CareerPlug (however, on here I don’t speak for CP-nation… I speak only for me)
Love to love… and chat about Parenting, Purpose, People-leadership, Product, and Progress for all.
VP Product & Engineering @ CareerPlug (however, on here I don’t speak for CP-nation… I speak only for me)
Love to love… and chat about Parenting, Purpose, People-leadership, Product, and Progress for all.
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Every tactic…
Has a strategy behind it. Often unsaid, undiscussed and hidden. It's easier to simply play with the tactic of the moment. Tell me what your tactic is trying to accomplish and I'll be halfway to understanding what your strategy is. But it makes a lot more sense to announce your…
Has a strategy behind it. Often unsaid, undiscussed and hidden. It's easier to simply play with the tactic of the moment. Tell me what your tactic is trying to accomplish and I'll be halfway to understanding what your strategy is. But it makes a lot more sense to announce your…
Every tactic…
Has a strategy behind it. Often unsaid, undiscussed and hidden. It's easier to simply play with the tactic of the moment. Tell me what your tactic is trying to accomplish and I'll be halfway to understanding what your strategy is. But it makes a lot more sense to announce your strategy first, and then invite your team to invent tactics that make it work.
seths.blog
May 1, 2025 at 9:03 AM
Every tactic…
Has a strategy behind it. Often unsaid, undiscussed and hidden. It's easier to simply play with the tactic of the moment. Tell me what your tactic is trying to accomplish and I'll be halfway to understanding what your strategy is. But it makes a lot more sense to announce your…
Has a strategy behind it. Often unsaid, undiscussed and hidden. It's easier to simply play with the tactic of the moment. Tell me what your tactic is trying to accomplish and I'll be halfway to understanding what your strategy is. But it makes a lot more sense to announce your…
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Votes are in, from a 48-hour “X” poll.
While we can surely agree we want to Make America Great Again. To achieve that goal, looks like we need to Make America Smart. But first, we need to Make Lying Wrong Again.
While we can surely agree we want to Make America Great Again. To achieve that goal, looks like we need to Make America Smart. But first, we need to Make Lying Wrong Again.
May 1, 2025 at 1:20 PM
Votes are in, from a 48-hour “X” poll.
While we can surely agree we want to Make America Great Again. To achieve that goal, looks like we need to Make America Smart. But first, we need to Make Lying Wrong Again.
While we can surely agree we want to Make America Great Again. To achieve that goal, looks like we need to Make America Smart. But first, we need to Make Lying Wrong Again.
I struggle with this.
I aspire to give autonomy so that we can skip to engagement. Because engagement is so fun and fulfilling.
But I’ve learned you can’t skip enrollment… Or you risk the transformation taking an order of magnitude longer, if ever.
Delicate balance though
bsky.app/profile/ar3....
I aspire to give autonomy so that we can skip to engagement. Because engagement is so fun and fulfilling.
But I’ve learned you can’t skip enrollment… Or you risk the transformation taking an order of magnitude longer, if ever.
Delicate balance though
bsky.app/profile/ar3....
Enrollment and engagement
Teachers and organizations benefit from both, but they're not the same. Engagement is the delight we have when we lean into the process. Engagement happens when social media is optimized for maximum focus, and it also can be seen in a student who's in sync with a teacher…
Teachers and organizations benefit from both, but they're not the same. Engagement is the delight we have when we lean into the process. Engagement happens when social media is optimized for maximum focus, and it also can be seen in a student who's in sync with a teacher…
Enrollment and engagement
Teachers and organizations benefit from both, but they're not the same. Engagement is the delight we have when we lean into the process. Engagement happens when social media is optimized for maximum focus, and it also can be seen in a student who's in sync with a teacher who cares. Enrollment is a commitment to change. Enrollment in the process means we're willing to push through the difficult parts because the outcome is part of our goal.
seths.blog
April 20, 2025 at 12:27 PM
I struggle with this.
I aspire to give autonomy so that we can skip to engagement. Because engagement is so fun and fulfilling.
But I’ve learned you can’t skip enrollment… Or you risk the transformation taking an order of magnitude longer, if ever.
Delicate balance though
bsky.app/profile/ar3....
I aspire to give autonomy so that we can skip to engagement. Because engagement is so fun and fulfilling.
But I’ve learned you can’t skip enrollment… Or you risk the transformation taking an order of magnitude longer, if ever.
Delicate balance though
bsky.app/profile/ar3....
How might we encourage “D” behavior?
• It can’t be just hiring, right?
• It can’t be just autonomy/agency, right?
• It can’t be just psych safety and systems that make D apparent and rewards it, right?
How might we create “Leave It Better” environments 🤔
medium.com/unfading-pur...
• It can’t be just hiring, right?
• It can’t be just autonomy/agency, right?
• It can’t be just psych safety and systems that make D apparent and rewards it, right?
How might we create “Leave It Better” environments 🤔
medium.com/unfading-pur...
April 20, 2025 at 12:07 PM
How might we encourage “D” behavior?
• It can’t be just hiring, right?
• It can’t be just autonomy/agency, right?
• It can’t be just psych safety and systems that make D apparent and rewards it, right?
How might we create “Leave It Better” environments 🤔
medium.com/unfading-pur...
• It can’t be just hiring, right?
• It can’t be just autonomy/agency, right?
• It can’t be just psych safety and systems that make D apparent and rewards it, right?
How might we create “Leave It Better” environments 🤔
medium.com/unfading-pur...
Songs are powerful when they tell a story. When they are the manifestation of the cacophony of emotions we have to traverse as humans
My vibe today will resonate with leaders that have to make chaotic good style decisions
“The Way I Am”: open.spotify.com/track/23wfXw...
But DONT’T “Lose yourself”
My vibe today will resonate with leaders that have to make chaotic good style decisions
“The Way I Am”: open.spotify.com/track/23wfXw...
But DONT’T “Lose yourself”
The Way I Am
Eminem · The Marshall Mathers LP · Song · 2000
open.spotify.com
April 16, 2025 at 10:42 AM
Songs are powerful when they tell a story. When they are the manifestation of the cacophony of emotions we have to traverse as humans
My vibe today will resonate with leaders that have to make chaotic good style decisions
“The Way I Am”: open.spotify.com/track/23wfXw...
But DONT’T “Lose yourself”
My vibe today will resonate with leaders that have to make chaotic good style decisions
“The Way I Am”: open.spotify.com/track/23wfXw...
But DONT’T “Lose yourself”
Ever said something to a manager… vented… and then that thing shows up as a knock against you on your performance review?
What does that encounter do to your willingness to share other things in the future?
1/n
What does that encounter do to your willingness to share other things in the future?
1/n
March 22, 2025 at 1:07 PM
Ever said something to a manager… vented… and then that thing shows up as a knock against you on your performance review?
What does that encounter do to your willingness to share other things in the future?
1/n
What does that encounter do to your willingness to share other things in the future?
1/n
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Being on a team that is moving fast and getting shit done is one of the best feelings in the world.
As my coworker @gsiener.bsky.social says... it's not "happy engineers ship fast"; it's that engineers who ship fast ARE HAPPY ENGINEERS.
It's not the whole story, but it's a lot of it. ☺️
As my coworker @gsiener.bsky.social says... it's not "happy engineers ship fast"; it's that engineers who ship fast ARE HAPPY ENGINEERS.
It's not the whole story, but it's a lot of it. ☺️
March 13, 2025 at 11:37 PM
Being on a team that is moving fast and getting shit done is one of the best feelings in the world.
As my coworker @gsiener.bsky.social says... it's not "happy engineers ship fast"; it's that engineers who ship fast ARE HAPPY ENGINEERS.
It's not the whole story, but it's a lot of it. ☺️
As my coworker @gsiener.bsky.social says... it's not "happy engineers ship fast"; it's that engineers who ship fast ARE HAPPY ENGINEERS.
It's not the whole story, but it's a lot of it. ☺️
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If a manager's direct reports are always happy with them, I guarantee you they are not really doing their job. 🙃
Messy, uncomfortable feelings are part of doing hard things and learning and growing.
I've written about this a bunch of places, like here.. 👇
charity.wtf/2024/01/05/q...
Messy, uncomfortable feelings are part of doing hard things and learning and growing.
I've written about this a bunch of places, like here.. 👇
charity.wtf/2024/01/05/q...
Questionable Advice: “My boss says we don’t need any engineering managers. Is he right?”
I recently joined a startup to run an engineering org of about 40 engineers. My title is VP Engineering. However, I have been having lots of ongoing conflict with the CEO (a former engineer) around…
charity.wtf
March 13, 2025 at 11:32 PM
If a manager's direct reports are always happy with them, I guarantee you they are not really doing their job. 🙃
Messy, uncomfortable feelings are part of doing hard things and learning and growing.
I've written about this a bunch of places, like here.. 👇
charity.wtf/2024/01/05/q...
Messy, uncomfortable feelings are part of doing hard things and learning and growing.
I've written about this a bunch of places, like here.. 👇
charity.wtf/2024/01/05/q...
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Psychological safety is NOT about lack of disagreement.
Psychological safety REQUIRES:
* disagreement and debate
* setting standards for behavior and performance, and enforcing them
* telling people things they don't want to hear
* courage, from the bottom up
* humility, from the top down
Psychological safety REQUIRES:
* disagreement and debate
* setting standards for behavior and performance, and enforcing them
* telling people things they don't want to hear
* courage, from the bottom up
* humility, from the top down
Controversial take: teams that never argue are often the most dysfunctional ones.
Here's why your team should be fighting more.
terriblesoftware.org/2025/03/12/w...
Here's why your team should be fighting more.
terriblesoftware.org/2025/03/12/w...
Why Your ‘Harmonious’ Team Is Actually Failing
Teams often confuse psychological safety with everyone getting along perfectly. I see leaders bragging about teams where nobody ever raises their voice, where meetings wrap up with everyone nodding…
terriblesoftware.org
March 13, 2025 at 11:07 PM
Psychological safety is NOT about lack of disagreement.
Psychological safety REQUIRES:
* disagreement and debate
* setting standards for behavior and performance, and enforcing them
* telling people things they don't want to hear
* courage, from the bottom up
* humility, from the top down
Psychological safety REQUIRES:
* disagreement and debate
* setting standards for behavior and performance, and enforcing them
* telling people things they don't want to hear
* courage, from the bottom up
* humility, from the top down
Accountability
Accountability should be fair.
Accountability should be specific.
Accountability should be unsurprising.
This gets a little murky as you progress in your career or when you are talking about values.
However regardless we should be aiming for the accountability big 3
Accountability should be fair.
Accountability should be specific.
Accountability should be unsurprising.
This gets a little murky as you progress in your career or when you are talking about values.
However regardless we should be aiming for the accountability big 3
March 11, 2025 at 4:57 PM
Accountability
Accountability should be fair.
Accountability should be specific.
Accountability should be unsurprising.
This gets a little murky as you progress in your career or when you are talking about values.
However regardless we should be aiming for the accountability big 3
Accountability should be fair.
Accountability should be specific.
Accountability should be unsurprising.
This gets a little murky as you progress in your career or when you are talking about values.
However regardless we should be aiming for the accountability big 3
This.
So much could be solved with an unfading focus on outcomes.
Hard, and easy to forget/let slide… but critical nonetheless!
So much could be solved with an unfading focus on outcomes.
Hard, and easy to forget/let slide… but critical nonetheless!
You need to have the same crystal clear idea of, what does "great" look like? What does good enough look like, and when is "good enough" good enough? 😬
You need to be in the details enough that you can course correct early when things go wrong. While things are still small and fixable.
You need to be in the details enough that you can course correct early when things go wrong. While things are still small and fixable.
March 8, 2025 at 5:39 PM
This.
So much could be solved with an unfading focus on outcomes.
Hard, and easy to forget/let slide… but critical nonetheless!
So much could be solved with an unfading focus on outcomes.
Hard, and easy to forget/let slide… but critical nonetheless!
Sounds like SLOs, right @charity.wtf ?
Maybe we should bring the concept of SLO to the non-engineering world. Could that make it all better?
Well let’s start within the product world. We are exploring design debt SLOs… I’ll report back how it goes.
Maybe we should bring the concept of SLO to the non-engineering world. Could that make it all better?
Well let’s start within the product world. We are exploring design debt SLOs… I’ll report back how it goes.
Getting precise about tolerance
Tolerance is an engineering term. When the parts of a car are made to a low tolerance, that means that they fit perfectly. A modern Lexus is a better car than a 1976 Nova because relentless improvement means that the parts are more exact. Tolerance is a design term.…
Tolerance is an engineering term. When the parts of a car are made to a low tolerance, that means that they fit perfectly. A modern Lexus is a better car than a 1976 Nova because relentless improvement means that the parts are more exact. Tolerance is a design term.…
Getting precise about tolerance
Tolerance is an engineering term. When the parts of a car are made to a low tolerance, that means that they fit perfectly. A modern Lexus is a better car than a 1976 Nova because relentless improvement means that the parts are more exact. Tolerance is a design term. When a system can tolerate non-perfect users and interventions, the interoperability increases and so a high tolerance design is often seen as more successful.
seths.blog
February 27, 2025 at 11:37 AM
Sounds like SLOs, right @charity.wtf ?
Maybe we should bring the concept of SLO to the non-engineering world. Could that make it all better?
Well let’s start within the product world. We are exploring design debt SLOs… I’ll report back how it goes.
Maybe we should bring the concept of SLO to the non-engineering world. Could that make it all better?
Well let’s start within the product world. We are exploring design debt SLOs… I’ll report back how it goes.
Inadequate/unshared feedback leads to a growing collection of toxic judgments
A narrative of toxic judgments left unattended lead to Resentment—
—which leads to near unrepairable relationships—
—which leads to a toxic culture
How do we fix this spiral of despair?
A narrative of toxic judgments left unattended lead to Resentment—
—which leads to near unrepairable relationships—
—which leads to a toxic culture
How do we fix this spiral of despair?
February 23, 2025 at 2:43 PM
Inadequate/unshared feedback leads to a growing collection of toxic judgments
A narrative of toxic judgments left unattended lead to Resentment—
—which leads to near unrepairable relationships—
—which leads to a toxic culture
How do we fix this spiral of despair?
A narrative of toxic judgments left unattended lead to Resentment—
—which leads to near unrepairable relationships—
—which leads to a toxic culture
How do we fix this spiral of despair?
This is my favorite thing about bsky too!!! Outside of the community 💪🏾💪🏾
Genius way to validate!!
Genius way to validate!!
PSA: I have changed my bsky name to @charity.wtf!
By far my favorite thing about bsky so far is that you can validate your name with a TXT record (and it keeps track of what your old name was).
By far my favorite thing about bsky so far is that you can validate your name with a TXT record (and it keeps track of what your old name was).
February 18, 2025 at 11:50 PM
This is my favorite thing about bsky too!!! Outside of the community 💪🏾💪🏾
Genius way to validate!!
Genius way to validate!!
Finished Falcon and the Winter Soldier because we are on the way to see Captain America 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
… And I really love the slogan for the antagonists of that show…
One World, One People ✊🏾
… And I really love the slogan for the antagonists of that show…
One World, One People ✊🏾
February 17, 2025 at 2:19 AM
Finished Falcon and the Winter Soldier because we are on the way to see Captain America 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
… And I really love the slogan for the antagonists of that show…
One World, One People ✊🏾
… And I really love the slogan for the antagonists of that show…
One World, One People ✊🏾
I know it is true… but damn it is hard.
Dumb, inconsiderate, willfully ignorant, lazy bullshit just gets deep under my skin. Raging just feels good… but is mostly ineffective and just not who I aspire to be.
I know, I know… wooo sah 😂🫶🏾
Dumb, inconsiderate, willfully ignorant, lazy bullshit just gets deep under my skin. Raging just feels good… but is mostly ineffective and just not who I aspire to be.
I know, I know… wooo sah 😂🫶🏾
February 16, 2025 at 6:51 PM
I know it is true… but damn it is hard.
Dumb, inconsiderate, willfully ignorant, lazy bullshit just gets deep under my skin. Raging just feels good… but is mostly ineffective and just not who I aspire to be.
I know, I know… wooo sah 😂🫶🏾
Dumb, inconsiderate, willfully ignorant, lazy bullshit just gets deep under my skin. Raging just feels good… but is mostly ineffective and just not who I aspire to be.
I know, I know… wooo sah 😂🫶🏾
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Another friend hit me with a management quote that has stuck with me.
“If you cheer like a fan, you will soon be sitting next to them”
Mic fucking drop.
Makes me wonder about the phrase toxic positivity, positive reinforcement, and appreciative inquiry, and accountability…
“If you cheer like a fan, you will soon be sitting next to them”
Mic fucking drop.
Makes me wonder about the phrase toxic positivity, positive reinforcement, and appreciative inquiry, and accountability…
A friend and co-worker made a statement that stuck with me…
“Think about your best coaches from sports… how many of them did you like all of the time? The best ones pushed you to be better and that can be hard, that can even hurt a little. My best coaches weren’t people I always liked… "
“Think about your best coaches from sports… how many of them did you like all of the time? The best ones pushed you to be better and that can be hard, that can even hurt a little. My best coaches weren’t people I always liked… "
February 15, 2025 at 12:10 PM
Another friend hit me with a management quote that has stuck with me.
“If you cheer like a fan, you will soon be sitting next to them”
Mic fucking drop.
Makes me wonder about the phrase toxic positivity, positive reinforcement, and appreciative inquiry, and accountability…
“If you cheer like a fan, you will soon be sitting next to them”
Mic fucking drop.
Makes me wonder about the phrase toxic positivity, positive reinforcement, and appreciative inquiry, and accountability…
Was talking to a great friend today about the state of the world and how many of us are numb, but want to make things better. Want to not give in to the hopelessness that feels like an inevitability.
He mentioned a quote by Buckminster Fuller that have me inspired...
note.garden/stevegrossi/...
He mentioned a quote by Buckminster Fuller that have me inspired...
note.garden/stevegrossi/...
Change by attraction • stevegrossi
· note.garden
note.garden
February 7, 2025 at 2:19 PM
Was talking to a great friend today about the state of the world and how many of us are numb, but want to make things better. Want to not give in to the hopelessness that feels like an inevitability.
He mentioned a quote by Buckminster Fuller that have me inspired...
note.garden/stevegrossi/...
He mentioned a quote by Buckminster Fuller that have me inspired...
note.garden/stevegrossi/...
This goes on the must listen list!
🚀 Launch Announcement: "All Things Product with Teresa and Petra" Podcast is now live! Petra Wille and I have teamed up to share our hot takes on all things product.
We know there are plenty of interview podcasts out there already, so we decided to try something different.🧵
We know there are plenty of interview podcasts out there already, so we decided to try something different.🧵
February 6, 2025 at 12:32 AM
This goes on the must listen list!
My team is considering switching from ProductBoard to airfocus
Anyone have any experience that can help as we make this call?
#product #productsky
Anyone have any experience that can help as we make this call?
#product #productsky
February 5, 2025 at 8:50 PM
My team is considering switching from ProductBoard to airfocus
Anyone have any experience that can help as we make this call?
#product #productsky
Anyone have any experience that can help as we make this call?
#product #productsky