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IFS Therapist Anna Vincentz
@annavincentz.bsky.social
Certified IFS Family Therapist: www.annavincentz.dk/english
Internal Family Systems (IFS) and New Danish Parenting (NDP)
Articles: https://medium.com/@annavincentz
Podcast: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/parenting-from-the-inside
In general you can see fear as telling you that something needs attention on the outside (often in the here and now), whereas anxiety shows you what needs attention on the inside, but most often in relation to the outside (past, present or to some degree future).

#IFS #SkyIFS
April 17, 2025 at 1:16 PM
Deep inside of you there is a story longing to be heard.
When we move towards it, slowly, carefully, respectfully, it will unfold like a flower in bloom; painful, beautiful and vulnerable.
When we listen, truly listen, we begin to heal.

#IFS #SkyIFS
April 13, 2025 at 7:18 PM
That person you look up to, admire and respect, she's a mirror
Look inside. See what you find. You might just be surprised at what gifts your parts carry.

#SkyIFS #IFS
April 1, 2025 at 3:49 PM
You repeat what is unhealed, not just of your own pain, but the pain of your ancestors and the pain of the world.
March 30, 2025 at 1:32 PM
No, shame is not pleasant, but it's also not something to get rid of - it's something to be with and something that will show you the way to the pain that needs your loving attention.

#SkyIFS #IFS
March 29, 2025 at 9:18 AM
Other people can change
But you cannot change other people

Parts can change
But you cannot change your parts

You can listen
You can witness
You can welcome
You can trust the process

#IFS #SkyIFS
March 25, 2025 at 4:13 PM
What people don't realise is that what we're all talking about underneath the words, the complaints, the pain, the conflicts, the symptoms, is attachment, relationship, connection; a felt sense of safety and belonging in the world. The rest is just detours.

#SkyIFS #IFS #attachment
March 23, 2025 at 1:08 PM
Only when our parts begin to see, trust and know that there is another way, can they take off their masks and become who they were meant to be. Only then will the fight cease. Inside and out.

#SkyIFS #IFS
March 20, 2025 at 8:50 PM
What if there is actually nothing wrong with you and your reactions make sense based on your experience?

#SkyIFS #IFS
March 18, 2025 at 1:08 PM
Sometimes it's not reaching out, but reaching in that matters.

#IFS #SkyIFS
March 17, 2025 at 12:20 PM
It's not either-or. It's self-regulation and co-regulation.

When parts can lean into Self, you can lean out from a different space.

#IFS #SkyIFS
March 12, 2025 at 2:04 PM
Every time you look at me. My heart cracks open.
And I must spend a week or two. Sewing it back up.

#poetry
March 10, 2025 at 3:36 PM
You don't want to be less sensitive, you want to be more regulated.
There's quite a difference.

#SkyIFS #HSP
March 9, 2025 at 8:18 PM
Seeing our children suffer is one of the hardest things a parent has to do. But children will not always be happy and life is not always easy. What really matters is that we can be with them when they are in pain. That we do not leave.

#consciousparenting
#parentingfromtheinside
March 8, 2025 at 2:53 PM
That thing you're fighting for out there in the world, see if you can focus it inwards as well.

#IFS #SkyIFS
March 5, 2025 at 8:17 PM
Being Self-led does not mean not having an opinion, being neutral in conflicts, not setting boundaries.

#IFS #SkyIFS
March 2, 2025 at 1:38 PM
This is more easy to see when it's small roadblocks. The bigger ones are harder to see as having any positive outcomes. At those times, creating even a small space in which to connect inwards; to feel what truly matters, is the first step towards finding you footing and reconnecting with yourself.
February 26, 2025 at 1:30 PM
Bypassing the ego will, for many inner systems, mean to abandon the parts of you that long for healing and connection.
Remember that it's Self and Parts, not just Self. The AND - The connection - is actually what matters most.

#IFS #skyIFS #IFStherapy
February 23, 2025 at 1:49 PM
Learn to listen. Get curious from your heart and soul. Your parts are so wise, so in need of your connection and so alone.
Create the space for yourself to slow down and to listen inwards. It may just change your life.

#IFStherapy #SkyIFS #IFS
February 18, 2025 at 1:33 PM
When we begin to feel hate, we must consciously choose curiosity. Inside and out.
It is not easy. It is not going to be fun. But it is necessary.
February 16, 2025 at 2:32 PM
That part of you that thinks she's not good enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough.
Send her some love today.

#IFS #SkyIFS
February 13, 2025 at 4:04 PM
It's never too late
to say I love you,
to apologize,
to grieve,
to reach out,
to speak for your parts,
to heal the pain of the past,
to connect to your ancestors,
to reconnect with yourSELF
February 11, 2025 at 8:15 PM
Grief is the connection that never dies.
Don't get over the losses of your loved ones. Grief keeps you connected. You're not supposed to get over it, but be in relation to it and let it transform with you.
February 9, 2025 at 2:11 PM