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pretty self-explanatory, but happy to answer any questions

Pottersville (2017)

I have some pals who swear by theirs, but they do seem the outlier.

I only attended two or three times and it was a waste of time except I got to meet @ikusaone.bsky.social , a talented filmmaker & an enthusiastic, knowledgeable amateur archivist (even shows up in that Vonnegut video I just won the award for)

Exactly, and sometimes I wish I had been psuedonymous. At a local trans support group a couple years ago I started talking about death threats & harassment, & the moderator said "well don't be a public figure" and, like, cat's out of the bag on that one

I do my best to not downplay myself or my work anymore when I meet folks because, as a politician friend of mine taught me, it takes real courage for a stranger to approach you, especially if you've made a difference in their life. So, even if you feel kinda weird about being notable--

I want my work to have an audience large enough to sustain my existence. And I want people to think about the form differently and do new things with it (there's so much potential just laying on the floor, ignored). I don't want fame but I also don't know how to do those two things without it.

but it is absolutely a verbatim list of things my family said to me throughout my life

I struggled with/was made uncomfortable by compliments for a long time, which made my bottomless need for reassurance & feedback very fraught lol

It's a difficult thing. Glad you have been getting better at dealing with it.

my parents essentially thought I was "turning into" a "gay boy" (they were more likely to use the f-slur for this, and quite liberally) and sexuality isn't gender but in a traumatized framework that folded all trans femininity into gayness, it felt distinct as a "gender".

Ooh, this is a little complicated? Because no one at that time, myself included, understood I was a girl, but I also think my parents intuitively understood I wasn't a "boy" (a construction in their mind that was explicitly cishet) & some of that response was likely about that detected Otherness;

my parents essentially thought I was "turning into" a "gay boy" (they were more likely to use the f-slur for this, and quite liberally) and sexuality isn't gender but in a traumatized framework that folded all trans femininity into gayness, it felt distinct as a "gender".

Ooh, this is a little complicated? Because no one at that time, myself included, understood I was a girl, but I also think my parents intuitively understood I wasn't a "boy" (a construction in their mind that was explicitly cishet) & some of that response was likely about that detected Otherness;