Alan
@alnguyen.bsky.social
35 | Mid-Level 👴🏼 | Entry Level Dad👨🍼| Always Learning 📚
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You are not "ungrateful" or being "unfair" for sitting down & realistically weighing the costs & benefits of continuing to have a relationship w/ someone. Some people, well intentioned or not, are poison to our safety & stability-- & we need to be honest w/ ourselves about that.
May 16, 2025 at 7:01 PM
You are not "ungrateful" or being "unfair" for sitting down & realistically weighing the costs & benefits of continuing to have a relationship w/ someone. Some people, well intentioned or not, are poison to our safety & stability-- & we need to be honest w/ ourselves about that.
Things I'm processing in therapy:
It's completely valid to be angry at the passivity of those who witness abuse and do nothing. Not speaking up only normalizes the abuse.
#mentalhealth #therapy #trauma #cptsd #anxiety #healingoutloud #coping
It's completely valid to be angry at the passivity of those who witness abuse and do nothing. Not speaking up only normalizes the abuse.
#mentalhealth #therapy #trauma #cptsd #anxiety #healingoutloud #coping
January 5, 2025 at 10:39 PM
Things I'm processing in therapy:
It's completely valid to be angry at the passivity of those who witness abuse and do nothing. Not speaking up only normalizes the abuse.
#mentalhealth #therapy #trauma #cptsd #anxiety #healingoutloud #coping
It's completely valid to be angry at the passivity of those who witness abuse and do nothing. Not speaking up only normalizes the abuse.
#mentalhealth #therapy #trauma #cptsd #anxiety #healingoutloud #coping
Things I'm processing in therapy:
Childhood emotional neglect (CEN) is the failure of caregivers to meet a child's emotional needs, often through inattention, lack of validation, or emotional unavailability.
#therapy #mentalhealth #cptsd #trauma #parenting #healingoutloud #anxiety #coping
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Childhood emotional neglect (CEN) is the failure of caregivers to meet a child's emotional needs, often through inattention, lack of validation, or emotional unavailability.
#therapy #mentalhealth #cptsd #trauma #parenting #healingoutloud #anxiety #coping
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January 1, 2025 at 10:27 PM
Things I'm processing in therapy:
Childhood emotional neglect (CEN) is the failure of caregivers to meet a child's emotional needs, often through inattention, lack of validation, or emotional unavailability.
#therapy #mentalhealth #cptsd #trauma #parenting #healingoutloud #anxiety #coping
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Childhood emotional neglect (CEN) is the failure of caregivers to meet a child's emotional needs, often through inattention, lack of validation, or emotional unavailability.
#therapy #mentalhealth #cptsd #trauma #parenting #healingoutloud #anxiety #coping
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(1/2) Things I'm processing in therapy:
How to reconnect with my anger. Anger isn't necessarily bad. When you have a healthy relationship with anger, it is often a sign a boundary is being crossed and a motivator to help you into action to protect your boundaries.
#therapy #trauma #cptsd #anger
How to reconnect with my anger. Anger isn't necessarily bad. When you have a healthy relationship with anger, it is often a sign a boundary is being crossed and a motivator to help you into action to protect your boundaries.
#therapy #trauma #cptsd #anger
December 30, 2024 at 10:57 PM
Things I'm processing in therapy:
How trauma colors every interaction, relationship, and your inner voice for the rest of your life.
Therapy has helped lessen its impact over time but it may never, ever truly go away.
#therapy #cptsd #trauma #mentalhealth #anxiety #healingoutloud #depression
How trauma colors every interaction, relationship, and your inner voice for the rest of your life.
Therapy has helped lessen its impact over time but it may never, ever truly go away.
#therapy #cptsd #trauma #mentalhealth #anxiety #healingoutloud #depression
December 28, 2024 at 12:57 PM
Things I'm processing in therapy:
How trauma colors every interaction, relationship, and your inner voice for the rest of your life.
Therapy has helped lessen its impact over time but it may never, ever truly go away.
#therapy #cptsd #trauma #mentalhealth #anxiety #healingoutloud #depression
How trauma colors every interaction, relationship, and your inner voice for the rest of your life.
Therapy has helped lessen its impact over time but it may never, ever truly go away.
#therapy #cptsd #trauma #mentalhealth #anxiety #healingoutloud #depression
(1/4) Things I'm processing in therapy:
The impact of emotional safety or lackethereof in childhood.
Emotional safety means a child feels accepted, valued, and free to express their feelings without fear of harm or rejection.
#cptsd #trauma #mentalhealth #therapy #healingoutloud #anxiety
The impact of emotional safety or lackethereof in childhood.
Emotional safety means a child feels accepted, valued, and free to express their feelings without fear of harm or rejection.
#cptsd #trauma #mentalhealth #therapy #healingoutloud #anxiety
December 25, 2024 at 11:30 PM
(1/4) Things I'm processing in therapy:
The impact of emotional safety or lackethereof in childhood.
Emotional safety means a child feels accepted, valued, and free to express their feelings without fear of harm or rejection.
#cptsd #trauma #mentalhealth #therapy #healingoutloud #anxiety
The impact of emotional safety or lackethereof in childhood.
Emotional safety means a child feels accepted, valued, and free to express their feelings without fear of harm or rejection.
#cptsd #trauma #mentalhealth #therapy #healingoutloud #anxiety
(1/3) Things I'm processing in therapy:
The culture you grow up in has a drastic effect on your identity. What happens when others in your native culture make you feel like you don't belong and the host culture makes it very clear that you are also different? Where does that leave you?
#therapy
The culture you grow up in has a drastic effect on your identity. What happens when others in your native culture make you feel like you don't belong and the host culture makes it very clear that you are also different? Where does that leave you?
#therapy
December 25, 2024 at 1:48 AM
(1/3) Things I'm processing in therapy:
The culture you grow up in has a drastic effect on your identity. What happens when others in your native culture make you feel like you don't belong and the host culture makes it very clear that you are also different? Where does that leave you?
#therapy
The culture you grow up in has a drastic effect on your identity. What happens when others in your native culture make you feel like you don't belong and the host culture makes it very clear that you are also different? Where does that leave you?
#therapy
Things l've earned through therapy:
Being able to ask for help without feeling selfish or ashamed. It’s okay to have needs. It’s okay to not have to take on every task on your own.
#mentalhealth #trauma #anxiety #cptsd #therapy #coping #healingoutloud #healing #growth
Being able to ask for help without feeling selfish or ashamed. It’s okay to have needs. It’s okay to not have to take on every task on your own.
#mentalhealth #trauma #anxiety #cptsd #therapy #coping #healingoutloud #healing #growth
December 22, 2024 at 12:31 PM
Things l've earned through therapy:
Being able to ask for help without feeling selfish or ashamed. It’s okay to have needs. It’s okay to not have to take on every task on your own.
#mentalhealth #trauma #anxiety #cptsd #therapy #coping #healingoutloud #healing #growth
Being able to ask for help without feeling selfish or ashamed. It’s okay to have needs. It’s okay to not have to take on every task on your own.
#mentalhealth #trauma #anxiety #cptsd #therapy #coping #healingoutloud #healing #growth
Things my therapist has said:
You're not obligated to have a relationship with anyone. Just because you have history with them doesn't mean you have to continue giving them your time.
#therapy #mentalhealth #cptsd #anxiety #relationships #healingoutloud #healing
You're not obligated to have a relationship with anyone. Just because you have history with them doesn't mean you have to continue giving them your time.
#therapy #mentalhealth #cptsd #anxiety #relationships #healingoutloud #healing
December 20, 2024 at 3:41 AM
Things my therapist has said:
You're not obligated to have a relationship with anyone. Just because you have history with them doesn't mean you have to continue giving them your time.
#therapy #mentalhealth #cptsd #anxiety #relationships #healingoutloud #healing
You're not obligated to have a relationship with anyone. Just because you have history with them doesn't mean you have to continue giving them your time.
#therapy #mentalhealth #cptsd #anxiety #relationships #healingoutloud #healing
(1/2) Things l've earned from therapy:
Developing and believing an internal voice that that gives me positive reinforcement on whatever I'm struggling with at the moment.
I've had imposter syndrome my ENTIRE life, in every aspect of my life.
#therapy #cptsd #anxiety #selfdoubt #impostersyndrome
Developing and believing an internal voice that that gives me positive reinforcement on whatever I'm struggling with at the moment.
I've had imposter syndrome my ENTIRE life, in every aspect of my life.
#therapy #cptsd #anxiety #selfdoubt #impostersyndrome
December 18, 2024 at 3:04 AM
(1/2) Things l've earned from therapy:
Developing and believing an internal voice that that gives me positive reinforcement on whatever I'm struggling with at the moment.
I've had imposter syndrome my ENTIRE life, in every aspect of my life.
#therapy #cptsd #anxiety #selfdoubt #impostersyndrome
Developing and believing an internal voice that that gives me positive reinforcement on whatever I'm struggling with at the moment.
I've had imposter syndrome my ENTIRE life, in every aspect of my life.
#therapy #cptsd #anxiety #selfdoubt #impostersyndrome
(1/2) Things I'm processing in therapy:
Gratitude shaming-the use of gratitude to shut down negative emotions. It can sound like
"other people have it worse" or "you should be grateful". While those statements may be true, it does/should not negate your emotions.
#cptsd #therapy #trauma #healing
Gratitude shaming-the use of gratitude to shut down negative emotions. It can sound like
"other people have it worse" or "you should be grateful". While those statements may be true, it does/should not negate your emotions.
#cptsd #therapy #trauma #healing
December 15, 2024 at 8:08 PM
(1/3) Things I'm reaffirming in therapy:
Words have consequences. What you say during anger will leave a lasting impact, even after you apologize. Consequences of those words may not be immediate and can show up later in life.
#therapy #cptsd #communication #trauma #healing
Words have consequences. What you say during anger will leave a lasting impact, even after you apologize. Consequences of those words may not be immediate and can show up later in life.
#therapy #cptsd #communication #trauma #healing
December 13, 2024 at 4:35 PM
(1/3) Things I'm reaffirming in therapy:
Words have consequences. What you say during anger will leave a lasting impact, even after you apologize. Consequences of those words may not be immediate and can show up later in life.
#therapy #cptsd #communication #trauma #healing
Words have consequences. What you say during anger will leave a lasting impact, even after you apologize. Consequences of those words may not be immediate and can show up later in life.
#therapy #cptsd #communication #trauma #healing
(1/3) Things I'm reaffirming in therapy:
Words have power. How you say things are crucial for expression. It can be the difference between resolution or rejection.
#communication #therapy #conflict #conflictresolution #mentalhealth #healingoutloud #cptsd #anxiety
Words have power. How you say things are crucial for expression. It can be the difference between resolution or rejection.
#communication #therapy #conflict #conflictresolution #mentalhealth #healingoutloud #cptsd #anxiety
December 12, 2024 at 1:54 AM
(1/3) Things I'm reaffirming in therapy:
Words have power. How you say things are crucial for expression. It can be the difference between resolution or rejection.
#communication #therapy #conflict #conflictresolution #mentalhealth #healingoutloud #cptsd #anxiety
Words have power. How you say things are crucial for expression. It can be the difference between resolution or rejection.
#communication #therapy #conflict #conflictresolution #mentalhealth #healingoutloud #cptsd #anxiety
(1/3) Things I’ve learned with therapy:
It’s not uncommon for people who experience trauma to have fragmented memories. The brain can block out or not ‘store’ the explicit memory but will store some of it implicitly. What is explicit and implicit memory?
#mentalhealth #trauma #cptsd #therapy
It’s not uncommon for people who experience trauma to have fragmented memories. The brain can block out or not ‘store’ the explicit memory but will store some of it implicitly. What is explicit and implicit memory?
#mentalhealth #trauma #cptsd #therapy
December 10, 2024 at 3:48 AM
(1/3) Things I’ve learned with therapy:
It’s not uncommon for people who experience trauma to have fragmented memories. The brain can block out or not ‘store’ the explicit memory but will store some of it implicitly. What is explicit and implicit memory?
#mentalhealth #trauma #cptsd #therapy
It’s not uncommon for people who experience trauma to have fragmented memories. The brain can block out or not ‘store’ the explicit memory but will store some of it implicitly. What is explicit and implicit memory?
#mentalhealth #trauma #cptsd #therapy
Things my therapist has told me:
“You are one of the most well informed clients I’ve ever had who can’t seem to apply the knowledge to himself.”
Turns out, you can’t just think your way out of your trauma, you have to feel things too!
#mentalhealth #therapy #trauma #cptsd #anxiety
“You are one of the most well informed clients I’ve ever had who can’t seem to apply the knowledge to himself.”
Turns out, you can’t just think your way out of your trauma, you have to feel things too!
#mentalhealth #therapy #trauma #cptsd #anxiety
December 7, 2024 at 3:12 AM
Things my therapist has told me:
“You are one of the most well informed clients I’ve ever had who can’t seem to apply the knowledge to himself.”
Turns out, you can’t just think your way out of your trauma, you have to feel things too!
#mentalhealth #therapy #trauma #cptsd #anxiety
“You are one of the most well informed clients I’ve ever had who can’t seem to apply the knowledge to himself.”
Turns out, you can’t just think your way out of your trauma, you have to feel things too!
#mentalhealth #therapy #trauma #cptsd #anxiety
Things I’ve learned in therapy:
“Boundaries are tools to keep people close, not keep them out. They’re guides for having a good relationship with you. You’re not forcing them to change, you’re just letting them know how you’ll react.”
#mentalhealth #relationships #communication #cptsd #boundaries
“Boundaries are tools to keep people close, not keep them out. They’re guides for having a good relationship with you. You’re not forcing them to change, you’re just letting them know how you’ll react.”
#mentalhealth #relationships #communication #cptsd #boundaries
December 5, 2024 at 5:54 AM
Things I’ve learned in therapy:
“Boundaries are tools to keep people close, not keep them out. They’re guides for having a good relationship with you. You’re not forcing them to change, you’re just letting them know how you’ll react.”
#mentalhealth #relationships #communication #cptsd #boundaries
“Boundaries are tools to keep people close, not keep them out. They’re guides for having a good relationship with you. You’re not forcing them to change, you’re just letting them know how you’ll react.”
#mentalhealth #relationships #communication #cptsd #boundaries
Things I’ve learned from therapy:
“Whether you think you’ve processed your trauma or not, it is not uncommon for major life transitions to trigger them again.”
#therapy #cptsd #parenthood #trauma #life #mentalhealth
“Whether you think you’ve processed your trauma or not, it is not uncommon for major life transitions to trigger them again.”
#therapy #cptsd #parenthood #trauma #life #mentalhealth
December 3, 2024 at 4:04 AM
Things I’ve learned from therapy:
“Whether you think you’ve processed your trauma or not, it is not uncommon for major life transitions to trigger them again.”
#therapy #cptsd #parenthood #trauma #life #mentalhealth
“Whether you think you’ve processed your trauma or not, it is not uncommon for major life transitions to trigger them again.”
#therapy #cptsd #parenthood #trauma #life #mentalhealth
Things my therapist has said:
“You can craft the perfect message to express how someone’s behavior makes you feel but if they haven’t healed their own trauma, they may never understand what you’re saying.”
#therapy #healing #cptsd #boundaries #communication
“You can craft the perfect message to express how someone’s behavior makes you feel but if they haven’t healed their own trauma, they may never understand what you’re saying.”
#therapy #healing #cptsd #boundaries #communication
November 30, 2024 at 3:30 PM
Things my therapist has said:
“You can craft the perfect message to express how someone’s behavior makes you feel but if they haven’t healed their own trauma, they may never understand what you’re saying.”
#therapy #healing #cptsd #boundaries #communication
“You can craft the perfect message to express how someone’s behavior makes you feel but if they haven’t healed their own trauma, they may never understand what you’re saying.”
#therapy #healing #cptsd #boundaries #communication