The wrong ones can no longer seduce you, no matter how much they offer.

Healing is when you finally become harder to fool and easier to love (say that again for me pls, I want you to believe it).

When you choose diff, you heal backwards. You free every younger version of you. This is the part no one talks about. Maturity isn’t about getting what you want. It’s about becoming someone who would never want what once broke you.

Every time you accept less, you’re not just hurting your future. You’re quietly informing your subconscious what to expect, tolerate & what to call “love.”

Let your next choices be the quiet revolution inside you. Your commitment to being loved RIGHT.

Choosing in starvation leads you to these mistakes. Watering dead gardens bc you believe love is proven by suffering.

The ones you entertain, date, daydream about, are reflections of the criteria you secretly believe you deserve.

We think we’re choosing a person. But we’re choosing how much self sacrifice we’re willing to normalise. The standards we’re willing to keep or to betray.

The heart gets hungry, yes.
But it doesn’t hunger for possession. It hungers for recognition.

When they don’t choose you, it feels like a rejection. It shows you where you outsourced your worth. The first betrayal is never when they abandon you… it’s when you abandon yourself to keep them.

When we’re dehydrated, we’re confused. We don’t ask: Will this love leave me softer… or harder?
Bc the truth is, every relationship teaches you something but not every relationship leaves you more yourself.

Most of us aren’t taught this though. We’re taught to choose based on attraction, chemistry, validation. But ppl aren’t just mirrors; they’re architects of your unconscious narratives.

❤️❤️

And not everyone is willing to wade through the waters they once admired from the shore.

So don’t shrink. Don’t dilute yourself to fit their comfort. Let those who can swim, swim. And those who can’t let them watch.

They’ll admire your strength until it reminds them of their weakness.

Some ppl love the idea of you, the version that inspires, entertains, or makes them feel good. But the truth is, depth isn’t always comfortable. It requires presence, reflection, & effort.