If we appease them, those same people will tell us that we should be standing up to Trump instead. This is a case of no matter what the current government does, it will be the wrong thing

This is exactly right. And the pressure for overweight people to be nice and pleasant is enormous. Growing up I learned that very early. Being fat and jolly, weight can be overlooked. But when someone is fat and unliked, their fatness is weaponized as a huge moral failing.