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Some wins never make it to a camera roll.
They just live in your body as “I finally did that thing I’ve been avoiding.”
If today’s victory was soap, clean clothes, or three bites of real food, it still counts.
More than you think.
They just live in your body as “I finally did that thing I’ve been avoiding.”
If today’s victory was soap, clean clothes, or three bites of real food, it still counts.
More than you think.
February 5, 2026 at 2:57 PM
Some wins never make it to a camera roll.
They just live in your body as “I finally did that thing I’ve been avoiding.”
If today’s victory was soap, clean clothes, or three bites of real food, it still counts.
More than you think.
They just live in your body as “I finally did that thing I’ve been avoiding.”
If today’s victory was soap, clean clothes, or three bites of real food, it still counts.
More than you think.
The apps will always show us the moment after the mess: the pose, the ring, the keys, the promotion post. What you don’t see is the laundry, the anxiety, the loneliness sitting just off-camera.
You’re not behind. You’re just comparing your whole story to someone else’s best sentence.
You’re not behind. You’re just comparing your whole story to someone else’s best sentence.
February 5, 2026 at 2:54 PM
The apps will always show us the moment after the mess: the pose, the ring, the keys, the promotion post. What you don’t see is the laundry, the anxiety, the loneliness sitting just off-camera.
You’re not behind. You’re just comparing your whole story to someone else’s best sentence.
You’re not behind. You’re just comparing your whole story to someone else’s best sentence.
We beat ourselves up for not “keeping up,” like it’s a moral failure instead of a nervous system screaming for mercy.
No one taught us that exhaustion can be evidence of effort, not laziness.
No one taught us that exhaustion can be evidence of effort, not laziness.
February 3, 2026 at 1:34 PM
We beat ourselves up for not “keeping up,” like it’s a moral failure instead of a nervous system screaming for mercy.
No one taught us that exhaustion can be evidence of effort, not laziness.
No one taught us that exhaustion can be evidence of effort, not laziness.
The nightly audit never counts the panic you hid, the grief you swallowed, the effort it took to appear “fine.”
It only tallies what made it onto a list and then calls you lazy.
It only tallies what made it onto a list and then calls you lazy.
February 2, 2026 at 1:51 PM
The nightly audit never counts the panic you hid, the grief you swallowed, the effort it took to appear “fine.”
It only tallies what made it onto a list and then calls you lazy.
It only tallies what made it onto a list and then calls you lazy.
Most of us aren’t breaking in private because we’re fragile.
We’re breaking in private because that’s the only place we’re allowed to.
We’re breaking in private because that’s the only place we’re allowed to.
January 28, 2026 at 5:21 PM
Most of us aren’t breaking in private because we’re fragile.
We’re breaking in private because that’s the only place we’re allowed to.
We’re breaking in private because that’s the only place we’re allowed to.
No dashboard will ever show what it took for you to still be here.
January 27, 2026 at 4:36 PM
No dashboard will ever show what it took for you to still be here.
They see reliability.
You feel exhaustion.
Two stories being told about the same body, and only one of them has to live with the side effects.
You feel exhaustion.
Two stories being told about the same body, and only one of them has to live with the side effects.
January 26, 2026 at 11:58 AM
They see reliability.
You feel exhaustion.
Two stories being told about the same body, and only one of them has to live with the side effects.
You feel exhaustion.
Two stories being told about the same body, and only one of them has to live with the side effects.
That tug-of-war isn’t a flaw in you.
It’s the part that still believes in “more,” arguing with the part that had to figure out how to stay safe.
No wonder it’s hard to know which way to lean.
It’s the part that still believes in “more,” arguing with the part that had to figure out how to stay safe.
No wonder it’s hard to know which way to lean.
January 26, 2026 at 11:55 AM
That tug-of-war isn’t a flaw in you.
It’s the part that still believes in “more,” arguing with the part that had to figure out how to stay safe.
No wonder it’s hard to know which way to lean.
It’s the part that still believes in “more,” arguing with the part that had to figure out how to stay safe.
No wonder it’s hard to know which way to lean.
Sometimes the hardest things to imagine having are the things we should have had all along.
January 22, 2026 at 3:30 PM
Sometimes the hardest things to imagine having are the things we should have had all along.
Some of us were taught that wanting comes with homework.
Proof. Projections. Risk assessment.
The desire itself never gets questioned, just our right to have it.
Proof. Projections. Risk assessment.
The desire itself never gets questioned, just our right to have it.
January 21, 2026 at 1:19 PM
Some of us were taught that wanting comes with homework.
Proof. Projections. Risk assessment.
The desire itself never gets questioned, just our right to have it.
Proof. Projections. Risk assessment.
The desire itself never gets questioned, just our right to have it.
When your baseline has been stress, peace starts to look extravagant.
January 20, 2026 at 1:36 PM
When your baseline has been stress, peace starts to look extravagant.
So many of us learned that desire had consequences.
That wanting meant overreaching, being selfish, asking for too much.
The wanting is genuine. But the shame was learned.
That wanting meant overreaching, being selfish, asking for too much.
The wanting is genuine. But the shame was learned.
January 19, 2026 at 1:16 PM
So many of us learned that desire had consequences.
That wanting meant overreaching, being selfish, asking for too much.
The wanting is genuine. But the shame was learned.
That wanting meant overreaching, being selfish, asking for too much.
The wanting is genuine. But the shame was learned.
Invisible effort still drains your real battery.
January 16, 2026 at 9:35 PM
Invisible effort still drains your real battery.
You can sleep and still wake up exhausted.
Because rest doesn’t always reach the places that hurt.
The body remembers what the calendar ignores.
Because rest doesn’t always reach the places that hurt.
The body remembers what the calendar ignores.
January 15, 2026 at 2:24 PM
You can sleep and still wake up exhausted.
Because rest doesn’t always reach the places that hurt.
The body remembers what the calendar ignores.
Because rest doesn’t always reach the places that hurt.
The body remembers what the calendar ignores.
Not everything that drains you leaves a visible mark.
Some days the work is just holding yourself together long enough to do one thing.
Some days the work is just holding yourself together long enough to do one thing.
January 14, 2026 at 12:49 PM
Not everything that drains you leaves a visible mark.
Some days the work is just holding yourself together long enough to do one thing.
Some days the work is just holding yourself together long enough to do one thing.
Being “reliable” is often just survival with better optics.
It keeps you useful, distracted, needed.
But sometimes it comes from fear of what shows up when everything finally slows down, and staying busy feels like the only way to keep it contained.
It keeps you useful, distracted, needed.
But sometimes it comes from fear of what shows up when everything finally slows down, and staying busy feels like the only way to keep it contained.
January 13, 2026 at 1:41 PM
Being “reliable” is often just survival with better optics.
It keeps you useful, distracted, needed.
But sometimes it comes from fear of what shows up when everything finally slows down, and staying busy feels like the only way to keep it contained.
It keeps you useful, distracted, needed.
But sometimes it comes from fear of what shows up when everything finally slows down, and staying busy feels like the only way to keep it contained.
Exhaustion doesn’t always come from what you did today.
Sometimes it’s the backlog your body has been carrying for years.
So it’s no wonder you’re tired before the day even begins.
Sometimes it’s the backlog your body has been carrying for years.
So it’s no wonder you’re tired before the day even begins.
January 12, 2026 at 1:29 PM
Exhaustion doesn’t always come from what you did today.
Sometimes it’s the backlog your body has been carrying for years.
So it’s no wonder you’re tired before the day even begins.
Sometimes it’s the backlog your body has been carrying for years.
So it’s no wonder you’re tired before the day even begins.
Not every pause needs to be explained or justified.
Sometimes the body just needs time to arrive before the mind decides anything.
Hovering is still a form of being present.
Sometimes the body just needs time to arrive before the mind decides anything.
Hovering is still a form of being present.
January 9, 2026 at 1:30 PM
Not every pause needs to be explained or justified.
Sometimes the body just needs time to arrive before the mind decides anything.
Hovering is still a form of being present.
Sometimes the body just needs time to arrive before the mind decides anything.
Hovering is still a form of being present.
Growth talk hits different when you’re still tending wounds.
I’m not avoiding change…I’m just respecting the cost of the last year.
Care comes before momentum.
I’m not avoiding change…I’m just respecting the cost of the last year.
Care comes before momentum.
January 7, 2026 at 1:11 PM
Growth talk hits different when you’re still tending wounds.
I’m not avoiding change…I’m just respecting the cost of the last year.
Care comes before momentum.
I’m not avoiding change…I’m just respecting the cost of the last year.
Care comes before momentum.
I’m not stuck because I don’t care.
I’m stuck because I care too much to pretend certainty.
I’m stuck because I care too much to pretend certainty.
January 7, 2026 at 1:56 AM
I’m not stuck because I don’t care.
I’m stuck because I care too much to pretend certainty.
I’m stuck because I care too much to pretend certainty.
Starting over is a myth some of us were never offered.
Most of the time it’s just continuation with a different date.
And continuing takes its own kind of strength.
Most of the time it’s just continuation with a different date.
And continuing takes its own kind of strength.
January 7, 2026 at 1:54 AM
Starting over is a myth some of us were never offered.
Most of the time it’s just continuation with a different date.
And continuing takes its own kind of strength.
Most of the time it’s just continuation with a different date.
And continuing takes its own kind of strength.
Yearly recaps always assume there was a version worth replaying.
But some years are better treated like drafts you don’t reopen.
“I made it” is the only metric that matters right now.
But some years are better treated like drafts you don’t reopen.
“I made it” is the only metric that matters right now.
December 31, 2025 at 1:39 PM
Yearly recaps always assume there was a version worth replaying.
But some years are better treated like drafts you don’t reopen.
“I made it” is the only metric that matters right now.
But some years are better treated like drafts you don’t reopen.
“I made it” is the only metric that matters right now.
After is when everything you postponed comes due.
The feelings, the fatigue, the weight you couldn’t afford to feel yet.
No wonder it hits all at once.
The feelings, the fatigue, the weight you couldn’t afford to feel yet.
No wonder it hits all at once.
December 30, 2025 at 1:21 PM
After is when everything you postponed comes due.
The feelings, the fatigue, the weight you couldn’t afford to feel yet.
No wonder it hits all at once.
The feelings, the fatigue, the weight you couldn’t afford to feel yet.
No wonder it hits all at once.
Survival doesn’t always come with fireworks.
It usually just comes with another morning.
So if all you see is more road, pace yourself by the breath, not the calendar.
It usually just comes with another morning.
So if all you see is more road, pace yourself by the breath, not the calendar.
December 29, 2025 at 2:05 PM
Survival doesn’t always come with fireworks.
It usually just comes with another morning.
So if all you see is more road, pace yourself by the breath, not the calendar.
It usually just comes with another morning.
So if all you see is more road, pace yourself by the breath, not the calendar.
There’s a difference between choosing strength and being cornered into it.
Sure from the outside, those two things look identical.
That time in the fire, the moments that built that resilience…we’d give them back in a heartbeat if it meant never needing to survive them at all.
Sure from the outside, those two things look identical.
That time in the fire, the moments that built that resilience…we’d give them back in a heartbeat if it meant never needing to survive them at all.
December 15, 2025 at 4:42 PM
There’s a difference between choosing strength and being cornered into it.
Sure from the outside, those two things look identical.
That time in the fire, the moments that built that resilience…we’d give them back in a heartbeat if it meant never needing to survive them at all.
Sure from the outside, those two things look identical.
That time in the fire, the moments that built that resilience…we’d give them back in a heartbeat if it meant never needing to survive them at all.