Yolanda Renteria
@yolandarenteria.bsky.social
♥️ Breaking Cycles
🛋️ Therapist, Speaker
👩🏻💻 1:1 sessions in Arizona 🏜️
🧘 Somatic Coach
📧 yolandarenterialpc@gmail.com
🛋️ Therapist, Speaker
👩🏻💻 1:1 sessions in Arizona 🏜️
🧘 Somatic Coach
📧 yolandarenterialpc@gmail.com
When you see adults throwing tantrums, it’s a clear sign of someone who hasn’t had their emotional needs met.
They’ve learned that the only way they can protect themselves or get their needs met is through complaining, blaming, defensiveness, or agression.
They’ve learned that the only way they can protect themselves or get their needs met is through complaining, blaming, defensiveness, or agression.
June 4, 2025 at 1:04 AM
When you see adults throwing tantrums, it’s a clear sign of someone who hasn’t had their emotional needs met.
They’ve learned that the only way they can protect themselves or get their needs met is through complaining, blaming, defensiveness, or agression.
They’ve learned that the only way they can protect themselves or get their needs met is through complaining, blaming, defensiveness, or agression.
Who out there has intense anxiety of being perceived, a strong inner critic, yet they push themselves to do things outside their comfort zone due to an automatic internal push?
May 31, 2025 at 8:21 AM
Who out there has intense anxiety of being perceived, a strong inner critic, yet they push themselves to do things outside their comfort zone due to an automatic internal push?
If your partner has unresolved childhood trauma, how are they repeating unhealthy patterns with you?
May 14, 2025 at 2:11 AM
If your partner has unresolved childhood trauma, how are they repeating unhealthy patterns with you?
Grieving the loss of someone who is still alive is hard.
Spending your life waiting for someone to change so you can finally have the relationship with them you’ve always wanted is even harder.
Spending your life waiting for someone to change so you can finally have the relationship with them you’ve always wanted is even harder.
April 26, 2025 at 10:51 PM
Grieving the loss of someone who is still alive is hard.
Spending your life waiting for someone to change so you can finally have the relationship with them you’ve always wanted is even harder.
Spending your life waiting for someone to change so you can finally have the relationship with them you’ve always wanted is even harder.
There’s a Mexican movie called “Loving you hurts” and I believe it captures perfectly how many adult children feel about one or both of their parents.
April 20, 2025 at 5:27 AM
There’s a Mexican movie called “Loving you hurts” and I believe it captures perfectly how many adult children feel about one or both of their parents.
“Loving you hurts” is the name of a Mexican movie and I believe it captures perfectly how many adult children feel about one or both of their parents.
April 20, 2025 at 5:23 AM
“Loving you hurts” is the name of a Mexican movie and I believe it captures perfectly how many adult children feel about one or both of their parents.
Most times the wound of not feeling loved has very little to do with actually being loved in your adult relationships, and more to do with never learning what it meant to be loved in childhood.
April 1, 2025 at 10:48 PM
Most times the wound of not feeling loved has very little to do with actually being loved in your adult relationships, and more to do with never learning what it meant to be loved in childhood.
It’s sad how many parents miss out on the opportunity to have a beautiful relationship with their adult children because they’re too afraid of being disrespected.
Respect is born out of boundaries and love.
Fear is born out of commands and expected obedience.
Respect is born out of boundaries and love.
Fear is born out of commands and expected obedience.
March 31, 2025 at 6:46 PM
It’s sad how many parents miss out on the opportunity to have a beautiful relationship with their adult children because they’re too afraid of being disrespected.
Respect is born out of boundaries and love.
Fear is born out of commands and expected obedience.
Respect is born out of boundaries and love.
Fear is born out of commands and expected obedience.
Notes from a Therapist on Attending Therapy:
1) You are not disappointing me if you are not ready to change.
There’s a lot of growth that happens from the beginning of your journey until big patterns are broken. I celebrate every small win. Your growth isn’t dependent on the end result.
1) You are not disappointing me if you are not ready to change.
There’s a lot of growth that happens from the beginning of your journey until big patterns are broken. I celebrate every small win. Your growth isn’t dependent on the end result.
March 29, 2025 at 10:38 PM
Notes from a Therapist on Attending Therapy:
1) You are not disappointing me if you are not ready to change.
There’s a lot of growth that happens from the beginning of your journey until big patterns are broken. I celebrate every small win. Your growth isn’t dependent on the end result.
1) You are not disappointing me if you are not ready to change.
There’s a lot of growth that happens from the beginning of your journey until big patterns are broken. I celebrate every small win. Your growth isn’t dependent on the end result.
If you grew up as an independent kid, you likely need some softness and play as an adult.
Lean in to it.
Unlearn the pattern that life is about fixing issues and being strong.
Lean in to it.
Unlearn the pattern that life is about fixing issues and being strong.
March 27, 2025 at 2:22 PM
If you grew up as an independent kid, you likely need some softness and play as an adult.
Lean in to it.
Unlearn the pattern that life is about fixing issues and being strong.
Lean in to it.
Unlearn the pattern that life is about fixing issues and being strong.
Expect to fail.
Expect to get things wrong.
Expect things to be messy.
I'm not sure why we still believe that learning a new skill or doing anything for the first time should start with perfection.
The expectation that things should be perfect keeps us from ever trying or giving up the first time.
Expect to get things wrong.
Expect things to be messy.
I'm not sure why we still believe that learning a new skill or doing anything for the first time should start with perfection.
The expectation that things should be perfect keeps us from ever trying or giving up the first time.
March 27, 2025 at 12:15 PM
Expect to fail.
Expect to get things wrong.
Expect things to be messy.
I'm not sure why we still believe that learning a new skill or doing anything for the first time should start with perfection.
The expectation that things should be perfect keeps us from ever trying or giving up the first time.
Expect to get things wrong.
Expect things to be messy.
I'm not sure why we still believe that learning a new skill or doing anything for the first time should start with perfection.
The expectation that things should be perfect keeps us from ever trying or giving up the first time.
Those of us who were independent kids, surely need some softness as adults.
I see you.
I see you.
March 24, 2025 at 3:34 AM
Those of us who were independent kids, surely need some softness as adults.
I see you.
I see you.
Just a reminder that the only people who think empathy is a weakness are narcissists.
March 5, 2025 at 11:40 PM
Just a reminder that the only people who think empathy is a weakness are narcissists.
Insomnia for many people is a result of not having a wake/sleep routine established since you were a kid.
As silly as it may sound, building a sleep routine requires that you send yourself to bed the way you would do with a child. Re-parent yourself! You can have some fun with it as you do.
As silly as it may sound, building a sleep routine requires that you send yourself to bed the way you would do with a child. Re-parent yourself! You can have some fun with it as you do.
March 4, 2025 at 11:56 AM
Insomnia for many people is a result of not having a wake/sleep routine established since you were a kid.
As silly as it may sound, building a sleep routine requires that you send yourself to bed the way you would do with a child. Re-parent yourself! You can have some fun with it as you do.
As silly as it may sound, building a sleep routine requires that you send yourself to bed the way you would do with a child. Re-parent yourself! You can have some fun with it as you do.
I learned patience by practicing staying with the discomfort and exercising self-restraint.
I learned confidence by being more accepting of what I couldn’t change and giving more effort to the things I could.
I learned boundaries by understanding my needs and improving my communication.
I learned confidence by being more accepting of what I couldn’t change and giving more effort to the things I could.
I learned boundaries by understanding my needs and improving my communication.
February 27, 2025 at 4:49 AM
I learned patience by practicing staying with the discomfort and exercising self-restraint.
I learned confidence by being more accepting of what I couldn’t change and giving more effort to the things I could.
I learned boundaries by understanding my needs and improving my communication.
I learned confidence by being more accepting of what I couldn’t change and giving more effort to the things I could.
I learned boundaries by understanding my needs and improving my communication.
I hope you understand the goal isn’t for you to achieve perfection.
Perfection is often the ruler which with you measure your progress and it is impacting your ability to see your growth.
Perfection is often the ruler which with you measure your progress and it is impacting your ability to see your growth.
February 23, 2025 at 6:31 PM
I hope you understand the goal isn’t for you to achieve perfection.
Perfection is often the ruler which with you measure your progress and it is impacting your ability to see your growth.
Perfection is often the ruler which with you measure your progress and it is impacting your ability to see your growth.
If you have a “bad kid”, just know that your parenting style isn’t what they need and your kid feels completely misunderstood. Being “bad” is their way of letting you know something is misaligned.
Same thing if you were the “bad kid” growing up.
Same thing if you were the “bad kid” growing up.
February 10, 2025 at 10:58 PM
If you have a “bad kid”, just know that your parenting style isn’t what they need and your kid feels completely misunderstood. Being “bad” is their way of letting you know something is misaligned.
Same thing if you were the “bad kid” growing up.
Same thing if you were the “bad kid” growing up.
Just because an experience doesn’t feel painful, doesn’t mean it should not feel painful.
Many times we learned to normalize or minimize hurtful behaviors in relationships because it was how we adapted in order for experiences not to hurt that deep.
Many times we learned to normalize or minimize hurtful behaviors in relationships because it was how we adapted in order for experiences not to hurt that deep.
February 8, 2025 at 6:38 PM
Just because an experience doesn’t feel painful, doesn’t mean it should not feel painful.
Many times we learned to normalize or minimize hurtful behaviors in relationships because it was how we adapted in order for experiences not to hurt that deep.
Many times we learned to normalize or minimize hurtful behaviors in relationships because it was how we adapted in order for experiences not to hurt that deep.
I low-key miss those times when we weren’t all in echo chambers being exposed only to people with similar opinions and thought our group was the most informed.
Having conversations with people who believe they know it all is exhausting and I bet they feel the same way about me.
Having conversations with people who believe they know it all is exhausting and I bet they feel the same way about me.
February 6, 2025 at 3:01 PM
I low-key miss those times when we weren’t all in echo chambers being exposed only to people with similar opinions and thought our group was the most informed.
Having conversations with people who believe they know it all is exhausting and I bet they feel the same way about me.
Having conversations with people who believe they know it all is exhausting and I bet they feel the same way about me.
“I need to speak to you” without further context will almost always make my heart skip a beat.
Just tell me what you need, please 😮💨.
Just tell me what you need, please 😮💨.
February 6, 2025 at 4:35 AM
“I need to speak to you” without further context will almost always make my heart skip a beat.
Just tell me what you need, please 😮💨.
Just tell me what you need, please 😮💨.
Childhood Wounds Impact Our Relational Ability to:
- Know what we need
- Communicate what we need
- Receive what we need
- Respond appropriately when something feels wrong
- See the experience of the other clearly without our own biases
- Know what we need
- Communicate what we need
- Receive what we need
- Respond appropriately when something feels wrong
- See the experience of the other clearly without our own biases
February 5, 2025 at 4:04 AM
Childhood Wounds Impact Our Relational Ability to:
- Know what we need
- Communicate what we need
- Receive what we need
- Respond appropriately when something feels wrong
- See the experience of the other clearly without our own biases
- Know what we need
- Communicate what we need
- Receive what we need
- Respond appropriately when something feels wrong
- See the experience of the other clearly without our own biases
I used to think people who stayed in long term marriages were willing to try the hardest; until I understood that many of them stay because they normalized unhealthy relational dynamics, and normalized the same dynamics in their marriages too.
January 29, 2025 at 2:14 PM
I used to think people who stayed in long term marriages were willing to try the hardest; until I understood that many of them stay because they normalized unhealthy relational dynamics, and normalized the same dynamics in their marriages too.
I’m a full grown adult who has done a ton of work on herself and I still feel like I’m in trouble for no reason.
Just a reminder that childhood wounds run deep.
Just a reminder that childhood wounds run deep.
January 28, 2025 at 9:44 PM
I’m a full grown adult who has done a ton of work on herself and I still feel like I’m in trouble for no reason.
Just a reminder that childhood wounds run deep.
Just a reminder that childhood wounds run deep.
I want to thank my 33 followers for being here! ♥️
I don’t post as often, but trying to navigate how to connect with people interested in mental health content.
If you are a mental health creator, comment so I can follow!
I don’t post as often, but trying to navigate how to connect with people interested in mental health content.
If you are a mental health creator, comment so I can follow!
January 26, 2025 at 2:23 AM
I want to thank my 33 followers for being here! ♥️
I don’t post as often, but trying to navigate how to connect with people interested in mental health content.
If you are a mental health creator, comment so I can follow!
I don’t post as often, but trying to navigate how to connect with people interested in mental health content.
If you are a mental health creator, comment so I can follow!
“They told you love was the answer, but they never showed you what love was”
- Author Unknown
- Author Unknown
January 23, 2025 at 1:21 AM
“They told you love was the answer, but they never showed you what love was”
- Author Unknown
- Author Unknown