New post on why resolutions fail – and how to set intentions that actually stick, using small steps your nervous system can trust.
New post on why resolutions fail – and how to set intentions that actually stick, using small steps your nervous system can trust.
When you stop doing the things you think you should do, you leave space to be who you want to be
Here's to a year of making space for who you want to be
#happynewyear #2026 #thoughtcompass
When you stop doing the things you think you should do, you leave space to be who you want to be
Here's to a year of making space for who you want to be
#happynewyear #2026 #thoughtcompass
As an old year ends and a new year starts, a chance to set an intention for the year you want to have.
Not a resolution.
Resolutions come from shame – from "I'm not enough as I am." Promises made in haste fade before the snow thaws.
As an old year ends and a new year starts, a chance to set an intention for the year you want to have.
Not a resolution.
Resolutions come from shame – from "I'm not enough as I am." Promises made in haste fade before the snow thaws.
But promises are easy. Committed action is harder.
Every journey is a series of steps – but those steps need both a starting point and a destination in mind.
But promises are easy. Committed action is harder.
Every journey is a series of steps – but those steps need both a starting point and a destination in mind.
Lessons don't have to be big or profound. Sometimes they're small and obvious. The value is in noticing them – in bringing them to consciousness.
Lessons don't have to be big or profound. Sometimes they're small and obvious. The value is in noticing them – in bringing them to consciousness.
Lessons don't have to be big or profound. Sometimes they're small and obvious. The value is in noticing them – in bringing them to consciousness.
Lessons don't have to be big or profound. Sometimes they're small and obvious. The value is in noticing them – in bringing them to consciousness.
We're wired to focus on what went wrong. It's called negativity bias – our brains evolved to scan for threats, for problems, for what needs fixing.
We're wired to focus on what went wrong. It's called negativity bias – our brains evolved to scan for threats, for problems, for what needs fixing.
When you acknowledge those wins – even the small ones – there's a warm glow. Like sitting by embers from a fire. That warmth is recognition.
When you acknowledge those wins – even the small ones – there's a warm glow. Like sitting by embers from a fire. That warmth is recognition.
Reflection isn’t wasted time. It’s not navel-gazing or dwelling on the past
It’s what gardeners do in winter – turning the soil, examining what’s there, preparing the ground for what comes next
Reflection isn’t wasted time. It’s not navel-gazing or dwelling on the past
It’s what gardeners do in winter – turning the soil, examining what’s there, preparing the ground for what comes next
What moments felt most like you?
What habits served you well?
What obstacles did you encounter?
What moments felt most like you?
What habits served you well?
What obstacles did you encounter?
All the rushing is over
Presents have been wrapped and unwrapped, dinner cooked and eaten
All the big set pieces are done
Just like a snowglobe, all the snow has settled
All the rushing is over
Presents have been wrapped and unwrapped, dinner cooked and eaten
All the big set pieces are done
Just like a snowglobe, all the snow has settled
Enjoy the day however you choose to celebrate
#midwinterthoughts #christmasday
Enjoy the day however you choose to celebrate
#midwinterthoughts #christmasday
The lists. The logistics. The rush. However you got here – stressed, prepared, winging it, barely holding on – you made it.
The lists. The logistics. The rush. However you got here – stressed, prepared, winging it, barely holding on – you made it.
Watch how softly the snowflakes land, gradually building up a blanket of silence on the rushing world.
Watch how softly the snowflakes land, gradually building up a blanket of silence on the rushing world.
Here's something I often do with clients when they're in the middle of stress: visualise the moment after.
Not during the rush—after it's settled.
Here's something I often do with clients when they're in the middle of stress: visualise the moment after.
Not during the rush—after it's settled.
The winter solstice: the day the light begins its slow return.
#midwinterthoughts #wintersolstice
The winter solstice: the day the light begins its slow return.
#midwinterthoughts #wintersolstice
Certain memories return unbidden—not as gentle nostalgia but as cold companions that stop us mid-step.
These aren't simply recollections; they're embodied experiences that still carry charge.
Certain memories return unbidden—not as gentle nostalgia but as cold companions that stop us mid-step.
These aren't simply recollections; they're embodied experiences that still carry charge.
But nature reveals a different wisdom: flowers don't all bloom at once.
There's an intelligence in taking time – allowing yourself to experience each option before committing.
But nature reveals a different wisdom: flowers don't all bloom at once.
There's an intelligence in taking time – allowing yourself to experience each option before committing.
The nervous system speaks in sensations first, words second. Listen there.
The nervous system speaks in sensations first, words second. Listen there.
We dream of transformation – a complete overhaul, the moment everything changes. We set ourselves enormous goals and then wonder why we can't seem to follow through. The mountain ahead looks insurmountable, so we never take the first step.
We dream of transformation – a complete overhaul, the moment everything changes. We set ourselves enormous goals and then wonder why we can't seem to follow through. The mountain ahead looks insurmountable, so we never take the first step.
Until it starts feeling suffocating.
Until it starts feeling suffocating.
Change the thought, shift the experience.
Change the thought, shift the experience.
Time to learn some new lines.
Time to learn some new lines.