Dr Catalina
@theintimacydoc.bsky.social
Psychologist • Pleasure Activist • Midlife Rebirther
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Dr Catalina
@theintimacydoc.bsky.social
· Nov 21
I believe in:
Real love.
Real intimacy.
Ecstatic sex.
Equality made possible with equity.
Conscious connection with ourselves, one another, and earth.
Awareness over privileged naivety.
Honesty over niceties.
Integrity defined by actions not just words.
Fun because it’s fun.
Wisdom when earned.
Real love.
Real intimacy.
Ecstatic sex.
Equality made possible with equity.
Conscious connection with ourselves, one another, and earth.
Awareness over privileged naivety.
Honesty over niceties.
Integrity defined by actions not just words.
Fun because it’s fun.
Wisdom when earned.
Most men have never felt real pleasure during play. And no, I’m not talking about 0 I’m talking about full body pleasure. Sensation. Presence. The feeling of being alive in your skin while connected to another person. For many men, play becomes a task to complete, not an experience to feel.
January 17, 2026 at 5:35 PM
Most men have never felt real pleasure during play. And no, I’m not talking about 0 I’m talking about full body pleasure. Sensation. Presence. The feeling of being alive in your skin while connected to another person. For many men, play becomes a task to complete, not an experience to feel.
Giving up makes sense. When you try over and over and keep hearing no, it can start to feel pointless. That sting of rejection builds up. You get tired. You stop reaching. You start believing that maybe it’s just not worth it. And that makes sense. Your body is protecting you from more
January 16, 2026 at 10:36 PM
Giving up makes sense. When you try over and over and keep hearing no, it can start to feel pointless. That sting of rejection builds up. You get tired. You stop reaching. You start believing that maybe it’s just not worth it. And that makes sense. Your body is protecting you from more
You’re f*cking her but you’re not there. And she knows it. Most people don’t disappear during sex because they don’t care. They disappear because they’re managing. Monitoring. Tracking outcomes. Is she close. Am I doing it right. Should I switch something. That’s not connection. That’s performance.
January 15, 2026 at 6:36 PM
You’re f*cking her but you’re not there. And she knows it. Most people don’t disappear during sex because they don’t care. They disappear because they’re managing. Monitoring. Tracking outcomes. Is she close. Am I doing it right. Should I switch something. That’s not connection. That’s performance.
Same sex for three years. She’s bored. And before you make that about her, pause. Boredom in sex is rarely about attraction. It’s about aliveness. Most long term relationships don’t lose desire because people stop caring. They lose desire because sex turns into a script. Predictable. Efficient.
January 15, 2026 at 3:36 PM
Same sex for three years. She’s bored. And before you make that about her, pause. Boredom in sex is rarely about attraction. It’s about aliveness. Most long term relationships don’t lose desire because people stop caring. They lose desire because sex turns into a script. Predictable. Efficient.
Your 🍆 said yes. Everything else said no. Think about the last time you played, or did anything, you didn’t really want. Where did you feel it? Chest tight. Gut sinking. Jaw locked. That wasn’t confusion. That was information. Your body knew before your brain caught up. This is where people
January 14, 2026 at 9:35 PM
Your 🍆 said yes. Everything else said no. Think about the last time you played, or did anything, you didn’t really want. Where did you feel it? Chest tight. Gut sinking. Jaw locked. That wasn’t confusion. That was information. Your body knew before your brain caught up. This is where people
You wanna fuck but you can’t even breathe right. That’s not shade. That’s physiology. Most people are walking around braced all day. Jaw tight. Shoulders up. Breath shallow. Your nervous system thinks it’s protecting you. And it is. From stress, pressure, uncertainty, threat. But that same
January 14, 2026 at 3:35 PM
You wanna fuck but you can’t even breathe right. That’s not shade. That’s physiology. Most people are walking around braced all day. Jaw tight. Shoulders up. Breath shallow. Your nervous system thinks it’s protecting you. And it is. From stress, pressure, uncertainty, threat. But that same
You’re f*cking but you can’t feel shit. That’s not a performance issue. That’s a sensation issue. Put your hand on your chest. Can you feel your heartbeat without pressing hard? If you have to search for it, your body is numb. And numbness doesn’t turn off just because you’re having sex. When
January 14, 2026 at 2:34 AM
You’re f*cking but you can’t feel shit. That’s not a performance issue. That’s a sensation issue. Put your hand on your chest. Can you feel your heartbeat without pressing hard? If you have to search for it, your body is numb. And numbness doesn’t turn off just because you’re having sex. When
Maybe you have a point. It’s just aimed in the wrong direction. If it feels like too much time and effort to talk about pleasure, connection, desire, or intimacy, that’s not proof it isn’t worth it. It’s proof of how little time most people have ever been invited to spend on what actually matters
January 4, 2026 at 5:36 PM
Maybe you have a point. It’s just aimed in the wrong direction. If it feels like too much time and effort to talk about pleasure, connection, desire, or intimacy, that’s not proof it isn’t worth it. It’s proof of how little time most people have ever been invited to spend on what actually matters
“When did pussy become not good enough?” Is good enough the goal? That's the real issue. Good enough is where curiosity goes to die. It’s where sexual scripts get stale. It’s where relationships plateau. Not because anything is wrong, but because we’ve been taught to stop exploring once something
January 4, 2026 at 6:37 AM
“When did pussy become not good enough?” Is good enough the goal? That's the real issue. Good enough is where curiosity goes to die. It’s where sexual scripts get stale. It’s where relationships plateau. Not because anything is wrong, but because we’ve been taught to stop exploring once something
Colemam How did we get from jobs to buttholes? Easy. That’s the whole f*cking point. How you work, live, love, and fck are all connected. The same stress that keeps you braced at your desk keeps you tight in your body. Daily life sht like bills, deadlines, traffic, endless scrolling, all that keeps
October 4, 2025 at 10:35 PM
Colemam How did we get from jobs to buttholes? Easy. That’s the whole f*cking point. How you work, live, love, and fck are all connected. The same stress that keeps you braced at your desk keeps you tight in your body. Daily life sht like bills, deadlines, traffic, endless scrolling, all that keeps
Why are all the curtains closed?😎 There was a time when people walking by this building could look up and see streakers, see couples having fun, see bodies not afraid to be seen. It was wild, it was funny, it was human. Now every curtain is drawn. Every window locked down. And that shift says
October 4, 2025 at 4:38 PM
Why are all the curtains closed?😎 There was a time when people walking by this building could look up and see streakers, see couples having fun, see bodies not afraid to be seen. It was wild, it was funny, it was human. Now every curtain is drawn. Every window locked down. And that shift says
literally and metaphorically. Literally, our culture has taught us that the asshole is dirty, dangerous, untouchable. Shame and fear keep people tight and locked down. Which means most people never even consider it could be a source of deep pleasure. But the body knows. When explored with safety,
October 4, 2025 at 2:35 PM
literally and metaphorically. Literally, our culture has taught us that the asshole is dirty, dangerous, untouchable. Shame and fear keep people tight and locked down. Which means most people never even consider it could be a source of deep pleasure. But the body knows. When explored with safety,
Dunn582 Time and money of course aren't the real blocks to pleasure. Yes, they matter. And yes, they impact how resourced you feel. But the bigger truth is that pleasure requires presence, not hours on a clock or dollars in a bank account. Pleasure doesn’t always need extra time. Pleasure lives in
October 4, 2025 at 2:35 AM
Dunn582 Time and money of course aren't the real blocks to pleasure. Yes, they matter. And yes, they impact how resourced you feel. But the bigger truth is that pleasure requires presence, not hours on a clock or dollars in a bank account. Pleasure doesn’t always need extra time. Pleasure lives in
Assholes need to get f*(
October 1, 2025 at 8:35 PM
Assholes need to get f*(
“Did it hurt somebody's feelings.” This is part of the problem fostering loneliness and division. When 100 college boys hang out the windows and scream at women walking by, that’s not harmless. That’s not funny. That’s learned behavior. That’s seggism teaching boys entitlement, teaching women to
October 1, 2025 at 5:35 PM
“Did it hurt somebody's feelings.” This is part of the problem fostering loneliness and division. When 100 college boys hang out the windows and scream at women walking by, that’s not harmless. That’s not funny. That’s learned behavior. That’s seggism teaching boys entitlement, teaching women to
If the world seems confusing and chaotic, this is by design. Over 50+ years policy after policy has been written to funnel money and power to the few. Tax breaks, deregulation, corporate loopholes, union busting. All of it stacked the system for the one percent. And as our population grew and our
October 1, 2025 at 1:35 PM
If the world seems confusing and chaotic, this is by design. Over 50+ years policy after policy has been written to funnel money and power to the few. Tax breaks, deregulation, corporate loopholes, union busting. All of it stacked the system for the one percent. And as our population grew and our
We’re bending ourselves over to f*ck ourselves in the ass and not getting any pleasure from it. That’s what happens every time we consume without thinking. In what we eat, what we buy, where we live, how we drive, how we spend. Consumption is where we lose our power. Because every purchase, every
September 30, 2025 at 6:36 PM
We’re bending ourselves over to f*ck ourselves in the ass and not getting any pleasure from it. That’s what happens every time we consume without thinking. In what we eat, what we buy, where we live, how we drive, how we spend. Consumption is where we lose our power. Because every purchase, every
We’re bending ourselves over to f*ck ourselves in the ass and not getting any pleasure from it. That’s what happens every time we consume without thinking. In what we eat, what we buy, where we live, how we drive, how we spend. Consumption is where we lose our power. Because every purchase, every
September 30, 2025 at 5:35 PM
We’re bending ourselves over to f*ck ourselves in the ass and not getting any pleasure from it. That’s what happens every time we consume without thinking. In what we eat, what we buy, where we live, how we drive, how we spend. Consumption is where we lose our power. Because every purchase, every
“I learned absolutely nothing.” Thanks for sharing! Because what you (meaning everyone who projects like this) just showed is exactly the problem. You already know how systemic and individual factors contribute to loneliness and division. You already know how this culture blocks us from pleasure.
September 30, 2025 at 2:40 PM
“I learned absolutely nothing.” Thanks for sharing! Because what you (meaning everyone who projects like this) just showed is exactly the problem. You already know how systemic and individual factors contribute to loneliness and division. You already know how this culture blocks us from pleasure.
We’re bending over to f*ck ourselves up the ass and not getting any pleasure out of it. That’s the playbook. We’ve been sold the lie that if you work hard enough, if you grind long enough, if you sacrifice enough, you’ll get the rewards. Maybe that was true for a minute, but not anymore. The people
September 30, 2025 at 1:36 AM
We’re bending over to f*ck ourselves up the ass and not getting any pleasure out of it. That’s the playbook. We’ve been sold the lie that if you work hard enough, if you grind long enough, if you sacrifice enough, you’ll get the rewards. Maybe that was true for a minute, but not anymore. The people
Stop blaming your wife for not wanting to f*ck you. If there’s no intimacy outside the bedroom, there’s not going to be pleasure inside it. Period. If you (meaning everyone in a relationship) don’t laugh together, if you don’t do fun sh*t together, if you don’t even like each other anymore, why
September 29, 2025 at 11:35 PM
Stop blaming your wife for not wanting to f*ck you. If there’s no intimacy outside the bedroom, there’s not going to be pleasure inside it. Period. If you (meaning everyone in a relationship) don’t laugh together, if you don’t do fun sh*t together, if you don’t even like each other anymore, why
This asshole behavior is why assholes don’t get f*cked. When boys in a dorm scream vile things at women walking by, it is not harmless fun. It is how segg works through culture. It teaches entitlement. It normalizes disrespect. And it blocks everyone from pleasure. Because this isn’t only about
September 28, 2025 at 8:38 PM
This asshole behavior is why assholes don’t get f*cked. When boys in a dorm scream vile things at women walking by, it is not harmless fun. It is how segg works through culture. It teaches entitlement. It normalizes disrespect. And it blocks everyone from pleasure. Because this isn’t only about
Segg Ed has failed us! Most of what we got in school was fear based, reproduction based, and shame based. Nobody taught us about consent. Nobody taught us how to figure out what we actually like. Nobody taught us that pleasure is learnable. Instead we were told the goal is intercourse, get there
September 28, 2025 at 6:35 PM
Segg Ed has failed us! Most of what we got in school was fear based, reproduction based, and shame based. Nobody taught us about consent. Nobody taught us how to figure out what we actually like. Nobody taught us that pleasure is learnable. Instead we were told the goal is intercourse, get there
Giving to get never leads to pleasure. Quid pro quo kills desire. When we keep score, when we trade touch or intimacy like a transaction, the body knows. It shuts down. Pleasure cannot grow in that kind of exchange. But reciprocity is different. Reciprocity is not about keeping track, it is about
September 27, 2025 at 5:35 PM
Giving to get never leads to pleasure. Quid pro quo kills desire. When we keep score, when we trade touch or intimacy like a transaction, the body knows. It shuts down. Pleasure cannot grow in that kind of exchange. But reciprocity is different. Reciprocity is not about keeping track, it is about