Structured Success
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ADHD Coach & Academic Strategist | Guiding ADHD, autistic, and neurodivergent clients through lived experience | they/her | #AuDHD | www.structuredsuccess.ca
Working with your neurodivergent brain isn't about finding the perfect strategy or crafting the perfect environment.
It's about making changes, one at a time, to make things a little bit easier, and being open to changing or rebuilding those when something knocks you off course
It's about making changes, one at a time, to make things a little bit easier, and being open to changing or rebuilding those when something knocks you off course
November 10, 2025 at 5:22 PM
Working with your neurodivergent brain isn't about finding the perfect strategy or crafting the perfect environment.
It's about making changes, one at a time, to make things a little bit easier, and being open to changing or rebuilding those when something knocks you off course
It's about making changes, one at a time, to make things a little bit easier, and being open to changing or rebuilding those when something knocks you off course
Where are the jobs where you start random things you're interested in, but never finish them, but also work 15 hours straight when you're feeling it, but completely skip other days, all without anyone making you feel bad for it?
I think I know a couple ADHD'ers that are exceptionally qualified
I think I know a couple ADHD'ers that are exceptionally qualified
November 9, 2025 at 8:07 PM
Where are the jobs where you start random things you're interested in, but never finish them, but also work 15 hours straight when you're feeling it, but completely skip other days, all without anyone making you feel bad for it?
I think I know a couple ADHD'ers that are exceptionally qualified
I think I know a couple ADHD'ers that are exceptionally qualified
Traits of one neurodivergent condition can look a LOT like the traits of others.
Understanding where our experiences come from takes a lot time, careful self-reflection, and, often, the help of trained professional.
It's okay if we can't figure it out in an afternoon or without support
Understanding where our experiences come from takes a lot time, careful self-reflection, and, often, the help of trained professional.
It's okay if we can't figure it out in an afternoon or without support
November 9, 2025 at 4:01 PM
Traits of one neurodivergent condition can look a LOT like the traits of others.
Understanding where our experiences come from takes a lot time, careful self-reflection, and, often, the help of trained professional.
It's okay if we can't figure it out in an afternoon or without support
Understanding where our experiences come from takes a lot time, careful self-reflection, and, often, the help of trained professional.
It's okay if we can't figure it out in an afternoon or without support
Being called high-functioning generally means being high-masking.
It's like saying we SEEM to be meeting or exceeding expectations from the outside. But it never takes into account internal strife, timely or costly accommodations, or dysfunction behind closed doors
It's like saying we SEEM to be meeting or exceeding expectations from the outside. But it never takes into account internal strife, timely or costly accommodations, or dysfunction behind closed doors
November 8, 2025 at 2:45 PM
Being called high-functioning generally means being high-masking.
It's like saying we SEEM to be meeting or exceeding expectations from the outside. But it never takes into account internal strife, timely or costly accommodations, or dysfunction behind closed doors
It's like saying we SEEM to be meeting or exceeding expectations from the outside. But it never takes into account internal strife, timely or costly accommodations, or dysfunction behind closed doors
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hey adhd glasses-havers with brain fog
yeah you
clean your fucking lenses
yeah you
clean your fucking lenses
November 8, 2025 at 1:47 AM
hey adhd glasses-havers with brain fog
yeah you
clean your fucking lenses
yeah you
clean your fucking lenses
Y'all~! I wrote long-form content. Like a proper thread and blog post and shit. I can't wait to share it with y'all :D
November 7, 2025 at 9:47 PM
Y'all~! I wrote long-form content. Like a proper thread and blog post and shit. I can't wait to share it with y'all :D
Hyperfixation and hyperfocus are similar processes, but over different time scales, with different impacts.
Hyperfocus is an enrapturing, deep focus that feels like it sucks us in, makes us lose track of time, and forget the rest of the world or even forget our own bodily needs
Hyperfocus is an enrapturing, deep focus that feels like it sucks us in, makes us lose track of time, and forget the rest of the world or even forget our own bodily needs
November 7, 2025 at 4:30 PM
Hyperfixation and hyperfocus are similar processes, but over different time scales, with different impacts.
Hyperfocus is an enrapturing, deep focus that feels like it sucks us in, makes us lose track of time, and forget the rest of the world or even forget our own bodily needs
Hyperfocus is an enrapturing, deep focus that feels like it sucks us in, makes us lose track of time, and forget the rest of the world or even forget our own bodily needs
There's a long history of the parents (and mothers in particular) being blamed for causing their kid's autism.
Autism is mostly genetic, and isn't something that parents caused
Autism is mostly genetic, and isn't something that parents caused
November 6, 2025 at 2:42 PM
There's a long history of the parents (and mothers in particular) being blamed for causing their kid's autism.
Autism is mostly genetic, and isn't something that parents caused
Autism is mostly genetic, and isn't something that parents caused
Rumination is not hyperfocus.
Rumination is getting stuck in internal thought loops focused on our own self-criticism or distress. This can be intense or all-consuming, like hyperfocus,
but hyperfocus is often led by interest, reward, or urgency, not self-doubt, fear, or recrimination
Rumination is getting stuck in internal thought loops focused on our own self-criticism or distress. This can be intense or all-consuming, like hyperfocus,
but hyperfocus is often led by interest, reward, or urgency, not self-doubt, fear, or recrimination
November 5, 2025 at 3:21 PM
Rumination is not hyperfocus.
Rumination is getting stuck in internal thought loops focused on our own self-criticism or distress. This can be intense or all-consuming, like hyperfocus,
but hyperfocus is often led by interest, reward, or urgency, not self-doubt, fear, or recrimination
Rumination is getting stuck in internal thought loops focused on our own self-criticism or distress. This can be intense or all-consuming, like hyperfocus,
but hyperfocus is often led by interest, reward, or urgency, not self-doubt, fear, or recrimination
Gotta love that ADHD feeling that you're losing interest in a hyperfixation or project and you know for a fact that you aren't going to finish it before the passion dies and it languishes in the closet of DOOOOOOMMMM for the rest of time
November 4, 2025 at 8:45 PM
Gotta love that ADHD feeling that you're losing interest in a hyperfixation or project and you know for a fact that you aren't going to finish it before the passion dies and it languishes in the closet of DOOOOOOMMMM for the rest of time
Being intellectually gifted can make it harder for others to notice, validate, or support our autistic experience.
This has particularly big implications when those people who don't see or support us are the very family members or professionals tasked with doing exactly that
This has particularly big implications when those people who don't see or support us are the very family members or professionals tasked with doing exactly that
November 4, 2025 at 3:11 PM
Being intellectually gifted can make it harder for others to notice, validate, or support our autistic experience.
This has particularly big implications when those people who don't see or support us are the very family members or professionals tasked with doing exactly that
This has particularly big implications when those people who don't see or support us are the very family members or professionals tasked with doing exactly that
Hey you. Do a self-regulation.
It doesn't have to be big or long or intense. Here's a few options:
* Box breathing (In for 4, hold for 4, out for 4, hold for 4)
* Stretch with long, deep exhales
* Find a sensory thing that's bugging you. Change it
* Brain dump what's on your mind
It doesn't have to be big or long or intense. Here's a few options:
* Box breathing (In for 4, hold for 4, out for 4, hold for 4)
* Stretch with long, deep exhales
* Find a sensory thing that's bugging you. Change it
* Brain dump what's on your mind
November 3, 2025 at 7:52 PM
Hey you. Do a self-regulation.
It doesn't have to be big or long or intense. Here's a few options:
* Box breathing (In for 4, hold for 4, out for 4, hold for 4)
* Stretch with long, deep exhales
* Find a sensory thing that's bugging you. Change it
* Brain dump what's on your mind
It doesn't have to be big or long or intense. Here's a few options:
* Box breathing (In for 4, hold for 4, out for 4, hold for 4)
* Stretch with long, deep exhales
* Find a sensory thing that's bugging you. Change it
* Brain dump what's on your mind
Being undiagnosed or misdiagnosed isn’t just an oopsie-doodle.
It delays treatment, kneecaps our self-understanding, and can even reinforce unhealthy shame cycles, self-criticism, and maladaptive coping strategies
It delays treatment, kneecaps our self-understanding, and can even reinforce unhealthy shame cycles, self-criticism, and maladaptive coping strategies
November 3, 2025 at 4:52 PM
Being undiagnosed or misdiagnosed isn’t just an oopsie-doodle.
It delays treatment, kneecaps our self-understanding, and can even reinforce unhealthy shame cycles, self-criticism, and maladaptive coping strategies
It delays treatment, kneecaps our self-understanding, and can even reinforce unhealthy shame cycles, self-criticism, and maladaptive coping strategies
I love how my brain can hyperfocus on something and it feels rewarding to do for like 8-12 hours straight...
What I don't like so much is that it takes a business week to recover afterward
What I don't like so much is that it takes a business week to recover afterward
November 3, 2025 at 3:17 PM
I love how my brain can hyperfocus on something and it feels rewarding to do for like 8-12 hours straight...
What I don't like so much is that it takes a business week to recover afterward
What I don't like so much is that it takes a business week to recover afterward
So much of oral health is a sensory nightmare.
The feeling of the brush or floss on our gums, the flavours and textures…
They can create a significant barrier to managing or improving our oral health
The feeling of the brush or floss on our gums, the flavours and textures…
They can create a significant barrier to managing or improving our oral health
November 2, 2025 at 3:04 PM
So much of oral health is a sensory nightmare.
The feeling of the brush or floss on our gums, the flavours and textures…
They can create a significant barrier to managing or improving our oral health
The feeling of the brush or floss on our gums, the flavours and textures…
They can create a significant barrier to managing or improving our oral health
I like to think about OCD is as having a sticky mind.
Doubts, worries, and thought loops get stuck and take over our attention. They refuse to get unstuck until we do something to reassure ourselves and chase away the doubt.
Unfortunately, this reinforces them, encouraging this sticky relationship
Doubts, worries, and thought loops get stuck and take over our attention. They refuse to get unstuck until we do something to reassure ourselves and chase away the doubt.
Unfortunately, this reinforces them, encouraging this sticky relationship
November 1, 2025 at 3:27 PM
I like to think about OCD is as having a sticky mind.
Doubts, worries, and thought loops get stuck and take over our attention. They refuse to get unstuck until we do something to reassure ourselves and chase away the doubt.
Unfortunately, this reinforces them, encouraging this sticky relationship
Doubts, worries, and thought loops get stuck and take over our attention. They refuse to get unstuck until we do something to reassure ourselves and chase away the doubt.
Unfortunately, this reinforces them, encouraging this sticky relationship
We don't talk about the emotional regulation challenges of ADHD nearly enough.
Between the big, fast, emotions ADHD'ers can get, the sensitivity to rejection so many of us experience, and the guilt and shame we've be programmed into for how our brain works:
It's a lot.
Between the big, fast, emotions ADHD'ers can get, the sensitivity to rejection so many of us experience, and the guilt and shame we've be programmed into for how our brain works:
It's a lot.
October 31, 2025 at 4:25 PM
We don't talk about the emotional regulation challenges of ADHD nearly enough.
Between the big, fast, emotions ADHD'ers can get, the sensitivity to rejection so many of us experience, and the guilt and shame we've be programmed into for how our brain works:
It's a lot.
Between the big, fast, emotions ADHD'ers can get, the sensitivity to rejection so many of us experience, and the guilt and shame we've be programmed into for how our brain works:
It's a lot.
I swear my phone exists in one of two states:
1) Dead because I forgot to plug it in and/or lost it again.
2) Sitting on the charger at 100% because I forgot plugged it in and don't know where it is
1) Dead because I forgot to plug it in and/or lost it again.
2) Sitting on the charger at 100% because I forgot plugged it in and don't know where it is
October 30, 2025 at 9:36 PM
I swear my phone exists in one of two states:
1) Dead because I forgot to plug it in and/or lost it again.
2) Sitting on the charger at 100% because I forgot plugged it in and don't know where it is
1) Dead because I forgot to plug it in and/or lost it again.
2) Sitting on the charger at 100% because I forgot plugged it in and don't know where it is
ADHD short-term memory problems impact everything.
Sure, I lose my keys, phone, or wallet all the time. Yes, it makes studying and memorizing harder.
But it also means I can forget who I was just talking to or even what they look like
Sure, I lose my keys, phone, or wallet all the time. Yes, it makes studying and memorizing harder.
But it also means I can forget who I was just talking to or even what they look like
October 30, 2025 at 4:31 PM
ADHD short-term memory problems impact everything.
Sure, I lose my keys, phone, or wallet all the time. Yes, it makes studying and memorizing harder.
But it also means I can forget who I was just talking to or even what they look like
Sure, I lose my keys, phone, or wallet all the time. Yes, it makes studying and memorizing harder.
But it also means I can forget who I was just talking to or even what they look like
How often is it appropriate to remind someone of an outstanding task?
I ask because my brain WILL NOT STOP reminding me of every outstanding task I have on an endless loop 😠
I ask because my brain WILL NOT STOP reminding me of every outstanding task I have on an endless loop 😠
October 29, 2025 at 9:35 PM
How often is it appropriate to remind someone of an outstanding task?
I ask because my brain WILL NOT STOP reminding me of every outstanding task I have on an endless loop 😠
I ask because my brain WILL NOT STOP reminding me of every outstanding task I have on an endless loop 😠
Labels, whether diagnoses or traits, are often a shorthand to communicate our experiences.
They cannot capture the totality or nuance of our experience, but they aren’t meant to.
They are about get other people close enough to develop partial understanding
They cannot capture the totality or nuance of our experience, but they aren’t meant to.
They are about get other people close enough to develop partial understanding
October 29, 2025 at 2:36 PM
Labels, whether diagnoses or traits, are often a shorthand to communicate our experiences.
They cannot capture the totality or nuance of our experience, but they aren’t meant to.
They are about get other people close enough to develop partial understanding
They cannot capture the totality or nuance of our experience, but they aren’t meant to.
They are about get other people close enough to develop partial understanding
Reasons are for reasonable people.
If they're unreasonable, you don't need to tell them the reason you're changing your behaviour to enforce a boundary. You don't even have to tell them that there's a boundary there.
You're allowed to just change your behaviour and move on
If they're unreasonable, you don't need to tell them the reason you're changing your behaviour to enforce a boundary. You don't even have to tell them that there's a boundary there.
You're allowed to just change your behaviour and move on
October 29, 2025 at 1:16 AM
Reasons are for reasonable people.
If they're unreasonable, you don't need to tell them the reason you're changing your behaviour to enforce a boundary. You don't even have to tell them that there's a boundary there.
You're allowed to just change your behaviour and move on
If they're unreasonable, you don't need to tell them the reason you're changing your behaviour to enforce a boundary. You don't even have to tell them that there's a boundary there.
You're allowed to just change your behaviour and move on
I think that the autistic community would happily co-sign this
Instead of trying to green cars so much why don't we just invest in trains. city trains. under ground trains. above ground trains. trains between cities. trains between countries. TRAINS
THE PEOPLE CRAVE TRAINS
THE PEOPLE CRAVE TRAINS
October 29, 2025 at 12:48 AM
I think that the autistic community would happily co-sign this
Taking the time to self-regulate can feel almost impossible with the endless demands put upon us, but it _needs_ to happen.
If we don't choose to take the break and regulate, our body will choose for us.
This can lead to headaches, shut downs, melt downs or other somatic impacts
If we don't choose to take the break and regulate, our body will choose for us.
This can lead to headaches, shut downs, melt downs or other somatic impacts
October 28, 2025 at 4:51 PM
Taking the time to self-regulate can feel almost impossible with the endless demands put upon us, but it _needs_ to happen.
If we don't choose to take the break and regulate, our body will choose for us.
This can lead to headaches, shut downs, melt downs or other somatic impacts
If we don't choose to take the break and regulate, our body will choose for us.
This can lead to headaches, shut downs, melt downs or other somatic impacts
Me: I can't. I've tried and it doesn't work for me
My ADHD coach: (*) Has anyone ever taught you how to?
Me: ...no... actually.
Them: Why don't we start there
Me: *shocked pikachu face*
My ADHD coach: (*) Has anyone ever taught you how to?
Me: ...no... actually.
Them: Why don't we start there
Me: *shocked pikachu face*
October 28, 2025 at 3:21 PM
Me: I can't. I've tried and it doesn't work for me
My ADHD coach: (*) Has anyone ever taught you how to?
Me: ...no... actually.
Them: Why don't we start there
Me: *shocked pikachu face*
My ADHD coach: (*) Has anyone ever taught you how to?
Me: ...no... actually.
Them: Why don't we start there
Me: *shocked pikachu face*